Xa abazali bechazela inani elingeyona minyelelo enomdla kubantwana babo, bathi: "Ubani ozalelwe?" Xa abantwana abakhulayo bekhulile, indawo yabo iqala ukuxhoma enye itytile - umlinganisi ombi. Kodwa ukuba sikholelwa ukuba ihlabathi lizuza imibala kuphela ngenxa yokuba siyipende ngethuba lethu, ngaba unokuba ngumntu omhle okanye ulungile?
Kunokwenzeka ukuthetha ngokungapheli malunga nomntu onobungozi, kuba ngamnye wethu unoluhlu lwakhe lwezinto ezibuhlungu kakhulu kuye aphinde ahlangane kumntu ombi.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abaphethe le propati banelungelo lokwenyuka kobugwenxa, kunoma yikuphi "uhlalutyo lweengcinga" kudlulela kwiitoni zokuxabana, ukuhlambalaza nokukhala. Abakwazi ukuthetha nabo, bayesaba nje - njani ukuba baxelele ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ukuqhuma okulandelayo.
Kwengqondo
Iingcali zeengqondo eziziqonda le nto, ayinikekanga nje inkcazo yento ekubhekiselele kuyo impawu ezimbi, kodwa ibonisa kwakhona isizathu sokuba kwenzeke. Njengoko kwavela inkcazo "yazalwa" ayikho ingozi. Enyanisweni, umntwana akazalwanga ngesimo esibi, esicatshulwa ngokusasazwa ngokwezityalo, kodwa uyayithatha kwinkqubo yokukhula nophuhliso.
Ngoko ke, abantwana abanelungelo lokuba bazalwe kwiintsapho ezingasebenzi, apho abazali behlala behlambalaza, bexabana, baqonda ubudlelwane, kwaye ekugqibeleni bahlukane, baya kuba ngabanikazi bomntu ombi.
Okokuqala, isizathu sokuba ebuntwaneni, xa inkqubo yeentlanzi ikhula ngokukhawuleza, umntwana akakwazi ukungaxabani. Ubathatha entliziyweni, amava kunye kunye neentlungu zakhe.
Kwixesha elizayo, inkqubo ye-nervous exhausted iyakubonakala ngokungahambisani, ukugqugquzela, ukuxabana komntu.
Okwesibini, abantwana bazama ukufumana ukuba ubani omele uxanduva. Kwaye abazali abaqhawule (okanye abangaqhatanga) baxhathisa yonke into, bamise umntwana ngamabali "Into eyenziwa nguyihlo kakubi kwaye ayilungile. Awuyi kuba njalo xa ukhula? " Ekugqibeleni, omnye wabazali emehlweni omntwana uyisicala, kwaye umntwana uye wafihla ukuhlambalaza okuza kubakho ubomi bakhe bunzima ubomi.
Kwaye, okwesithathu, abantwana abasemzwaneni abahlobo baziphatha njengabo "abaxhasilekileyo"
Abazali kaninzi, bengayiqondi igalelo labo, baxhaphaza ubuchopho babo ukuba baqonde njani ubunzima bomntwana. Kodwa eqinisweni, lo mlingiswa akayi kubonakalisa ukuba kwakungengenxa yemizamo yabo yokufumana ngubani ophosakeleyo endlwini.
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