Kutshanje, lwakho usapho luye lwaxhaswa ngummangaliso omncinci, ongekho kude ukugubha usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa ebomini bakhe. Njengaye nawuphi na umcimbi wokuphila, xa umntwana ejika ubudala, kunengqiqo ukuthobela iimpawu eziye zenzeka ngaphezu kwekhulu leminyaka.
Iimpawu zonyaka 1 kumntwana
Okokuqala kwaye kubaluleke, kubalulekile ukukhankanya ukuba kule minyaka yobudala, njengabanye, baziva beyi-aura yeso nasiphi na isifundo. Abaninzi baye bakuva ngokubamba uvavanyo, oluxelela abazali ukuba umntwana ebomini uya kuba ngumkhokeli, yiyiphi inxaxheba awayikhethayo. Abadala Abakholi baphinda baphinde baphule ukuba ngaphambi kokuba umntwana kubalulekile ukuba ahlaziye izinto azibona okokuqala kunye nalawo angenzi uluhlu lwezinto ezithandayo. Kulo kubalulekile ukongeza kunye nelokuba umntwana kufuneka ahlale phantsi okanye abekwe kwi-litter ekhethekileyo, enokuthi yenziwe yesikhumba sezimvu (inkunzi yeegusha ephihliweyo iya kwenza).
Abazali balala phambi komntwana wabo isethi yezinto, ezifanekisela ubomi nobungcali:
- Ukuba umntwana ukhankanywa kwezi zilandelayo, ke, yazi ukuba ebomini uya kukhetha indlela ehambelana naye. Ngoko, igallic, ibhokisi enevithamini okanye anyanisi yimpilo. Ngamanye amagama, umntwana wayekhange igallic ejikelezayo-ngexesha lokuziqonda kwindawo yokuqala uya kuba nexhala ngempilo, kokubili ngaye nakwabanye. Izitshixo, nokuba zivela emotweni okanye kwindlu, ziyindlela yokubonakalisa impilo. Ibhanki yeebhanki okanye ikhredithi bubomi obutyebi. Amaphuzu, i-pointer - kwixesha elizayo umntwana uza kubonakalisa ubuchule bengqondo obungakaze kwenzeke, uzakuzama ukufunda amagatsha amaninzi nakwi-science. Intambo (ukubandakanya okanye eqhelekileyo) - umtshato ophumelelayo. Umxube weentambo zokuqhawula okanye i-skein yemicu ibonisa ubomi obunexesha elide nolonwabileyo. Ukuba umntwana uthathwa kwiipende, ipaulet okanye ibrashi, ke unokuqiniseka ukuba unomntu odalayo okhulayo.
- Isihloko esilandelayo sesifundo siza kuxela abazali ukuba isiphi isiluleko umntwana esiza kukhula, yintoni na oya kukhetha. Iphothifoliyo, isikhwama-indawo ekhokelayo. Ikhredithi okanye ibhanki yengulube ngumrhwebi, ibhanki, i-akhawunti. Ibhola, ukunqumla intambo - kumntwana, imidlalo iya kuba ngaphezu kwefad. I-spoon, i-ladle okanye indebe-i-chef chef iyakhula, iyakwazi ukutshintsha ingcamango yekhishini eliphezulu-khalori okanye kwintsapho yakhe inkunzi inokuhlala isondla intsapho ngesidlo esinomdla. I-hairbrush, iingubo-stylist, i-fashion designer, i-hairdresser.
Ngubani omele anqume umntwana ngomnyaka?
KwiRashiya yakudala yayikholelwa ukuba iinwele zigqutywa ngumntu wobomi, kwaye ngoko ke ukunyuka kwabo izinwele kubantu abadala kunye nangakumbi kubantwana abancinci baphathwa ngentshutshiso ekhethekileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba sithetha ngokunyuka kweenwele zomntwana oguqula unyaka oneminyaka eli-1 ubudala, ngoko sinempawu elandelayo:
- Oothixo babantwana bakanqunyulwa iinqununu ezine ngesimo somnqamlezo phezulu, ukusika zonke ezinye iinwele;
- umntwana uhleli ehlakaleni lezimvu kulo lonke ixesha;
- ukunqunyulwa kweekhalenda ziboshwe ngentambo ebomvu kwaye zigcinwa ngabazali de kube ngumtshato okanye umtshato womntwana.
Kutheni ungeke unqume umntwana ukuya kunyaka - iimpawu?
Okhokho bethu bakholelwa ukuba ngoncedo lweenwele, umntu ufumana amandla kunye nolwazi oluvela kwi-Universe, ngoko ke akuyimfuneko ukugawula abantwana ukuya kutsho unyaka. Ngenxa yokuba ngale ndlela uphazamisa kwimithetho yendalo yonke, oko kuyanzima ukuphuhliswa komntwana wakho. Ngaphezu koko, nakunoma kunjalo, ungayinqumli phantsi kwe "noice" okanye ngokungahambi - yile mpazamo enkulu kakhulu. Abadala abakholayo bakholelwa ukuba ngale ndlela, okokuqala, umntwana uya kuphazamiseka ukukhuliswa kwentetho.
Kuze kube yimini, kholwa okanye ungakholelwa kulezi zinkolelo - kuba abazali abaya kuxelwa yintliziyo ukuba benzani kunye nento engekho ngokumalunga nommangaliso wabo omncinci.