Amadoda akwazi ukuthetha kangangoko afuna ngayo ukungaqondi kakuhle, nangona ngamanye amaxesha ngokwabo aziphathe kakuhle. Ukuba ubuncinane bathathe ulwalamano lwabo kunye nefowuni. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeke, saziphulaphula iintloko zethu, kutheni umntu engabibizi, kwaye emva koko usixelela ukuba imali iphelile, ifowuni ilibalekile ekutyelelweni ngumzala wesibini ohlala kwelinye idolophu, kunye nezinye iindalwazi. Kwaye kubonakala ukuba wayenamahloni ukubiza okokuqala. Ewe, ngaba ngubani emva koko, ingqiqo yeengcamango? Inyaniso kukubuza umntu ukuba kutheni engabizi ngokufanelekileyo (akulungile ukuba intombazana ikhweze okokuqala, umama wethu wasifundisa), okanye akukho nto (asizange sithathe inamba yefowuni, kodwa ngoku siyakuluma). Kwaye kufuneka ndiyenze ntoni, ube ngumsebenzi kwi-fowuni, ube nesibindi uze uzenzele okanye ndilibale ngalo mntu? Siqala ukuqonda, ukwahlula amadoda ngokweendlela esondele ngayo ubudlelwane phakathi kwakho.
Kutheni ndiyithandi?
Siyayiqonda njani isizathu sokuba indoda ethandekayo ingabibizi ngexesha losuku - akukho nje ixesha, okanye akukho mvakalelo kuye? Ukuba uye wahlanganisana ixesha elide, kwaye xa kungekho "iimpawu" eziphazamisayo, akukho mfuneko yokwesaba ukungabi khona kweefowuni ezivela kwintanda yakho. Akaboni nje ukuba kuyimfuneko ukukubiza - ngokuba kusihlwa uya kubona, kwaye abantu abanalo inzondelelo encokola ngetoni, njengabafazi abaninzi. Kwaye ukuba indoda yakho isebenza kanzima, mhlawumbi ingenawo ixesha lokubiza kwaye ichitha ixesha layo lokutya sasemini isidlo sasemini kunye nokuphumla, kwaye ungathethi, kwintombi yakhe ethandekayo.
Enye into xa umntu othandekayo engabizi emva kokuxabana. Kutheni ucinga ukuba umntu akabizi kuqala kule meko? Kunene, uyesaba ukuba uya kukubiza, avume icala lakhe, qaphela igunya lakho phezu kwakho kwaye uwele phantsi kwezithende zakho ezibukhali. Ininzi idla ngokuziqhayisa kunye nokwesaba malunga nokulahlekelwa inkululeko evimbela amadoda ethu anamandla ukuba athathe isinyathelo sokuqala sokubuyisana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akusebenzi kwiimeko apho ukungaxakali kwakho kuye kwachazwa ixesha elide, kwaye le ngxabano yayiyindawo yokugqibela.
Kutheni umntu engabiza emva kwesondo?
Ewe, sinenkxalabo ukuba ubuhlobo bokuqala bubuhle, kwaye emva koko, emva komhla ophelile ngesondo, indoda ayibizi. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko, kwaye ebaluleke kakhulu, kutheni le nto yenzeka? Emva koko ndikhumbula ihlaya elidala kule sihloko: "Ukuba umntu akabibi emva kwesondo, mhlawumbi akafuni ukulala nam, okanye wafa. Kwaye ndiyathemba ngethemba lokugqibela. " Ubomi bwenene, eqinisweni, asifuni loo mphumo. Kwaye le ntlanzi, njengabanye, kukho inkozo engqiqweni. Indoda ayiyi kubiza emva kwesondo, ukuba ingamthandi, ngakumbi ukuba awunaso ixesha lokusondela kuye ngokukhawuleza. Uyayiphendula njani le nto? Kwaye njengoko ufuna. Ukuba umntu uyakuthanda kakhulu, mbiza ngoko, funda isizathu. Ukuba akaxeleli inyaniso, ngoko bonke baya kuqonda ngokuphendula. Kwaye ukuba awuyithandi, ke uvuyo - usindiswa kwisifundo esinzima kangaka, njengokuba ugxotha ummangaliso ongafunekiyo. Enye into eyenza indoda ingabizi emva kwesondo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ifumene yonke into ayifunayo. I Cherry isuswe kwikhekhe, ikhathalohlu uluhlu lwezonqolo lubekwe,
Kutheni kungekho mntu abizayo emva komhla wokuqala?
Waya kumhla nomntu, wathabatha ifowuni waza wathembisa ukubiza, kodwa akazange abize, kutheni? Inketho yokuqala engathandabuzekiyo, awuzange umthande ngokukhethekileyo, kwaye ifowuni yathatha nje ngokuthobeka. Isizathu sesibini ezinye iingxaki zobuchwepheshe - ndawaphula ifowuni, ndilahlekelwe yile nombolo, ndahamba ngorhwebo oluphuthumayo uhambo, njl njl. Enyanisweni, ukuba ungumntu onomdla ngokwenene, uya kufumana indlela yokuyithatha. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukhetho lwesithathu - akakwazi ukufumana isibindi sokukubiza, ukwesaba ukubonisa umdla wakhe. Bangaphi abangakwazi ukubiza umntu onjalo? Wonke umntu uneendlela ezahlukeneyo, ngokukodwa ukungazami ukuhlangana kunye nomoya iminyaka. Ngoko zigqibelele ixesha apho umntu engabibizi, uyalibala ngaye. Ewe, kutheni ufuna i-shit?