Ukungalungi kwamadoda

Oo, abayithandi abafazi abanamandla, abayithandi iifeshini zabesifazane! Ewe, ukuba amadoda ngokwawo ayilungele okanye yintoni, abanalo iimpawu ezimbi? Kukho, kwaye kungekhona ezimbalwa! Ngoko ngoku sonke sifunda malunga nokusilela kwamadoda, kwaye mabavumele ukuba bazame ukusibonisa izikhalazo malunga neengxoxo kwifowuni, siya kuba nento yokuphendula.

Ukungalungi kwamadoda malunga nemikhwa yabo

Esinye seziphene ezibalulekileyo zamadoda sibizwa ngokuba yi-slovenliness. Umkhwa wobubi wokuphonsa iisokisi okanye, ngokubi nakakhulu, ukulibala ukutshintsha. Ukwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa kwimihla ngemihla nokungafuni ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo ngesalathisi. Ukungabikho kwengcamango yenkcubeko yentetho malunga nemithetho yokuziphatha etafileni njalo njalo, njalo njalo. Amantombazana angabiza enye imikhwa engu-1001 yintanda yabo, ebenza bacaphuke. Kodwa cinga, mhlawumbi, yonke into ayisoyikiyo, umntu unokuchazela ukunyaniseka kweminye imbeko yakhe. Kwaye ngaba sidinga a makhwenkwe ahlanjululwe kuzo zonke iindawo, ukuhlanjululwa komzimba okungcono kunokowethu? Siza kuqala ngomona kusuka kwingqondo.

Ukungalungi kwamadoda malunga nokuziphatha kwabo kuluntu

Makhe sijonge kwiimpawu eziqhelekileyo ezilandelayo ezichaphazelekayo.

1. Uthandayo ukubonisa, "uphonsa utywala," kuchaza kakhulu, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngaye, akwazi ukuba (okanye akafuni) ukuphulaphula abanye. Ngezo mpazamo, kunzima ukulwa, kodwa unako. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeke ngokwaneleyo ukuchazela umntu omthandayo ukuba akabukeka epholile, kodwa ehlekisayo. Kwaye kukuhlekisa ukuba ukwesaba phantse bonke abafana.
2. Indlela enxibelelwano yokunxibelelana, ngamanye amaxesha angenasiphelo, kwaye ayinayo ingcamango yokuthetha. Ewe, kukho abantu abanjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo akunakuncedo ukuphinda ufundise - iingcamango zendlela yokuziphatha zibekwa ebuntwaneni, ukuba oko kwakungekho nto, kunzima ukufundisa umntu omdala umntu onobuhle. Mhlawumbi uya kuzalisekisa iimfuno zakho, kodwa kungekudala kwaye kungekho nandipha. Nangona, ngokuqinisekileyo awuyiyo i-carp xa ukhetha? Awulindele ukuba uya kuthinteka nawe ngokuzayo kwaye udibanise kuyo yonke into?
3. Awukwazi ukumelana nabahlobo bakho kwaye (oh, ukuphazamiseka) akafuni ukuzikhethela oko ungathanda. Ngoko yintoni? Ewe, ndifuna ukuba abahlobo bakhe bakukholise, kwaye zakho zazingumnandi kuye. Kodwa kukho ukudibanisa kule ndawo - wonke umntu unendawo yakhe, apho unokuphazamisa khona, kwaye ukhononda kwisiqingatha, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuba uya kwaziwa ngohlobo lwabahlobo.

Iimpawu ezintle zokuziphatha zabantu

Imikhwa emibi, ukunyuswa okunyanyekayo, ezi zizinto zonke onokuzama ukuzilungisa okanye ekugqibeleni uzifumanise. Kodwa iimpawu ezimbi ezinxulumene nendalo yendoda, musa ukuziboleka ekutshintsheni - ngubani oza kuphula ubuntu - kodwa, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuthwala. Enyanisweni, amanye amantombazana akwazi ukuxhatshazwa oku, kodwa kuphela xa ukungaphumeleli kwamadoda kukhululeka kwaye kuhlawulwa ngemfanelo yabo efanayo. Ngoko ke iziphi iingxaki zamadoda ezibangela ukuba umfazi asebenze ngokukhawuleza?

1. I-Egoism, i-narcissism, ukulungele ukubeka izikhumbuzo ezihlobhileyo ngomlilo ongunaphakade kuzo zonke izitalato zesixeko. Amadoda anjalo abaqapheli ukungaphumeleli kwabo, abone ngokucacileyo iimpazamo zeqabane. Ababona nje kuphela, bahlala bethetha, kodwa thina (abangenabongiyo, ukumkani wanyamekela) ngenxa yezizathu ezithile. Abafazi beentlobo ezinjalo ngokubanzi bayazibona njengeziqhamo zabo. Hlala kunye noNarcissus onjalo ukukhathala nokuhlazisa.
2. Inzondelelo, kwaye kumntu wonke phakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 ukuya ku-100, kwiintombi zakho, kumsebenzi wakho, kwizinto ozithandayo, kuyo yonke into enikela ngayo ixesha ngaphandle kwakhe. Kulungile, ukuba zibonakalisa ngezikhathi ngezihlandlo, ngoko yonke imini ngemibuzo yokuxilongwa, kwaye ngezinye izihlandlo. Akuyiyo indlu, kodwa isebe lesikhululo samapolisa. Akumangalisi ukuba i-Othello ifuna ukushiya ngokukhawuleza.
3. Ukuhaha ngomntu awayithandayo, naye. Kucacile ukuba akusiwo wonke umntu onokunceda bakhe abathandekayo ngobomi obuhle, kodwa ukuhaha kuphazamisa yonke ipenithi, ukukhawulelana neemfuno zabasetyhini kunye nabo. Ngaphezu koko, ukukrakra kungeyikuphela kuphela ukugcina ingeniso yakho, kodwa nakwakho, uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali luyinto into efanayo.