Utywala ngumngcipheko omkhulu obeka ingozi kungekuphela komntu oselayo, kodwa nakwabantu abakujikelezile. Kwaye okokuqala, kwintsapho. Ukuphila ecaleni komntu onjalo kunzima kakhulu, kuba uxhomekeke kwimiba yeemeko , ngamanye amaxesha unobundlobongela, unokuyidiliza izandla zakhe, njl njl. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba benzani ukuba umyeni usela yonke imihla. Kodwa kaninzi kunzima ukufumana impendulo kuyo. Kungenxa yokuba abaninzi abafazi abazami ukufikelela phantsi kwezona zizathu zokunxila komyeni, bammangalela nje ngokuba ngumlutha wotywala "kungenanto yokuyenza." Kodwa, njengoko izazi zezengqondo ziqaphele, abafazi ngokwabo banokusola ityala lobuyeni. Yaye oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo, ukwenzela ukuba ukulwa nesifo kufane nesiphumo esihle.
Ndingayenza ntoni ukuba indoda yam isela kakhulu?
Abafazi besiselo esinxilisayo bavame ukukhetha enye yeendlela ezimbini zokuziphatha: nokuba bavalelwa ngumyeni wabo, okanye baqhawule umtshato. Ukujongana nale meko ngandlela-thile ngokungafaniyo. Kwaye oku kuluhlobo lwesifo sengqondo, kuba le ntokazi ayifuni ukuqonda ukuba yintoni enokuyenza xa umyeni esela yonke imihla. Kwaye ngenxa yoko ayenzi nto. Kwaye okokuqala kufuneka uguqule isimo sakho sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kotywala. Kufuneka ukuba utshintshe umfanekiso wexhoba kwendima yokuzomeleza nobuntu obuqinileyo. Yeka ukunyanzela umyeni wakho kwaye umlondoloze, unike imali ngemali okanye uphulaphule izivumbuzo ezidakwa. Mshiye wedwa kwaye uzikhathalele wena nabantwana. Fumana umdlalo othakazelisayo, hlawulela abahlobo bakho rhoqo, fumana ubomi bakho. Makhe umyeni azi kakuhle ukuba uya kuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe. Kwaye apha ngaphandle kwakho?
Ukuba umyeni uyasela zonke iiveki, ke ingxaki "yinto enokuyenza" ixazululwa ngokumphazamisa utywala . Yenza ngoko ukuba akanalo ixesha lokuzilahla. Hlanganisa kwisifundo esithakazelisayo, hamba uhambo oludibeneyo, ungene kwimidlalo.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa umyeni engasiphuzi kuphela, kodwa uhlambalaza aze ahlabe?
Okubaluleke nakakhulu umbuzo wento enokuyenza xa umyeni esela kakhulu, ufumana imeko apho iqabane liqala ukuhlambalaza kwaye lichithe izandla. Okokuqala, musa ukukhupha umtyholi uze uzame ukungaboni iso. Okwesibini, bongoza inkxaso yeentsapho okanye abamelwane abanokuyeka ukuhamba kunye nokuba ngamangqina. Yaye isigqibo esona sisisilumko kunaloo nto siyahamba, nangona kungenakulungileyo, ubuncinane kwithuba elithile. Kodwa ukuba imeko iphindaphinda rhoqo, ngoko kukufanelekile ukucinga ngokuqhawula umtshato kwindlela enzulu kakhulu.