Ubomi abuquki neeholide kuphela, iingxaki zenzeka kumntu wonke, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuva amazwi entle axhasayo kwizizalwane kwixesha elinzima. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba bathetha kangakanani ukuba "abantu ababi," bahlala befuna inkxaso yethu ngezikhathi ezithile.
Indlela yokuxhasa indoda ethandekayo?
- Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi, ephawula utshintsho kwimvakalelo yomyeni wakhe, akacingi ngendlela yokumxhasa. Kwaye akunjalo ukungahloniphi kwamabhinqa, baninzi bethu ngokukhawuleza baqale ukukrokreza indoda enokugwenxa, ukulahlekelwa ngumzuzu wokuba kukho ezinye ezininzi izizathu zokuziphatha kwakhe okungaqhelekanga. Ngako oko, umntu makangaze enze i-scandals kwaye enze amabango ngokusekelwe kwiingcamango, kodwa ngobumnene nangenobunzima ukufumanisa oko kwenzeka ngokwenene.
- Xa konke kusekhaya kakuhle, kulula ukujamelana neengxaki zobomi. Ngoko ke, kwiimeko ezinzima indoda, njenganamhlanje, iya kunceda ikhaya lithuthuzele. Musa uvila ukuzondla ukutya okuthandayo, unikezele ukuthatha ibhola yokuphumla kunye namafutha anamnandi kunye nokusila. Unokumnika uhambo ukuya kwindawo ozithandayo okanye wenze isipho afunayo. Ngoko indoda iya kuqonda ukuba uyamkhathalela nangona kwenzeka ntoni, usondele. Ukuxhaswa kwetyala ngokuqhelekileyo kufinyelela kwi-awareness yoluntu engcono kunamazwi.
- Yiba nobuchule bokusombulula ingxaki. Umyeni wakho akakwazi ukubona indlela yokuphuma kwimeko oza kuyibona. Ngoko-ke, buza malunga nento yonke ukuthetha kwaye ucinge ngendlela onokuyiphucula ngayo imeko, mhlawumbi isiluleko sakho sobulumko esiya kunceda umyeni wakho anqobe ubunzima.
Amazwi enkxaso kumthandeki kumzuzu onzima
Omnye umnqweno wokunceda umntu, ncinane, usaludinga amagama afanelekileyo okuxhasa umhlobo wakho. Ngenxa yokuba igama elingakhathaliyo, nokuba lichazwe kwiinjongo ezilungileyo, linokuvelisa umphumo ochaseneyo.
- Amadoda ayithandi xa abafazi bekhwela ngeengcebiso zabo xa kungekho mntu abuzayo. Kuyafana novelwano. Indoda iya kuqonda oku kungekhona njengento enyanzelisayo, kodwa inceba (oko kukuthi, uyabuhlungu emehlweni akho). Yaye iya kubetha ngokukhawuleza kwiqhayiya lendoda kunye neento ezimbi. Ngaloo ndlela, awugcini nje ukuxhasa indoda yakho, kodwa kubangela ukuba unobundlobongela kuye. Ngoko ke, kumzuzwana onzima uthi "intsizana yam, inhlanhla" ayikho nayiphi na imeko. Eyona nto ithetha ukuba uyakholelwa kuye, uyazi ukuba unako ukuphatha yonke into, kuba unobulumko, unetalente, osebenzayo, ngokuqhelekileyo, yona kanye. Ungagxininisi kwimbali ecacileyo kunye neenkcukacha zeengxaki zakhe, wabuza unobtrusively, kwaye kwanele. Xa ufuna - uya kuzixelela.
- Ukuthanda umfazi - ukugxeka indoda, kumnika "iingcebiso ezingabalulekanga" ngexesha angaziceliyo. Amadoda athambekele ekucingeni ukuba anokukwazi ukusombulula yonke into ngokwabo, kubalulekile ukuba babe yinto engcono. Yaye xa usinika iingcebiso ezingavumelekanga, ngoko uveza ukungathandabuzeki kwindoda yokuzithemba. Akumangalisi ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kubangelwa ngabantu. Yaye ukuba naye unenkathazo, ngoko ngamazwi akhe angafanelekanga uya kuphazamisa isityholo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu uziphatha ngokungalunganga, kungcono ukumxelela ngokuthe ngqo
("Ndingathanda ukuba kube njalo kwaye"). Nika iingcebiso xa ucelwa ukuba wenze njalo. - Kukho amagama anjalo enkxaso, apho kumzuzu onzima uya kuthuthuzela nayiphi na indoda. Yinqaku elithi "awuyikusola." Amadoda asetyenziswa ukulawula yonke into ebomini babo, bazive benembopheleleko yazo zonke izinto ezenzekayo. Ngoko ke, kuyinto ekhethekileyo kubo ukuba bazigwebe ngokwabo kuzo zonke iingxaki zabo. Kodwa zingaphi iimeko esizibiza ngokuba ngengozi? Kwiimeko ezinjalo, wonke umntu uvame ukusola, kwaye zonke zilungile. Kubalulekile ukuchazela le nto kumntu wakho, ukuthetha ukuba ityala lakhe alizange lenzeke. Oku kuya kumnceda ayeke ukuzimba kwaye aqale ukuxazulula ingxaki.