Amadoda athetha ngokukhawuleza kweengcamango kwizenzo zabo, kodwa baqhubeka bezenza izinto ezingaqhelekanga, ngokwezimvo zethu, izenzo. Ngokomzekelo, amantombazana amaninzi kufuneka afune ukuba azibuze ukuba kutheni umntu engavumi ukuthetha? Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kubonakala kungekho sizathu, uthetha phantse yonke imihla, kwaye ke wayeka ukuphendula iifowuni kunye nemilayezo. Makhe sibone ukuba yintoni umcimbi.
Kutheni le ndoda yayeka ngokukhawuleza ukuthetha?
Izizathu apho umntu anqume ukuyeka ukudibana naye kunokuba lukhulu kakhulu, ngoko siya kuqwalasela iimeko eziqhelekileyo.
- Uyekile ukunomdla kuye . Le khetho ngokwayo iyabetha, kodwa amantombazana ayisoloko ayicinga , kuba bakholelwa ukuba umntu unokuthi ngqo ngokulahlekelwa ngumdla. Kodwa abameli abaninzi abanesini esomeleleyo bayesaba kakhulu ukukhubekisa intombazana, ngoko banqwenela ukuba bahambe ngaphandle kokuthetha. Kubonakala kubo ukuba le ndlela yokuhlukana ibonakala ibuhlungu kakhulu.
- Akukho xesha . Sivame ukucinga ukuba kutheni umntu ngokukhawuleza eyeka ukunxibelelana okanye waqala ukuphuma kunye neentetho ze-monosyllabic, sibheka ngaphandle kwesizathu ngenxa yethu. Khumbula ixesha lomsebenzi womsebenzi wakho (kakuhle, okanye ixesha ngaphambi kweeholide, xa kwakudingeka ukuba ube nexesha elifutshane kakhulu), ngaba ufuna ukuqhuba iingxoxo ezide nangabantu abasondeleyo?
- Wayedinwe ukuphikisana . Mhlawumbi, ngeendlela ezithile ukuthanda kwakho kuyafana, kodwa kwinkqubo yokunxibelelana, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho isizathu sokungavumelani. Lo mzuzwana unokuba isikhubekiso, ukuba omnye wenu (okanye zombini) akazi ukuba aziphathe njani kwimpikiswano. Ngoko, mhlawumbi, loo mntu wayeka ukuthetha ngenxa yokuba wayekhatywe ngamaxesha onke. Awukwazi ukuphazamiseka komnxibelelwano ngenxa yokukwazi ukuzilawula, kodwa ngezinye iinkaliseko kwakunzima ukukhupha.
- Awazi ukuba ungathetha njani . Ekuqaleni, ngelixa umntu ekhangelekile, unako ukuxolela umxolelwane wokuxhamla, ukukhwabanisa nokungcola okungalunganga, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha oku kuphazamisayo. Ekugqibeleni, kuza ixesha apho kungekho ziqhumane ezikwazi ukugqithisa ukungathandeki koqhagamshelwano.
- Wafumana oko wayekufunayo . Kungenzeka ukuba loo mntu wayeka ukuthetha ngenxa yokuba wayengazange unomdla kuye.
Ingxoxo yayiyinto elula yokuzilibazisa, eyayeka ukuyihlaziya xa iimeko ezilungileyo zihambe. - Unengxaki . Wonke umntu unamaxesha apho ungafuni ukubona okanye ukuva umntu. Mhlawumbi, xa eli xesha liphelile, umnxibelelwano wakho uya kubuya, okanye mhlawumbi uzimisele ukushiya zonke iziganeko kwixesha elidlulileyo.
- Akafuni ukutshisa amabhuloho . Ukuba umntu uthi akafuni ukuthetha kwakhona, ngoko ukuqhosha akuyi kumvumela ukuba akubizele. Kodwa, ukuba ushiya loo nto ingaphantsi, iingcango ziya kuhlala zivulekile, ukusuka kwimbono yesilisa, ngokuqinisekileyo.