Utyando kunye nemfesane ziyinto efanayo, kuphela kwiqondo elibanzi kunye nelincinane, ngokulandelanayo. Utyando lubhekisela kwisimo sengqondo sokunyamekela kubuthathaka nokuhlupheka, ukuzimisela ukuqonda nokuxolela. Novelwano luyakwazi ukuqonda umntu, ukukwazi ukuziva intlungu yomnye into eqaqambileyo njengoyakhe kwaye ngaphandle kokungabaza ukunceda.
Uthini umahluko phakathi kwenceba kunye novelwano?
Kubalulekile ukuhlakulela umxholo wesisa nesihawu. Njengoko sele sibonisile, imfesane yinto enzulu yokuziva ufana nomntu, ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakhe kwaye uzame ukumnceda. Usizi luvakalelwa kukuba, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi kubonisa ukuba umnqweno wokuba ungabi kwindawo yomntu onjalo. Ukongezelela, inceba yinto engapheliyo yinto engabangela umnqweno wokwenza okuthile kumntu, ukumnceda, ngokungafani nenceba.
Ingxaki yenceba nenceba
Ukubonakalisa imfesane ngenye yeempawu ezikhethekileyo zengqondo yaseRussia. Kwaye nangona abantu abaninzi bebiza ububele kunye novelwano, kule meko le ngxaki izuza intsingiselo entsha: ngokuqinisekileyo idla ngokuba neentlungu, izidakamizwa, izidakamizwa, njl njl). Kwaye ukushiya umntu ngaloo mzuzwana kukusebenza njengomzekeliso "akukho ntloni okanye inceba."
Ezi zimbini zeemfesane esivame ukuzibona kwiintsapho zotywala kunye nezilwelisi. Esikhundleni sokukhusela abantwana kunye nabo ngokwabo kumzekelo ombi, abasetyhini baqhubeka behlala nomntu onomlutha, eqhutywa yintliziyo kwaye becinga ukuba: "Unokuba njani ngaphandle kwam?". Ngaloo ndlela, uthando luyingozi, kuba ukuxhomekeka kuxhaswa, yaye ubomi besetyhini, obuqhelekileyo, buhlaselwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isenzo esinjalo sithathwa ngokuqinisekileyo kwinkcubeko yethu, kuba oku kukubonakalisa inceba nesihawu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, luya kumelana nomntu onokuzondla yena kunye nolonwabo lwakhe. Ukongezelela, le mizamo ayidla ngokukhawuleza.
Yingakho imfundo yenceba kubantwana iphindwe kabini. Emva koko, ngakwesinye icala, umntwana unamathele kwiinkcubeko zobuKristu, akuyi kubakho bukrakra nokungakhathaleli. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, sifundisa umntu omncinci ukuba abe neengxaki zokuziphatha, kwingcamango yokuba abanye abantu banomdla obaluleke ngaphezu kowabo, ekugqibeleni kunokuba yinto enkulu yokuphazamisa ebomini.
Okuthakazelisayo, uvelwano novelwano ngabantu luphuhliswa kuphela kwiinkcubeko zabesetyhini - kumadoda ahlala engavunywanga, kuba isigxina esinamandla sabantu sifunda ukufihla iingcamango neemvakalelo ukususela ebuntwaneni.
Kubalulekile ukuhlakulela iingcamango zothando kunye nemfesane. Emva koko, inene, inceba ayinalo uthando ngabantu, kodwa kubonakala kwayo. Enyanisweni, akuyimfuneko ukuthanda umntu onenceba. Ngokuqinisekileyo nayiphi na umntu okhulile ngokomoya akanakukukhathalela intlungu yomntu. Izazi zezenkolo ziqaphele ukuba abo baphantsi
Kuphi na ububele ne mfesane?
Ezi mpawu akufanele ziboniswe kuzo zonke iimeko, kuba oku kungonakalisa ubomi bakho. Ukuba umntu unentlungu enkulu, kwaye akayi kubuya, ufanelwe imfesane. Ukuba umntu uya kuqhagamshelana naye, unokumnceda - ubuncinane ngokuziphatha.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu ubangele iingxaki kwaye angamnceda ukuba awuthintele kakubi ubomi bakho, ufanele ulithathe ngokucokisekileyo: imfesane nenceba zivakalelwa kakhulu, kodwa zinokukunceda kunye nokulimaza.