Ngexesha elithandanayo, xa indoda "ityhayisa" ibhinqa, kuphela iimpawu ezilungileyo kunye neenjongo ezilungileyo ezibonakala kwihambo yakhe. Ewe, sithetha ngomntu othandwayo. Kodwa ke loo mntu unokuba ngumnini kunye nomlondolozi ngokuphathelele kumfazi. Kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha, lo mzekelo wendlela uziphatha ngayo.
Iimpawu zesalathisi sendoda
Nangoko ukuqonda, ukuba phambi kwakho umphathi-ndoda-akunjalo. Hayi, abantu abazifihleli ngokwabo, abazenzeli. Ngaba ngokwenene banomdla kumfazi kwaye babonise iimvakalelo zakhe ezifudumele, ezithandekayo nezomdla. Nangona kunjalo, ibhinqa kufuneka iqonde ukuba wonke umntu kwintsebenziswano yobudlelwane isoloko "ngumkhonto". Kodwa ukuba yintoni ngokwenene, indlela yokuqonda umntu ophethe i-manipulator-oku kufuneka kufundwe.
Umfazi okhunjulwayo (ogqithisiweyo) akavumi ukuva ilizwi lesibongo okanye ngaphandle kweengcebiso, okhokelwa yimvakalelo yakhe. Oku kuhle kwaye kubi. Kulungile ukuphonsa ekuzaleni kweemvakalelo kunye namava, kodwa kubi ukuba ungacingi ngemiphumo. Ngako oko, nayiphi na intombazana kufuneka ifunde ukuqonda abantu abafanelekileyo kunye nabaxanduva abasuka kwi-manipulators (nabathandi).
Iimpawu zokuxhaphaza kunye nemvakalelo yomnye umntu zifana neendlela ezininzi.
- Ukufakelwa phantsi kokuzibandakanya kokuzithemba . I-mani-trapteur ngandlela-thile (ngokuqhelekileyo ngeendlela ezifihlakeleyo) uzama ukudibanisa umfazi, umkhuthaze ngengcamango yokubaluleka kwakhe kunye nokuphakama. Emva kokulahlekelwa ingqalelo, ibhinqa liwela phantsi phantsi kwefuthe lomnye. Uvele sele engabaza, oko akufunayo, apho iingcinga zakhe zikhona, apho abantu abangaziwayo. Umfazi ngokuthe kancinci uba neengxaki zokungathandabuzeki, uyakhuseleka, kodwa akayiqondi into eyenzekayo ixesha elide. Kubalulekile ukuba indoda ibeke iimfuno zayo ngokugqithiseleyo, njengoko iba ngumvana othobelayo, ukulahlekelwa yintando yakhe. Lo mfazi ulula ukulawula, ukuphatha, ukuvuselela ukwesaba , ukusebenzisa amandla phezu kwakhe.
- Ulwaphulo olufihlakeleyo . I-mani-manipulator yamadoda ayisoloko ixhoba elivulekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi akanakuqonda ukuba ngubani ozayo kuye, kuba indoda nayiphi na umbuzo "ebunzini" iphendule ngokukhawuleza kwaye ingacacile. Ngapha koko, ngokukhawuleza indoda nomfazi bayatshintsha indawo, kwaye sele indoda ibuza imibuzo (isebenzisa iqhinga "elifanelekileyo lokukhusela"), kwaye umfazi uqala ukuziva unetyala, akayiqondi into. Ulwalamano olunjalo lufumana inqaku elibi. Kwaye amaninzi amabhinqa akwazi ukunyanzela kuwo ixesha elide.
- Imoya iyaguquka kwaye utshintsho lweemvakalelo rhoqo . Esinye isibonakaliso se-manipulator - ukuphendula ngendlela yokuziphatha apho umfazi uvakalelwa ngayo uthando olumangalisayo kuye, ngoko uva inzondo yendoda. Yonke ixesha lakhe, yonke imikhosi iya kuqonda le nto - yintoni eyiva ngayo. Kodwa abalandeli bendoda bangadlala lomdlalo ixesha elide xa bebona umphumo. Indoda iya kufunga ukuba ithembele inceba kunye nokunyaniseka kwayo kunye nexesha elifanayo. Ngaloo ndlela, umfazi, udidekile, uya kuhlala ephazamisa isikhundla sakhe sexhoba.
Umfazi uqala ukukhawuleza malunga nobudlelwane - uyayikhumbula kwabanye, abalungile kunye neengqondo, amaphupha okulungisa, okanye ugqibe ukulinda kude kube yinto yonke ishintshwe "njengangaphambili." Ngaloo ndlela, loo ntokazi, akayiqondi ukuba uyaziqhubela phambili ephoseni. Ukuba umlawuli wendoda uyanxulumanisa ubudlelwane ukususela ekuqaleni, ngoko ubomi bomfazi buya kuba lula. Yaye ungahlali kwiingcamango. Kodwa ukuthatha amanyathelo, ukuzikhusela, ukukulindela imeko oyifunayo. Kule nto kufuneka ufunde ukuqaphela umlindi wesilisa kwintsebenziswano kunye nemimiselo yayo, uhlalutye indlela ekhoyo yeziganeko.
Indlela yokukhokela indoda ene-manipulator?
Njengoko naluphi na uhlaselo olucacileyo okanye olufihlekileyo:
- Musa ukuvumela "ukungena" kwisithuba sakho somntu;
- ungalahlekelwa ukuzithiba kwaye uya kuthanda;
- ngaziva u netyala;
- Musa ukwakha izicwangciso ezongezelelweyo nale ndoda.