Ukwenkqiswa kokukhanyela kunye nokwenqaba ukukholelwa kumandla akhe kuphela yintsipho ye-iceberg yomzwelo, apho izazi zeengqondo zibiza "ukuzithemba." Le yimeko ephazamisayo yengqondo enokuchaphazela umsebenzi wakho, ukufezekisa ngokuvisisana nobomi bakho kwaye uxubushe nabahlobo bakho.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukungaqiniseki?
Inkxalabo yeemvakalelo zomntu, apho umntu eziva exhomekeke kwimibono yabanye kwaye uyazigxeka kakhulu, isizathu esona sihlandlo esivame ukukhumbuza iingqondo zeengqondo. Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokuzithemba - into edibeneyo equka izinto ezifana ne:
- Iingxaki zangaphakathi (ukungathandeki kwincokozo kunye nezihlobo nabahlobo).
- Ukuphulwa okucetywayo (izinto ezingalindelekanga kuzo zonke izenzo, izimo zengcamango ezingalunganga kunye nezikhokelo, isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo).
- Iingxaki zokuziphatha (ukungabikho kwezakhono ekuziphatheni kwezentlalo).
- Utshintsho lwengqondo ( iimvakalelo zokwesaba , ukhathazeka okukhulu).
Ukungakhuselekanga - kwengqondo
I-Psychology ichaza le ngxaki ngokuthi "ukungabikho kwamathandabuzo ngokuqhubekayo kwizakhono zabo, idatha yangaphandle, izakhono, amandla kunye nokukwazi ukufeza izicwangciso zabo" - njengoko iingcali zolu daba zichaza ingcamango "yokuzithemba". Kwiindlela ezibucayi zokuphuhliswa kwesi sifo, umntu ogulayo unokushiya nayiphi na inyathelo elisebenzayo aze ahoxiswe kuye. Iingcali zengqondo zineengcamango ezimbini kwizinto ezithandabuzayo:
- Abaxhasi beengcamango zokuqala bakholelwa ukuba le ngxaki enkulu, ebangela ukuphulwa kobuntu be-psychosomatic. Ukungaqondi kakuhle kwexesha lokwenyaniso kunokudala umhlaba ngenxa yeengxaki zeengqondo.
- Abameli bebesi sibini bajonga ngokungaqiniseki ngokwamandla abo kuphela. Bona kwimzabalazo yansuku zonke kunye nokwesaba ithuba lokuhlakulela umlinganiso wobunkokeli kwaye ufunde indlela yokulwa nokungaphumeleli.
Izizathu zokungakhuselekanga
Kuba ukuvela komhlaba ekuphuhliseni le nkxwaba yinkqubo yobomi babantwana, ngexesha lokubunjwa kobuntu kwenzeka. Iimodeli zokuziphatha ezibonwa ngumntu kwiminyaka yobudala ziprintiweyo kwi-psyche yengane kwaye ngokukhawuleza ziba ngumfanekiso wesimboli. Ukuzithemba ngokuqhubekayo kungabangelwa ukungathandabuzeki kwamanyathelo kwanoma yimuphi umenzi osebenzayo okanye umzekelo wakhe wabantwana abahluphekayo ukungabi namandla. Phakathi kwezinye izizathu ezityhilela ukuba yiyiphi into yokuzithemba, kuthiwa:
- ukungazi kunye nokwenza umbutho wehlabathi langaphakathi;
- ukungabi nentsingiselo ebomini;
- ukungakwazi ukuchonga ixabiso lezinto eziphambili;
- ukukwazi ukukhusela imida;
- ukukhuselwa komsebenzi.
Iimpawu zokuzithemba
Ukwesaba nokungaqiniseki kuyacaca kakhulu phambi kokusebenza, uviwo okanye udliwano-ndlebe. Yaye nangona le mpawu ingenayo i-sex or age features, iimpawu zayo jikelele zingabonwa kwiluhlu oluncinci:
- ukungabi namandla okuziva ukuthotyelwa ngethuba lentetho;
- ukuphepha ukuxanduva lomsebenzi kunye nosapho;
- ukuqiniswa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukunika uluvo kwizimvo zabangaphandle;
- umfanekiso wesirangabi sokungaqiniseki - ukuziphatha okuzimeleyo;
- ukuzithemba ekuhlakuleleni izimvo zabo.
Ungayikhupha njani ukungaqiniseki?
Naluphi na umzekelo wokuziphatha umnikazi wengxaki ekhethileyo (phakathi kwendlela yokuphepha kunye nokuhlaselwa), unokukwazi ukwenza yonke imizamo yokulwa nale ngxaki. Isinyathelo sokuqala ekupheliseni ukukhathazeka kwengqondo kufumanisa impendulo kumbuzo othi kutheni ukungaqiniseki. Ukugijima kwi-phobia akuyimfuneko - kukufanelekile ukuba ujwayelane ngakumbi, ukuqonda, ngenxa yento ebonakalayo, kwiimeko ezininzi ezonyukayo, kwaye zivela kuyo. Ukuqonda indlela yokunqoba ukungaqiniseki ngaphakathi kwakho, ungakha isicwangciso sokufumana ulawulo phezu kweengxaki:
- Phuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela . Ukwenqatshelwa kwezenzo kunye nezithethe eziqhelekileyo kuza kuzisa ubomi kwaye kuyakuphazamisa ukugxininisa kwimoyiko.
- Ukusekwa koqhagamshelwano nomzimba . Abantu abaneenkomfa baya kuziva ukugqithiswa kwamandla xa beqala ukudlala imidlalo okanye ukudansa.
- Ukubonakaliswa kwisicatshulwa . Ukudala imifanekiso emihle yengqondo, ukudlala iimeko ezikhokelela ekuphumeleleni kunceda ukubeka isisombululo esiphumeleleyo script nayiphina imeko apho i-phobia ibonakala khona.
- Ukubonakaliswa kwinyathelo . "Uqeqesho" ekunxibelelaneni nolwazi oluqhelekileyo luyakususa izithintelo xa uqala ukudibana nabantu abangaziwayo.
Ukungakhuselekanga - iOthodoxy
Amakholwa afuna ukufumana iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo kwinkolo abayithetha ngayo. Icawa ikholelwa ukuba ukuzingca, ukuzithemba njengempawu zomntu kufana nesono, kuba bayamnciphisa umntu uvuyo lobomi. IBhayibhile malunga nokuzithemba ithetha okufutshane, kodwa ababingeleli bayavumelana ukuba kukho imisebenzi yokuba yingozi - oogqirha, izazinzulu, abaqhubi beenqwelo-moya kunye nabalawuli bezithuthi zomoya. Inkolo icebisa iindlela ezingaqhelekanga zonyango lweengxaki:
- imithandazo kubangcwele - uNicholas uMmangaliso , uMfundisi oMkhulu weMartyr kunye noMama kaThixo;
- uthando kunye noncedo kwiparadesi yecawa;
- iingxoxo kunye nomcebisi ngokomoya.
Iincwadi malunga nokuzithemba
Kubhalwe ngolwimi olulula, umsebenzi weengqondo zengqondo unceda ukujamelana nemiphumo yobomi bomi kwaye ufunde indlela yokuzihlola ngayo. Iincwadi zinika ithuba kwinxalenye yokujonga iingxaki ezininzi kwizinto zobomi bemihla ngemihla zinoyika ukucinga ngazo:
- "Uncedo lwengqondo kwiintsapho" u- Irina Germanovna Malkina-Pykh. Umbhali uqokelele iingcebiso ezisebenzayo ekuhambeni kwezigaba ezinzima ebomini nasekuziphatheni.
- "Abantu baya kwenza njengoko ufuna." UJohn Robert Parkinson. Akukho ncwadana engcono ngokuphathelele ukungathandabuzeki kumntu ofuna ukufunda ukuba abe ngumqhubi kwaye enze i-core yangaphakathi.
- "Ubugcisa bokuba wena" uVladimir Levi. Umdali wencwadi uyifingqa ulwazi lweengqondo zengqondo ukususela kumaxesha amandulo ukuya kwangoku, ukwenzela ukuba umfundi ngamnye afune ukulinganisela umphefumlo.
- "Uqeqesho lokuzithemba" uManuel James Smith. Incwadi ikufundisa ukuba ube nemvakalelo kwaye uxele indlela yokuyeka ukwesaba ngaphandle kokugxekwa.
Iifilimu malunga nokuzithemba
Iifilimi malunga nokuphumelela kwi-phobias yazo zadalwa ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo, kodwa azizange zilahlekelwe yimpumelelo. Iifilimshi malunga nokungaqiniseki okukuleluhlu zicetyiswa ukuba zibukwe ngabantu bazo zonke izizukulwana:
- "I-Coyote Barly Ugly" . Ngokwebali, intombazana evela kwidolophu yephondo iya kwiNew York, apho ifumana umsebenzi kwenye yeebhayuni zesixeko. Ukufezekisa impumelelo awayeliphuphayo, kuya kufuneka anqobe ukuthambeka nokuzikhethela kuye.
- "Abafazi abavela kwiKhalenda / iCalendar Girls" . Umzekeliso usekelwe kwiziganeko zangempela kwaye uthetha ngabasetyhini banqwenela ukugqibelela ukuhlanganiswa kobubele kwi-hospice. Ukutsala ingqalelo yoluntu, banokukwazi ukukhawuleza kwiinkcukacha zabo kunye nokukhangela ikhalenda ngenxa yemali.
- "Iziqulatho zeNyaniso / iinqununu zeNyaniso" . Umculi osemtsha onetalente uLily Black uphawula kakuhle, kodwa ukwesaba ukubonisa nokuthengisa umsebenzi wabo. Ukuze anqobe ama-phobias, akanako ngenxa yobomi bakhe nabazali bakhe: unina wentombazana inxila, kwaye uyise akaphume ngenxa yokwesaba iintsholongwane.
- Ubomi obunzima bukaWalter Mitty / Ubomi obunqabileyo bukaWalter Mitty . " UWalter Mitty waphila ubomi obunokuthozama njengomthengisi wevenkile encinci, ephupha malunga nokuba ubomi bakhe buya kutshintsha njani. Emva kokuba ekholelwa ekukholweni kwakhe, kwenzeka izinto ezimangalisayo kuye.