Ewe, kudlula imihla yegolide, kwaye indoda enothando kakhulu iya kuba ngumntu oqhelekileyo. Kodwa lo mfazi ulungelelanise kangangokuthi udinga ukunakwa yonke imihla, ngemizuzu yonke. Ubume bakhe busola kwaye banomona. Umfazi uqala ukuxhalabisa ukuba umyeni wakhe uwile emthandweni, ufumene omnye, akafuni ukuba naye. Umyeni naye ukholelwa ukuba umfazi ufuna kakhulu: kufuneka asebenze, akakwazi ukudansa yonke imini phambi kwakhe, kwaye ngokubanzi, akanakho isimo.
Indlela yokugcina umdla wakhe umyeni?
Ngaphambi kokuzibuza, nendlela yokufumana ingqalelo yomyeni wakho, kungcono ukuzibuza ukuba ungayi kulahlekelwa njani. Unganikeli ubomi bentsapho ukukhwela kwindlela yokusebenza. Ewe, ewe, umfazi upheka isidlo sakusihlwa, iimpahla zokuhlamba iimpahla, abahlengikazi abantwana, kodwa akayikulibala umzuzu ukuba naye ungumfazi.
Omnye akufanele avumele indoda ukuba ilahlekelwe ngumdla. Akufanele avuke kusasa, njengokungathi uyazi ukuba uya kubona ntoni na ukuva. Ukuba umtsalane omdala ubiza, ungayiphenduli ngokukhawuleza kwaye uphawule ngokukhawuleza, unganqamla kwaye udlala ngothando. Ukuba ukuziphatha komyeni kucaphukisa, unokuthetha ngale ndlela, ngobumnene, njengowesifazane, kodwa ngokucacileyo.
Indlela yokuphinda ilahlekelwe ngumdla?
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba indoda sele ilahlekelwe ngumdla? Indlela eyona nto yokumenza ahlale ephulaphule, ngokungaqhelekanga, ilula kakhulu - kufuneka uhlale uqobo. Oku kuya kukwanela ukuba akazange abe nomuzwa wokuthi ungumnikazi we-100%. Uya kuba nomuva wokuthi inxalenye ethile yobume bakhe ayiyena yakhe, kodwa indoda ngokwemvelo ngumhloli kunye nomnqobi.
Abafazi abaninzi emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato baqala ukuziva ukuba umyeni ulahlekelwe ngumdla wakhe wesondo. Musa ukulibala ukuba indoda ithande amehlo akhe. Kufuneka ujonge ngokwakho kwisibuko. Kufuneka sikhumbule indlela ubuhlobo obuqala ngayo. Emva koko umfazi wexesha elizayo wayegubungele amehlo, wayethandana nomntu okhethiweyo, wamkhathaza encinci, wayemkhonze, wakhetha izambatho zengubo kunye neengubo zangaphantsi.
Zonke ezi zinto zibuyiselwe kwintsapho bomi azizange zibuyele kwaye umyeni uyinto encinane kakhulu, evula umlomo wakhe, uya kukhangela umfazi wakhe, kuba uyamthanda, kwaye unomdla-ishishini elifumanekayo.