Mhlawumbi, abaninzi abafazi baphupha ngendoda enobuhlungu, becinga lolo hlobo lwesini ngesondo. Kodwa namhlanje, uluntu lwangoku lusetyenziso olutsha lwezesondo eziqinileyo.
Ngubani lo?
Igama livela kwisiLatini sapio, oko kukuthi, isilumko nesilumko. Intsi ngiselo yale ntshukumo - ingqiqo ingaba nesondo. Kwacatshangelwa ukuba ngamalungu eSapho-Masoch. Kubantu abanjalo, into enonwabo kakhulu ithathwa ngokuba yintetho yonxibelelwano. Kodwa kuthethani ngento evelele: "Emva kwakhe, njengodonga lwamatye," ngaba akunakwenzeka namhlanje?
Yintoni eqhelekileyo phakathi kwesini kunye nengqondo?
Ukususela kwixesha elidala abantu xa bedibana kunye nokunxibelelana baqwalaselwe ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo yomntu, kodwa abazange bajongwe njenge-sapioexuals. Ngenxa yokuba kukho ukumahluko omkhulu phakathi kwelokuba unjengabantu abahlakaniphile kwaye ujabule kubo. Ngoko ke, ukuba unqwenela ukunxibelelana nabantu abanengqondo, kodwa ungaboni naziphi iimpawu zokuvusa isondo, akudingeki ukuba uzibeke njengowesifazana. Kodwa ukuba igama elitsha elincinci elinjengathi "ukunyanzelwa" lenza i-shiver back back, siyakuvuyisana enye yazo.
Bafika njani?
Yenze nini kwaye kwenzeke njani ukuba abahlakaniphileyo beza kutshintsha abafana abathandekayo nabahlawulisiweyo? Kulo thuba, kukho iingcamango eziliqela:
- Ukuguquka kwemvelo. Amaxesha xa amadoda azingela aze athathe ukutya kwintsapho yawo, sele idlulile, ngoku ngenxa yale nto bafika ngeemigibe ezahlukahlukeneyo, ngaloo ndlela bekhulula ixesha elininzi lokukhululeka. Esidlulileyo, abafazi bakhetha abesilisa be-alpha, kuba babemi phakathi kwabanye abafake izicelo ngenhliziyo yabo. Ehlabathini lanamhlanje, elinye igunya lokuqinisekisa ubomi obonwabileyo. Ewe, kunye nabasetyhini baye batshintsha, baqaphele kwaye bafuna izinto zabo kunye nabanye. Kubonakala ukuba, ngenxa yolu hlobo izinto eziphambili ziye zaguqulela amadoda ahlakaniphile.
- Umbono kaFrud. Ukubonakala kweentlobo zesisu kubangelwa ubuntwana obubi, okokuba, uyise wentombazana wayengahlakaniphile kwaye akazange ayithobele intombi yakhe, ngoku, xa ekhulile, uzama ukufumana indoda eya kuba yinto echasene nale mfanekiso. Kuye, into efanelekileyo ngummeli wesondo oqinileyo oya kukwazi ukunqoba indawo yengxoxo yengqondo.
- Iingcamango zengqondo. Le ngqungquthela ibambelela ukuba yonke into ehlabathini iyingcipheko, yingako iimeko zokomoya kunye neengqiqo zafika ekutshintsheni ukuziphatha kakubi nokuziphatha okubi ngokwesondo. Abantu abazijonga njenge-sapioeksualalami, badibanisa ngamaqela kwaye badelela ngokucebile bonke abangakwazi ukufunda nokungafundi. Ngenxa yoko, baqhayisa, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba bangene kwi-caste yabo.
Ubudlelwane kwiibini
I-Sapioexuals ngabantu besizukulwana esitsha abangayithobeli ingqalelo ngesini, ubudala, imbonakalo, njl Xa isibini samadoda nabasetyhini beengqiqo, akufanelekanga ukulinda ubudlelwane obuhle, kuba abanako ukuxabana malunga nezitya ezingahlambulukanga, kodwa iingcamango ezahlukeneyo malunga neencwadi ezifundwayo zingakhokelela ekutshweni kwangempela. Kwakhona, izibini ezinjalo zingenokuba neengxaki zesini, njengoko zinokungafani
Isiphelo
Umntu ngamnye ngumntu ngamnye kwaye oko kumkhangela ngokwenene kwintsimi eyahlukileyo - ingqondo okanye imisipha ukuyicombulula. Kwaye inyaniso yokuba ingqiqo yenza indoda idlwengula, yayiqondakala ixesha elide ngaphambi kokubunjwa kwalolu hlobo. Ngoko ke, unokuzicingela nge-sapioeksualam, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ulahlekelwe ngumntu ohloniphekileyo oomane, umzekelo, akafuni ukufunda i-classics yaseRashiya, ngoko ke mamela okokuqala entliziyweni yakho, kungekhona ingqondo yakho.