Ukuphulaphula kwe-Empathic kukudibanisa uvelwano, uvelwano nokuqonda. Uvelwano kukuqonda kwimeko yokomoya yomnxibelelwano, echaza ngayo ngokuthetha ngomlomo . Kukho umlinganiselo omkhulu wobuchule bokuphulaphula uvelwano. Imfesane ekunxibelelaneni kuthetha into eninzi wena kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho, ngoko sikhetha ukuba sifunde iindlela zokuphulaphula ukuphulaphula.
Izindlela zokuvalelwa kwe-empathic
Ukubonakaliswa kovelwano kuvamisekile ukuze umnxibelelwano athethe kangcono. Uyakwazi ukubonisa ukuba uyamthobela kwaye uyayiqonda inkambo yeengcamango zakhe. Siye safumanisa iindlela ezisibhozo zokuvalelwa kwintliziyo, siyancomela ukuba ufunde nabo.
- Ukusebenza kunye nokuvunywa kwentetho yomnxibelelwano. Kufuneka uhlale unxibelelana kunye namehlo akho, kwaye ugxininise intloko yakho kwisigxina senkulumo yomlingani wakho. Ungayifaka amabinzana amancinci kwisigqibo sakhe, umzekelo: "Ewe, ewe, ndiyavumelana nawe, unomdla kakhulu."
- Ukucacisa imibuzo. Ukuba naliphi na ixesha libonakala lingaqondakali okanye lingenakuqondakala kuwe, unganqikazi ukucacisa kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho okukukhathazayo. Unokumbuza imibuzo efana nale: "Ngaba unokucacisa kum?", "Phinda, nceda," utsho ntoni na? ".
- Ukuphindaphinda. Ukuba unobtrusively uphinda amagama omnxibelelwano, kuya kukunceda ukuba ulungiselele wena, kwaye uza kubonisa ukuba ungumphulaphuli okhutheleyo.
- Phindela. Zama ukuphinda umphandle othethayo ngamazwi akhe: "Ndiyayiqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba", "ngamanye amazwi," "ucinga ukuba", "unokukholwa," "kuthetha ukuba kuvela ukuba", "uyavuma ukuba."
- Ukuphuhlisa nokuqhubeka iingcamango zomnxibelelwano. Zama ukuqwalasela intsingiselo yamagama akhe, ufunde umxholo ofihlakeleyo weentetho zakhe ngokuvakalayo.
- Zama ukuthetha nomnxibelelwano wakho kwaye uxele indlela oyiqonda ngayo isimo sakhe sengqondo. Oku kuya kwenziwa ngokusebenzisa amagama alandelayo:
"Ndiyayiqonda into ovakalelwa ngayo ngoku," "Ndifumana ingcamango yokuba", "uxhalabele kakhulu ngale nto", "mhlawumbi ukhathazeke kakhulu". - U-Empathize uze uzame ukuphosakela iimvakalelo zomnxibelelwano ngokwakho. Ungakwazi ukubonisa oku ngamagama afana: "Ndikuqonda kakuhle," "njengawe, ndiqinisekile ukuba," "endaweni yakho, ndiza kuziva," "Ndiyayiqonda into ovakalelwa ngayo ".
- Gquba umphumo wengxoxo yakho. Ekupheleni kwentetho, zama ukwenza uhlobo lwesishwankathelo seengongoma eziphezulu ezi ngasentla. Sebenzisa amabinzana: "Sifike kwisigqibo sokuba", "Ndingatsho oko kwenzekayo," "ukuba udibanisa konke othethile, kuvela ukuba", "ngokubanzi, utshilo."