Ewe, namhlanje amaninzi amantombazana nabasetyhini kufuneka bathathe inxaxheba yomzingeli. Kule nto akukho ntoyikekayo-ngaphandle kokuba ixhoba elikhethiweyo lingayiqondi ukuba lizingela.
Indlela yokuthabatha umfana ngokujonga?
Ngethamsanqa, ukuba uphendule lo mbuzo, asiyi kuba nokufumana amazwekazi angafundile okanye ukuvelisa izithuthi ezintsha. Ngendlela onokumdla ngokukhawuleza umntu (okanye umfana) ngokukhangela, abaqapheli bebhinqa bacacile ixesha elidlulileyo. (Kucingelwa ukuba, oku kukuthi ungathini kumntu ongaqhelekanga okanye umntu).
Ngoko, kukho ezimbini, iindlela ezilula. Ukuba ubona ukuba umfana ukhangele kuwe, mphendule ngamehlo amfutshane emehlweni akho, umomotheka-uze uphenduke. Ukuba akakubukeli, musa ukuthatha amehlo akhe kuye aze angamboni. Ngokukhawuleza xa amehlo akho adibana, jonga phantsi entloni. Kucingelwa ukuba, okwangoku ubonisa ukudideka kwakho malunga nokuba ubambelele kwimeko yolwaphulo-mthetho. Nangona kunjalo, akuninzi kakhulu ukukhupha ngaphandle kwesi sibonakaliso, kuba kungekhona wena kuphela, kodwa kunye nabo bafazi abasuka kuye emngceleni osondeleyo unokuba nomdla kulo mfana. Ngoko ke, sithatha imizuzwana 2-3 ukuya kwinqanaba lombono ogqithisileyo. Emva koko, khangela kwakhona, jonga phezulu, ukhangela amehlo akhe, umomotheka-kwaye uphinde ube neentloni, uphinde ukhangele kude.
Sihlolisise indlela kunye nendlela onokuyenza ngayo umdla ngokukhawuleza kwaye unomdla umntu ongaqhelekanga okanye umntu. Ukuba akazange aphendule ngandlela-thile, kuya kuthatha enye yezinto ezimbini: nokuba intombi yakhe ifanele ivele kwimizuzwana kwaye ayifuni ihlazo, okanye uyamthanda kakhulu kangangokuthi akayithandanga nayiphi na intombazana okanye umfazi. (Ndikholelwe, kwenzeka kwaye njalo!)
Makhe sithethe nokuthi ungayichaphazela njani, kwaye ungenomdla kumntu oyithandayo okanye umntu. Ukumangalisa okungenanto okanye ukumomotheka okunomusa, mhlawumbi, kuya kuyanzela into enomdla wakho ukuphendulela ulwahlulo oluchasene nawe.
Ungayiqonda njani ukuba umfana onomdla kuyo?
Okokuqala, gweba iindlebe zakho uze uphulaphule ukuba ukuhlekisana kwakho kukuphikisana nawe. Uhlobo lubeka kwindawo yokuzalwa kwayo yonke intombazana ezelwe, kwaye, kholwa yinto, ayizange iphosakele. Omnye umbuzo kukuba asisoloko sifuna ukuva nokuyiqonda.
Ngenye indlela ukuqonda ukuba unomdla kuye? Ukuba umfana ekubuza imibuzo ecacileyo kunye ethile malunga nawe, kwaye uphulaphula ngokunyamekileyo oko uthetha kuye, mhlawumbi ufuna ukukwazi kangcono.
Indlela yokuthabatha umfana ngentetho?
Okokuqala, bonise ukunyaniseka kwintetho yakho. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu, njengamantombazana amaninzi, ukwenzela ukuba banomdla kumntu abayithandayo, baziqhubelele emgibeni wobuxoki-bezama ukuzithoba kubo ngokukhanya okuphumelelayo, ngokombono wabo. Musa ukwenza iphutha elifanayo. Akukho mfuneko yokumela oko ungakho konke - ukukhangela umntu. Ndikholelwe, kungekho enye i-sheepdog kufuneka ixabiseke. Kufuneka ube, okokuqala, ngokwakho-kwaye ngubani othanda, uyayithanda. Mamela ngentshisekelo kulokho akuxelelayo. Ukuba awunamathelisi ukubaluleka koko kwaye uthethi, awukwazi ukumdla. Nabani na umntu uya kuqonda umphulaphuli ophulaphule - kunye naye ofuna ukuthetha naye.
Ukuba ucinga malunga naluphi uhlobo lokukhangela unomdla kumntu - zama ukuqonda oko akutshoyo ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko ke, qaphela ukuphulaphula kakuhle amazwi akhe, kwaye, ngenxa yakho, mxelele uluvo lwakho ngalezo zihloko ezichaphazelayo.
Ungaphinda unomdla kumntu onjani?
Ukwenza kube nzima, kuba, njengoko kuyaziwayo, yinto nje entsha into enomdla kumntu jikelele (kunye nomntu ngokukodwa). Ngoko ke, konke kuxhomekeke ekubeni kutheni ulahlekelwa ngumdla kuwe.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lithande enye intombazana, ixesha elilodwa liyakunceda (mhlawumbi, yena) ukuba uqonde ukuba uyenzile kakuhle, ukuyeka kwakho.
Ukuba washiya, ngenxa yokuba wayebuhlungu kuwe, kwakhona, kungekhona into yokuba uyasola. Khangela kwinqanaba lobomi bakho. Ukuba uyama inyathelo ephakamileyo kunawe (inentsingiselo yolwazi, iimfuno, ubuchule) - zama ukufikelela kwaye ufikelela kule nqanaba.
Ngokuqhelekileyo umfana uhamba ngenxa yokuba le ntombazana yayidlwengulwe kuye kwaye ebomini bakhe, ngokuyiyeka ngokupheleleyo. Njengomthetho, kulo mzekelo, ukuba unomdla uze ubuyele kumntu onzima kunzima. Kule nto, yedwa, kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ngakumbi, into enhle-iresiphi engayi kuze ihluleke.