Umsebenzi kunye nokungahambelani zizinto ezimbini eziphambili zokuziphatha kwabantu. Kuyamkeleka ukuba umsebenzi uhlala ulungile, kwaye ukungabi namdla kuhlale kuphazamisa kwaye kubangela ukugwetywa kwabanye abantu. Kodwa kwi-psychoanalysis, umsebenzi, ehambelana nomgaqo wesilisa, ulungelelanisa nobudlova, okungeke kuthathwa njengesigqibo esilungileyo. Kwakhona, ukunyaniseka akusoloko kuphazamiseka, ngamanye amaxesha oku kuwukuziphatha okulungileyo kuphela.
Kuyintoni ukunyaniseka?
Ukunyaniseka kwengqondo kuqondwa njengokungahambisani nokuziphatha, ukuziphatha okuchasene nendlela yokuziphatha esebenzayo. Ukunyuswa kwamandla kungenziwa ngenjongo nangenjongo.
Ngamanye amaxesha sikhetha ngamabomu isikhundla esinqabileyo-ngenxa yobuvila okanye ukwesaba ukuba phakathi kweziganeko. Kodwa ukungabikho komsebenzi kungasilindelekanga:
- kunye nobukho bexesha elifanayo lokukhuthaza abantu izenzo ezichaseneyo;
- ngokubuthathaka ngokubanzi komzimba ngenxa yokugula, ukusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, ukhathala;
- Ukutshatyalaliswa okubangelwa yimvakalelo enamandla;
- neengxaki zokuziphatha ezibuhlungu.
Ukungaqiniseki ngokubanzi kokuziphatha kukuphendula ngokuzimela komzimba ukuxinezeleka, ngoko ke akunako ukugwetywa. Kodwa ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi kukuphila, ke le ngxaki ebalulekileyo ekufuneka iqwalaselwe.
Ukungabikho kobudlelwane
Mhlawumbi, ngamnye umfazi ufuna ukuba umntu okhethiweyo aphulaphule umbono wakhe. Kodwa ukuba umntu akakwazi ukwenza nantoni ngaphandle kokukhaba okuhle, akukho mntu uya kuthanda. Yintoni enokuyenza apha? Abanye bazama ukulungisa loo ndoda, bamcaphukisa ngamazwi onke kunye nokuhlambalaza. Kulula ukuqonda ukuba akukho nto enokuthi ifike kuyo. Ukuba umntu akafuni ukwenza into, ngoko, mhlawumbi, ingxaki yokukhuthaza. Kwaye ke unokumnika oku kukhuthaza okanye ukudibanisa nendima yintloko yentloko. Okubi nakwiimeko xa umntu engavumelekanga embhedeni - ukungabikho kokulala ngesondo akuyi kukukholisa nabani na. Kule meko, kufuneka ufumane apho esi simo sengqondo siphume khona, mhlawumbi emva komsebenzi onzima ufuna umsebenzi, kule meko i-"log" ifanelekileyo yinto efanelekileyo. Kwakhona, ukutshatyalaliswa komdla emva kweminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa ungayilungisa imeko, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufaka i-flame efuthayo. Kulungile ukuba nayiphi na imizamo yakho ayifuni igalelo, apha nakwiimeko zobuqili obukhulu okanye ukungabi nentshisekelo kuwe.
Ukungabikho komphakathi
Kungekudala, igama elithi "ukungabikho komphakathi" luvame ukuvakala, ngakumbi ngokubhekiselele kulutsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva iingxelo ezithetha ukuba abantu abaselula abayidingi nantoni ebomini ngaphandle kwemihlali. Kodwa oku akukwenyani ngokupheleleyo, iziphumo zophando loluntu zibonisa ukuba abantu abatsha, kunye nomnqweno wokwakha umsebenzi kunye nokudala intsapho, banomnqweno wokuphumelela kwimpumelelo ebomini. Ngoko umnqweno wokutshintsha into ebhetele (kuyo yonke indawo, isixeko, ilizwe, ihlabathi), enye into, ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uyakwazi ukuyiqonda loo minqweno, kwaye ngokukhawuleza okanye ukhathala ngokugqithisa kwiindonga zekhonkrithi.
Ukungasebenzi
Ngombono wokungabikho kwentlalo, ingcamango yokungahambelani kwengqondo isondelelene kakhulu, kwimeko apho oku kulandelayo kubangelwa yimpembelelo enganeleyo. Ukungahambelani kwengqondo kubangelwa yindlela engafaniyo yeendlela zokwenza umsebenzi wengqondo, kodwa oku kusebenza kubantu abaphambukayo ekuphuhliseni. Ukunyamekela kolunye uhlobo kubonakala kuyo yonke indawo - phakathi kwabantwana besikolo nabafundi abafuna ukufumana uxwebhu malunga nemfundo, kungekhona ulwazi, kubantu abadala abakhohliwe ukuba iingqondo zinikezelwa ukuhlalutya ngokuzimeleyo kweenyaniso, kwaye akukho ukholo olungenanto ngaphandle kwesinye isithethi esithandekayo. Ingxaki apha, njengoko kuchazwe ngasentla, ekukhuthazeni - akudingeki ukuba ufunde, "umsebenzi onuhlanu" awunomdla kunoma ubani, ulwazi olunzulu alufunanga, yonke ulwazi olufunekayo "gouge" kwiikhosi ezimbini zeeveki, ube yingcali kwishishini lakho ngolwazi olunzulu alukho mfuneko - umvuzo wabo uvame
Indlela yokujongana nokungathandabuzeki?
Ukuba ufuna ukukrazula ubunzima be-amorphous yabantu, kufuneka uqale nawe. Izindlela zobunzima - eyona nto ikunika ukuba uqale ukucwangcisa ubomi bakho, funda indlela yokunika i-100% kwiphina ishishini. Kodwa zonke iindlela zokulwa nokungahambelani komsebenzi ziza kuba zingenasiphelo ekungabikho kwezizathu. Ngako oko, indlela eyona nto yokulwa nayo kukuqonda into oyifunayo ebomini. Ukuziqonda, uyazi ukuba zeziphi izenzo oza kuzithatha-mhlawumbi oko ukwenzayo, ukuhamba okukuphela kwinjongo, ngoko ke ukungahambi, nokungafuni ukwenza into.