Ubudlelwane ngaphandle koxanduva

Namhlanje, ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva kwiibinibini "sinalo ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwemithwalo." Eli binzana linomdla, ndiza kuqonda oko kuthetha ntoni: ukungabikho kwezibophelelo zokukhutshwa kwelahla okanye ubudlelwane abagogo bethu bayeza kubiza igama elifutshane kodwa elinamandla?

Ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwezibophelelo - ukuthini oku kuthetha ntoni?

Njani ukuqonda intetho "ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwemfanelo"? Impendulo kumgca omnye awunakunikwa apha, kunentsingiselo eyahlukileyo yokubeka abantu abahlukeneyo kwingcamango "yobuhlobo bobukhulu".

1. Ngokomzekelo, amadoda ayesoloko eyika uxanduva lobudlelwane, kwaye ngoko ke bafuna inkululeko. Ngaphezu koko, le nkululeko iyimfuneko kubo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi, oku kuquka ubomi kunye nesondo. Ewe, ubudlelwane bungenazo izibophelelo, unokuba namaqabane amaninzi njengoko ufuna, kwaye olunye uhlangothi aluyi kuthetha nantoni na, kuba isivumelwano.
2. Kodwa ingxaki yokungakhathaleli nje kuphela isiqingatha esomeleleyo sabantu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana ayazi kakuhle imisebenzi yomntu olwalamano, ekhohliweyo ngokwabo, kwaye akumangalisi ukuba abafazi abanjalo banokufumana ukunikezelwa kobudlelwane obukhululekile. Ukongezelela, abafazi abakhululekileyo, abazimisele ngokugqibeleleyo ukwenza umsebenzi oqaqambileyo, bakholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba abanalo ixesha lokutshintshana kwintsapho. Kule meko, umqalisi wobudlelwane be-intanethi ngumfazi, kwaye akatshati ngoba akukho bani unikezelayo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba akafuni.
3. Umzekelo omdala wobudlelwane ngaphandle kwembopheleleko ngumxantathu wothando. Kukho intsapho, kwaye nokuzonwabisa kunokukho umthandi (inkosikazi), yiyiphi imbopheleleko enokuyenza?
4. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubudlelwane obungenazo izibophelelo zikhethwe ngamadoda kunye nabasetyhini. Imithwalo yoxanduva lweentsapho esele isondliwe, ifuna inkululeko encinci kunye nothando. Umnqweno wokuphumla ebomini obumkrakra uyinto engokwemvelo, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ubudlelwane obunjalo abuhlali ixesha elide - abaqhawulo-mtshato bafuna ukufudumala nokuqonda, apho ubudlelwane obungenazo iimbopheleleko azikwazi ukuba ngaphezu kwamanye amaqela.

Kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, kunokugqitywa ukuba amaqela ahlukeneyo abantu athambekele ekuthandaneni ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, kodwa bonke baqhuba injongo efanayo - inkululeko. Nangona, izazi zeengqondo zithi kaninzi ziphantsi kobudlelwane obunjalo, abantu bafihla ukungaqiniseki kwabo kunye noyiko loxanduva. Kwaye kunye nombono ophezulu wobudlelwane be-free unesivumelwano esingabhalwa phantsi, ukugcinwa kwemimiselo yamacala omabini omabini. Iingongoma eziphambili zesi sivumelwano sishedyuli esivunyelweneyo yeentlanganiso zexesha lokuzonwabisa elihle kunye nokungabikho kwezinto ezinqabileyo kwinkululeko yabalingani.

Imisebenzi yamadoda nabasetyhini kubudlelwane

Apha sithetha: ubudlelwane be-intanethi ukungabikho kwemfanelo kunye neembopheleleko kumlingane. Yaye yintoni na ukwesaba kwabamkeli bezobudlelwane ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, ziziphi iimeko ezibandezela abahlali abathandayo inkululeko? Le yimbopheleleko enikwe amadoda kunye nabasetyhini ngobuhlobo bendabuko.

Imisebenzi yamadoda kukubonelela intsapho ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhusela - ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, ngokwezemali nangokomoya. Ngokomgaqo, akukho zimbonakaliso apha, sifuna ukubona umkhuseli kumntu, kwaye uluntu lusetyenziswe ngolu hlobo kuye.

Iimbopheleleko zabasetyhini zinokuqikelelwa ngakumbi - ukuxhasa umyeni, ukungabi nokufuna okungakumbi kuye, ukuthobela, ukukwazi ukupheka kakuhle kwaye uthembeke kumlingane. Yaye nantsi yonke imimiselo efana neyobude obude, evela kubo kwaye ngokwenene ufuna ukubaleka, kuba kuvela ukuba indawo yokuhlala yabasetyhini enkonzweni yomyeni wayo. Kwaye oku kungowesifazane wesimanje - njengengqangi ebukhali. Ngoko unokuqonda abazithandayo ubudlelwane be-free, ukuba kungekhona umzuzwana. Namhlanje, ukugcinwa kwezi miselo akusisigunyaziso (ugogo ohlala kwibhentshi unako, kwaye uya kugweba, kwaye akukho mntu uya kuba), umfazi unako ukubonelela intsapho, kwaye indoda ibe ngumfazi wendlu. Ubuncinane, iMithetho yoLuntu ikhuluma ngokulingana ngokwesini, ngoko akukho sizathu esikhethekileyo sokufihla kwiimbopheleleko zobudlelwane obukhululekile.