Unxantathu kaCarpman ngumzekelo othile wokuziphatha kwabantu, luhlobo lwe-prism apho umntu angakhangelelwa ezininzi kwiinkqubela ezenzeka kithi kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Ingquzulwano ingaba nomntu ohlukileyo kunye nomlinganiselo, ingaba icace okanye ifihliwe. Isibonelo santathu seCarpman siya kusinceda siqonde konke.
Unxantathu onqabileyo kaKarpman
Njengazo zonke i-triangles, unxantathu kaCarpman ineengalo ezintathu, oku kuthetha ezintathu zentetho zokunxibelelana. Abantu abaninzi abaqapheli ukuba bayabandakanyeka kwimidlalo yengqondo kwixesha apho, bahlala beguqula iimbopheleleko, apho bafumana iimvakalelo ezinamandla kunye nelungelo elingenakunqunyulwa lokubuyela emva kokusombulula iingxaki zabo. Abathathi-nxaxheba kwintathunxantathu enkulu yeKarpman:
- Umxhasi (P). Inendima ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye inomdla. Umxhasi, njengomthetho, akaqapheli ukuba unjalo, akaqapheli ukuba "ngokuphambuka kwakhe" ubomi bomntu bunokutshabalaliswa.
- Umbingelelo (F). Wonke umntu ochaphazelekayo uyaqiniseka ukuba umsulwa, uhlala eshinqa omnye umntu, ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba ingcambu yazo zonke iingxaki ziyiyo ingcamango engalunganga yehlabathi langaphandle. Ehlabathini lethu akukho nto enhle neyobubi, kukho kuphela isimo sengqondo kule nto okanye eso siganeko.
- Umhlanguli (C). Umhlanguli nguye oza kuvela emva kwexesha okanye ngokukhawuleza ekusebenziseni, ebudeni apho yena ngokwakhe uya kuba yinto. Ngaphandle kwenyaniso, ukuba kwakungengenxa yomhlanguli, mhlawumbi unxantathu ingayi kuba khona, kuba ukuba engazange afike "ngexesha elifanelekileyo" kwixhoba, mhlawumbi wayenokulibala ngosizi lwakhe kwaye wayeya kuhlala, kodwa uhlala elawula "ngexesha".
Okumangalisayo kukuba, bonke aba bantu bahlala beshintsha iindima. Ukuqonda ngokucacileyo indlela unxantathu kaCarpman osebenza ngayo nendlela yokuphepha ukubandakanyeka kulo mdlalo wengqondo, ake sijonge unxantathu obalaseleyo weemizekelo kaCarpman:
- I-Psychiatrist endala (P) - I-Client (F) - I-Psychiatrist entsha (C).
- Umfazi (P) - Umyeni (F) - Unkosikazi (C).
- Umyeni (P) - Umfazi (F) - Umhlobo womfazi (C).
Njengomthetho, kulawo ma-triangles abantu banamathela ixesha elide, behlala beshintsha. Ngenxa yoko, ngokuqinisekileyo abayicombululi ingxaki, kodwa bafumana iimvakalelo ezinamandla ezidala ukukholelwa kobomi obomvu, obonwabisayo.
Unxantathu kaCarpman ukuba uphume njani?
Ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kule nxantathu, kufuneka ulandele ezi ngcebiso:
- Okokuqala, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ubandakanyeke kulo, kwaye ubone indlela olahlekelwa ngayo nganye indima.
- Sitshintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo, baqale ukuziphatha ngokubhekiselele kwisimo sabo kunye nobudala (umntwana unengqiqo - njengomntu omdala, omdala - ngokuhlakanipha nangengqiqo - njengoyise nonina).
- Yeka ukuba "zombie", qala ukuziphatha njengomntu oqhelekileyo ophilayo. Xa ubudlelwane bubeka umgama okhululekile, kunye nabantu abasondeleyo ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ukuhlonela nokubathanda.
Unokufunda iindlela ezithile ezibonisa ukuba inxantathu yomkhiqizo kaCarpman:
- jonga ngobubele imeko oye wadlala ngayo okanye le nxaxheba. Bamhleka ngokunyanisekileyo;
- zama ukufuna "iingenelo" nakweyiphi na imeko kwaye uzithathele i-formula yeendlela ezinengqiqo kunye nezaneleyo ezifanayo
inzuzo yokukhupha; - uzive umzimba wakho, ulungise amahlombe akho, uqonde, uthathe umoya ocolileyo kunye nokumomotheka. Ngamazwi, ziva ubunzima bakho kwaye ufumane amandla okuphuma kwincantathu engagwenxa.
Enyanisweni, iNxantathu yeCarpman iyisisombululo esilungileyo apho ungakwazi ukuphosa ngokulula umthwalo wemfanelo yento eyenzekayo ebomini bakho. Lo mzekelo uvumela umntu onentloko ukuba angene kwiintlobo ezininzi zeemvakalelo, aze ayibale ukuba unxulumano oluchanekileyo nayo yonke into eyenzekayo kuye. Sombulula ingxaki kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma "isangqa" esivaliweyo, unokukwazi ukuqonda nokuhlalutya yonke imeko.