Ukuba awuyithandi iminyaka yobudala kwipasipoti, unokukwazi ukuqiniseka ngokucacileyo ukuba okubonakalayo akunjalo. Kuwe kusitokisini, ngaphandle kwexesha lokulandelana ("ipasipoti") yonke iminyaka emithathu:
- biological;
- yentlalo;
- yengqondo.
Iminyaka yobudala yinkalo yokuphucula umzimba. Kwiqela ngalinye leminyaka linemilinganiselo yalo yophuhliso . Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba oko kwakunokuphuhliswa akukabikho, ixesha lakho lezinto eziphilayo lidlula emva kwexesha lexesha. Ukuba kukho into ephuhlisiwe engafanele ibe yiyo-biologically (okanye i-physiologically), udala kunokuba ubhaliwe kwipaspoti.
Ubudala bentlalontle yindlela kwaye ngubani, sijonga ngamehlo kwabanye. Esi sibonakaliso sinokuhluka ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela kwaye ngubani, sijonge emehlweni ethu.
Isivakalisi esidlulileyo sithetha ngobudala beengqondo zomntu. Lowo siziva ngathi.
Iminyaka yengqondo - imigaqo jikelele "yokuguga" kunye "nokuhlaziywa"
Ingcamango yobudala beengqondo - into engaqinisekanga. Oku okanye eso siganeko ebomini sinokukwenza "umfazi oselula" okanye "umfazi omdala". Okokuqala, ubudala bethu buxhomekeke kwizinto esizimelayo, izinto ezithandabuzayo ngokubhekisele kwiqela elidala esikulo.
Ngoko, abantu abaneminyaka engama-20 ubudala banamaxesha athile badla ngokunyanisela ubudala babo beengqondo. Baziva bexanduva, bazimisele, banamandla - balawula ubomi babo (yiloo nto bacinga ngayo).
Iminyaka eyi-25 yithuba lokuba ixesha lokungena kwengqondo lihambelana nokulandelana kwexesha.
Ukuqala ukususela kwiminyaka engama-30, abantu, ngokuchaseneyo, iingqondo "ziba selula" kwaye oku kuya kuqhubeka kude kube ngumdala.
Kodwa, zonke izikhombisi zizodwa, zikho inani kuphela.
Umntwana, umntwana osemtsha, omdala
Iminyaka yengqondo yomntu yimbono yehlabathi kunye nolwalamano nabantu abakujikelezile. Umda wangaphakathi owenziwe kumlinganiselo (ukuvumelanisa okanye ukuphazamiseka) komntwana-umntwana osemtsha-omdala.
Ukuba yonke into iyalingana - iminyaka yobudala engqondweni ayifani nexesha lexesha. Ukuba kukho i-disharmony (enye ye "I" ikhona), umehluko kumanani uya kumangalisa.
Umntwana unembopheleleko yovuyo, amaphupha, inqwenela, ukukwazi ukufunda nokuvuya.
Intombazana inoxanduva lokucinga, ukuzichasa kwihlabathi lonke.
Umntu omdala ngumyalelo, uxanduva, ukulawula nokuhlalutya konke okwenzekayo.
Ukuba unomdla wendlela yokwazi yakho yobudala bengqondo, kukho iindlela ezimbini zokuyiqonda:
- ngokuchanekileyo (uya kukwazi ubudala bakho obungaphakathi kwiminyaka ehambelana nokuphila kwakho kwengqondo) - udlulisa uvavanyo ;
- alunganga (uya kukwazi ukuba yiyiphi "I" olawulayo) - jonga inkcazo yomntwana, umntwana osemtsha kunye nomdala ongaphantsi.
Umntwana
Kwizengqondo, abantu abanomntwana ophezulu babizwa ngokuba ngabaphathi be-Peter Pen syndrome. Umntu onjalo ubangele abanye ngothando lwakhe nokungakhathali. "UPeter Pen" uyaqiniseka ukuba ihlabathi lixhomekeke kuye kwaye wonke umntu kufuneka azalisekise. I-egocentric "I" engafuni ukuva malunga noxanduva, umsebenzi, umvuzo.
Oselula
Olu hlobo lomntu aluqedanga ukukhula kwakhe. Uloyika umhlaba omkhulu, kodwa unzima. Unentlonelo ephantsi, kodwa uhlawulela oku ngeendleko kwimeko yakhe.
Abadala
Abantu abanjalo bathanda ukugxeka wonke umntu kunye nayo yonke into, ukwakha izicwangciso zexesha elide uze uzame ukuwalandela. Abahlali bamnandi, abaphumli - abayifuni.
Into enhle kakhulu kubo yindawo ephilileyo, ekhuselekile, ngaphandle kokutshintsha.
Ukuba umntwana kunye nentombazana ixhaswa kumntu, uba njengomdala.