Uyakhumbula kangaphi amaxesha ukususela ebuntwaneni usitsho ukuba awukwazi ukunikela umlindi, yiyo nto ungayikhumbuliyo okanye nawuphi na owathethile, kwaye akakwazanga ukuchaza imvelaphi yale mqondiso .
Ixesha lokuluhlula ngokubeka onke amanqaku phezu kwe "i".
Kutheni unganiki umlindi?
Ngaba uvile ukuba isipho esingalunganga, okanye kunoko, oku kubhekisela kuluhlu lwezipho ezingafunekiyo, iimimese, iifoloko, ngelizwi, zonke izinto ezinokunqunyulwa okanye ukuhlanjululwa? Ngoko, masihambe ngqo kwiwashi. Enye yeenguqulelo zemvelaphi yale nkolelo injalo kwesi sipho kukho iintolo, ezibuye zibukhali, zijonge ngokuzenzekelayo, abalondolozi bexesha, ziwele kwicandelo elingentla.
Abadala Abakholelwa bathi ungeke unike umlindi, kuba ukhangela imimoya emibi, ukungaphumeleli. Ukuthetha ulwimi lwanamhlanje, ngomhla wokuzalwa okanye olunye umkhosi, kunye nomlindo omnandi unika ibhokisi yePandora. Kwaye oku, ubona, ukubeka ngokuthobeka, akuyinto enhle kakhulu. Ukongezelela, iintolo ezibukhali zingakwazi "ukunqumla ulonwabo".
Ngeke kubekho ukuthetha ukuba kukho enye ingcaciso echaza isizathu sokuba kungenakwenzeka ukunikela umlindi kungekhona kubantu abaqhelekileyo kuphela, kodwa kunye nomhlobo osondeleyo. KwiTshayina yamandulo, kwakukholelwa ukuba iwashi limela uhlobo lwekhadi lokumema emngcwabeni, ukubona indoda eluhambweni lwakhe lokugqibela. Kwaye kukho inyaniso. Sonke siyabhubha kwaye ngasinye sinalo ixesha, esingafanele sikhohlwe.
Oku kungagqitywa, kodwa kungekho nto bathethayo, bangaphi abantu-baninzi ngeengcamango. Ngoko, ungalokothi unike isipho esinjalo kwiJapan inenkolelo. Emva kwakho konke, kwilizwe lakubo kukholelwa ukuba ukuba ukhetha umlindi njengento yokubonisa, ngoko, uyazi ukuba ufuna ukufa kwangaphambili.
Ngoko, ukufumanisa uhlobo lo mqondiso, siya kufumana ukuchazwa kweSlavic. Ixesha alixabisekanga, kodwa, xa unikezele isikhumbuzo esinjalo, unika inxalenye yobomi bakho, okungaqinisekiyo, kukuchaphazela kakubi ikusasa lakho.
Kutheni unganiki umlindi kumfazi okanye kumyeni wakhe?
Kususela ekubeni abantu baqaphela ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukuba izithandani zinika umhlobo onjalo isipho, emva kwesikhashana isiko sabo sekhaya siphelile ukuba sibe khona, ukuthanda ukugqithisa kwiindawo zokuhlala kunye nakwixesha elithandanayo izithandane ziba ziintshaba ezigwenxa. Ngaba le nto ayiyiyo impendulo kubo bonke abantu? Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unomuvo wokuthi eminzini yomphefumlo wakho uyakholelwa kwizinto ezinjalo, musa ukucebisa ukuyeka ukhetho lwakho kwisipho eso. Akusikho nto abayithethayo ukuba ingqondo yethu engqondweni ingakwazi ukudweba ubomi obuninzi, kubandakanya. kunye neengxaki.
Ngaba yinyaniso ukuba awukwazi ukunika umlindi?
Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo zanamhlanje ziyakwazi ukuphazamisa, njengezimbini ezimbini. Eli cala alinyanzelwanga. Makhe siqwalasele indlela i-psychology ejongene ngayo nesipho njengesilindi. Kukholelwa ukuba eli likhoyo libhekwa njengobonakaliso bokunakekelwa okubi. Uyakhubekisa umgwenxa wembhiyozo, umthiye ngenxa yokungabikho ixesha. Kwaye ukuba umntu usekhulile, kwaye ingakumbi umfazi, onqwenela ukucinga ngezinto ezininzi, ngamanye amaxesha akafanelekanga? Cinga nje kuphela: umntu onjalo unokuchazela oku
Ndanikwa umlindi
Akunakwenzeka ukuphazamisa indlela yokusingatha ngokuchanekileyo, ukuba umlindi awunikwe nguwe, kodwa nguwe. Eyokuqala, kufuneka ulahle zonke iinkolelo kwaye ungagcini inzondo kwisitye. Akayikusola ngenxa yokungakwazi kwakhe ukuchazwa kwesipho eso. Okwesibini, ungakhohlwa ukuba kukho indlela yokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Ngaba ufumana umlindi? Khawuleza kwi-wallet kunye nesandla ngokubuyisela isilwayo esingumqondiso. Ngoko, esi sipho sithengwa nguwe kwaye akusisipho. Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, awuyi kuphazamiseka yintlungu ebunzima balo mqondiso.