Mvume ukuba ebomini bakho kwakukho ixesha xa umnqweno wakho oyithandayo kakhulu "Ndifuna ukuhlonishwa". Wonke umntu ufanelekile ukuba ahlonishwe ngabanye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko yakhe yentlalo, ubudala kunye nokubonakala. Kodwa akulula kubo bonke abantu ukuba baphathwe ngenhlonipho ekhethekileyo. Ngenxa yeso sizathu, kunzima ukuba bafezekise iinjongo zabo, ukuzithemba kwabo kuhla, kwaye ubomi buya kutshintshwa ngokugcweleyo kwamabutho amhlophe kumnyama.
Makhe sizame ukubona indlela yokuzihlonela oko kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku kwaye yintoni isizathu sokungabi nhlonipho kwabanye abathandekayo nabanye.
Abanye abantu, ukuze bafumane intlonelo kubantu abathile, bathambekele ekukholiseni wonke umntu kunye nabanye ngokwenza kuphela oko kulindeleke kubo, bengayiqondi ukuba balahlekelwa ngabanye. Emva kwayo yonke into, ngokumangalisayo, bayayihlonela, kwindawo yokuqala, abantu abazinzileyo.
Ngoko, into yokuqala echaphazela isimo sengqondo salabo abakujikelezile, kwaye kufuneka uhlawule ingqalelo ekutshintsheni kwakho. Iimeko eziphambili zoluntu ukuba zamkele ngokulinganayo, ukuba umfanekiso wakho uhambelana nokuthanda izinto zanamhlanje, ubuhle, ukucoceka. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba iimpahla ziya kubonakala zikhulu kuwe, ukuba uziva ukhululekile kuyo.
Okwesibini, ungayikhohlwa malunga nokuhamba kwakho. Ulungelelwano oluchanekileyo kwaye uthi wena ungumntu ozimeleyo nozithembekileyo.
Jonga imiqondiso yakho. Bamele banike ithemba, kodwa kungabi yintlanzi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuzithemba kukuba isizathu sokuba umntu angayiqondi indlela yokwenza umntu othandekayo kunye nabanye abantu abazungezile.
Iingcali zengqondo zentlalo zichonga izizathu ezibalulekileyo, ngokusekelwe ekukhuseleni kwabo kokungaqiniseki kwabo:
- Gweba konke okukhulisayo. Ngelishwa, nangona ebuntwaneni, abanye abazali nabafundisi baye banciphisa amandla omntwana ukuzimela. Ukukhula, kubantu abanjalo akukho zakhono zokuzikhusela, ngenxa yoko bavezwayo, nangona kungabalulekanga, kodwa ukuhlaselwa kokuziphatha okuvela kuyo.
- Ukungabi nokuziphatha. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba umntu akazazi ngokwakhe ukuba kufanele ukuba yintoni, ukuba ufanele enze njani ngokufanelekileyo kwimeko ethile. Akukho ndlela ethile yokuziphatha.
- Ukungabikho kwezakhono ezisebenzayo. Ukuba umntu akabonakali ngokwenza isantya esaneleyo, ke akaziniki ithuba lokujonga ukuba unokuzithemba kangakanani kuye.
Hlonipha kwizihlobo
Kukho neemeko zobomi apho umfazi othembekileyo, umyeni uyeka ukuhlonela, nangona ebantwini bokuba ngumzekelo wokulingisa.
Impendulo yendlela yokuphoqa indoda ukuba ihloniphe yona, iya kuza emva kwengxoxo edibeneyo phakathi kwabatshatileyo phakathi kwabo. Kungenzeka ukuba elinye lamalingani, kulo mzekelo, umfazi, uyeka ukutshala isabelo salo ekuphuhliseni ubomi bentsapho kwaye ngenxa yolu lulahlekelwe intlonelo emehlweni
Ukwenza kokubili indoda kunye nomnye umntu akakwazi ukuhlonishwa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba umntu kufuneka azihlonele. Emva koko, isizathu sokungabi nhlonipho ngabathandekayo bakho kukulahlekelwa ngumntu ngamnye, uyavuma ngokulula ngoluvo lwesininzi, ukwesaba ukukhusela ingcamango yakho. Oku kunokuba yingxaki yakho. Khangela indlela oziphatha ngayo kwintsapho evela ngaphandle, uyayixabisa ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uphendule lo mbuzo ukuba kungani amadoda engayithobeli abafazi.
Indoda nganye iya kubhala ingqalelo kuphela kwintombi leyo, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, ihlonipha yona, ingavumeli naluphi na ukuthotywa kwidilesi yakhe.
Ukuze uqonde indlela ozozifundisa ngayo ukuhlonipha, qaphela ukuba ungumntu, unelungelo lokuba uluvo lwakho kunye nesigxina esibalulekileyo, ungavumeli umntu akuhlazise uze uhloniphe abanye uza kuza kuwe.