Ukugxininisa kwiingxaki ezidlulileyo, kuthintela ukusebenza kunye noqhagamshelwano nabantu abasondeleyo, ukufihla ixesha elibalulekileyo neliyolo elikhoyo. Umnqweno wokubuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye utshintshe into kulolu hlobo oluthile oludityaniswe nawe kwixesha elidlulileyo, ekuthintela ukuba ujabulele okwangoku ... nokwakha ikusasa lakho. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi: xa ixesha elidlulileyo lingalilibali, ikamva liyavalwa.
Ukukwazi indlela yokudlulela kwixesha elidlulileyo kunokukunika inkululeko kunye nobukhulu. Ikhono lokushiya ubudlelwane obudlulileyo, abantu, ukuzisola, iimvakalelo zecala, iingcamango eziwonakalisayo ziya kukuvumela ukuba ube nolonwabo noxolo lwengqondo.
Indlela yokufunda ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo?
- Khetha imeko eyokuthintela ukuba uphile ngoku. Yivaka kwaye ukhumbule indlela ababegqoke ngayo ngoko, yintoni amazwi abakuva, oko bakufumanayo. Qaphela ukuba ixesha lidlulileyo, kwaye ubhale le nombolo kwiphepha. Qaphela ukuba utshintshe kwaye uvavanye loo meko.
- Mhlawumbi ukhumbule iimpazamo ezenziwe ngaphambili, kodwa oku akukuthi "kubi". Ngokuzaliswa kwengqondo kwimeko, utshabalalise ukuzithemba kwakho, uzijezise ngokugxeka kakhulu. Wonke umntu wenza iimpazamo. Kodwa akuzona iimpazamo zakho - kufuneka uqonde oku.
- Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezimbi, ngoko sele kulungile. Ukuze uzilahle, zama ukuqala idayari uze uchaze yonke into eqokelelwe nawe.
- Ukufezekisa ibhalansi yangaphakathi, ukukhulula ingqondo nomzimba, ukufezekisa isimo sengqondo sokuzola, xa iimvakalelo ezidlulileyo zingagqithisi okwangoku, sebenzisa ukucamngca. Yigxininise ngokupheleleyo kwizinto ezikhoyo-gxininisa ukuphefumula, ingoma okanye i-mantra kwaye ubuyele kwimeko yangoku, xa iingcamango zihlala zibuyisela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Le ndlela, emva kokuziqhelanisa rhoqo, iya kukuvumela ukuba uphathe ingqalelo kwaye ukhuphe ukubuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo.
- Xa unokubonga ngethuba elidlulileyo ixesha elidlulileyo ngenxa yento yonke eyenzekayo - uya kukuvumela ukuhamba kuzo zonke iintlungu zakhe. Zama ukubonga ngeziganeko, ngokukodwa xa uhamba kwiimeko ezinzima. Cinga, mhlawumbi unamandla? Yintoni le yifundisa yona? Ngaphandle kweziganeko ezidlulileyo, awuyi kuba njalo! Kukho izibhengezo kwiincwadi eziza kukunceda uvakalelwe.
- Awukwazi ukulawula amagama kunye nezenzo zabanye abantu, kodwa ngaba uthathe uxanduva malunga nendima yakho ngoko? Yiba nxaxheba kwizenzo, zithatha uxanduva. Yintoni oyitshintshayo ngoko? Yibulela isifundo kunye nokuba uxanduva lwezenzo zakho. Awudingi ukubuyela kwimemori ukuba awufuni.
- Musa ukukhathazeka ngezihlwele. Cinga ukuba ezo ziganeko zibaluleke ngokwenene ukuba ukhangele imeko leyo yonke ngaphandle. Ukuba kuyinto eyingqungquthela ke akufanele uxhalabe. Olunye ucinga luya kuphakamisa ukuqonda kwakho kwinqanaba elitsha, kwaye uza kuqala ukubona ezinye iindlela zokukhetha.
- Jonga ubomi bakho ukusuka kude. Uzalelwe ukwazi uthando. Ukuba ubambelele entlungu yakho, ngoko amava ahlale isifundo sakho esingakhange sifunde.
Ukukulungele ukuxolela kuya kuzalisa intliziyo yakho ngobabalo kwaye kuya kunceda uhambe kwiinjongo zakho.
Ungakuvumela njani ukuhamba ngobuhlobo obudlulileyo?
- Yenza isithethe, umzekelo, cingela abantu ongenakukuxolela nokucoca ngokwengqondo intambo ekubophayo, ukuyikhulula ibhaluni ekuhambeni, ukubulela nokufuna ubomi obonwabileyo ngaphandle kwakho,
okanye ubhale ileta malunga nentlungu yakho kwaye uyichithe. - Zithethelele okanye omnye umntu. Akuthethi ukuba loo mazwi okanye izenzo ozithandayo - uyayamkela nje. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uqhubele phambili, ukulahla umthwalo weemvakalelo ezimbi.
- Tshintsha ubomi bakho, uchaze iinjongo ezintsha, qalisa into entsha: hamba eholide, ubhalisele izifundo, utshintshe imisebenzi ...
- Qaphela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zizikhethelo zakho.
Ngaba ufuna ukuqhubeka ulahlekelwa ixesha elikhanyayo, kwaye ukuba ubomi bakho bubaleka? Konke kuxhomekeke kuwe -thi, ekugqibeleni, hlala kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo!