Indlela yokufunda ukuthembela othandekayo?

Ngamanye amaxesha, kukho iimeko ezithile ebomini xa umhlobo, othandekayo ekhubeka aze alahlekelwe yithemba labantu abasondeleyo kuye. Kunzima kakhulu ukuphinda uphinde ubuye ulwalamano lwangaphambili. Isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekileyo kwisabelo sakho kukuxolela , okwesibini kukufunda ukuthembela kwakhona. Yiyiphi inyathelo enzima kunzima ukuyenza: ukuxolela okanye ukuthembela kuyintlekele enkulu yamanqanaba onke. Ukuqonda ukuxolela, nokuxolela kuthetha ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo, ukubuyela kubuhlobo obudlulileyo, kwaye le yinto enzima kunazo zonke ukuyenza emhlabeni! Indlela yokufunda ukuthembela indoda kwakhona yinto ebalulekileyo efuna inkcazelo ngokukhawuleza!

Indlela yokufunda ukuthembela kumntu okanye umyeni?

Ngoko ukuba awunakuxelelwa ngokungathembeki kwabakhethiweyo, musa ukuphulaphula nabani na. Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe: ulonwabo kunye nokuthembela ngothandana wakho okanye kumntu ongeyingozi?

Ukukhetha izinto ezilungileyo, iifilimu ezilungileyo. Musa ukubheka uthando oluthembekile, olungonwabi kunye nokungcatshiswa. Kwinqanaba elincinci, nangona uchungechunge lweprayimari luchaza umzekelo wokuziphatha kwakho. Awufuni ukujika ube ngumsindo onomona?

Isizathu esikhulu sokungathembani phakathi kwendoda nomfazi yinto yokuqala yokunxibelelana. Konke kuqala ngento yokuba xa kukho naluphi na ukunganeliseki okanye ukukrokra, umbuzo awubhengeziwe, kodwa uxhomekeke kwiinkcazo ezicacileyo. Iphela kwaye iphelela ngolu hlobo lokuba iingcamango ezithatyathwe ngokukhawuleza zisuka kwi-plafti zixhaswa ngokulinganayo kwaye kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ubungqina obungabikho. Le ngxaki yazo zonke izibini. Ukuba ufuna ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane, funda ukuthembela intanda yakho, ngoko kufuneka uqale ufunde ukuthetha omnye nomnye. Ukuphelisa ukungabikho kokungaqhelekanga, vumela yonke into ibe yinto ecacileyo phakathi kwakho. Tshela uthandekayo wakho nangamabhontshi akho amancinci, umxelele oko ucingayo, kukukhathaza ntoni na okukukholisa. Kuya kukusondeza. Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Kodwa ungabi mfuneko kakhulu kuye. Ungalindelanga ukuba ngokukhawuleza uqala ukubonisa umnqweno wokukuxelela ngezinto zonke, njengokuba wenza njalo. Musa ukulibala, amadoda ahluke kakhulu kwabasetyhini. Ngenyameko kwaye unobtrusively unomdla kwiingxaki zakhe, ngemibuzo echaphazelayo. Mcele ukuba abelane ngale nto nawe. Ngaloo ndlela, ebudlelwaneni bakho, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuzithemba omnye komnye; unciphisa umngcipheko weshwele kunye neengcamango malunga nokunyaniseka.

Jabule!