Uloyiko lunokuthiwa ngumsebenzi wokukhusela womzimba, xa umntu ewela kwindawo eyingozi. Ngenxa yoko, ulahlekelwe umnqweno wokuthatha isenzo, ukuhlakulela nokuhlala. Yingakho kubalulekile ukwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba kwangaphakathi kunye nokuxhalaba, ukukrazula izikhonkwane ezingabonakaliyo kwaye uqale ukuhlala ngendlela entsha. Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezibangele ukwesaba, kunokuthi, umzekelo, ukuzithemba, izenzo zengqondo, i-traumas, njl.
Indlela yokulahla ukwesaba kwangaphakathi?
Into yokuqala okufuneka uyenze ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana nomsebenzi kukubona ukuba ukwesaba kwakho, kuphela ukwazi iintshaba zakho kumntu ungafikelela kwiziphumo.
Yintoni ongayenza ngayo ukwesaba kwangaphakathi:
- Cinga ngeliphi ithemba elikufuphi kuwe. Umntu ukwesaba nje imeko ethile, kungekhona yinto enokwenzeka kuye kwixesha elizayo. Umzekelo, ukuba kukho ukwesaba ukundiza kwindiza, akumele ucinge ngako, kodwa malunga nezinto kunye nokuphumla, okulindelwe ekupheleni komendo.
- Cinga ngezinto ezintle zokuphumla nokugxotha iingcamango ezimbi, kufuneka ucinge ngezinto ezintle.
- Ukulibala ngokukwesaba kwangaphakathi, iingqondo zeengqondo zincoma ukufunda ukucamngca . Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uphathe zonke izinto ngokuzinzile.
- Funda ukuhlalutya imeko kwaye ubheke ukwesaba kwakho ngaphandle. Oku kuya kubangela isizathu sokwesaba, ukuhlalutya urhulumente nokufumana izigqibo.
- Indlela efanelekileyo yokuphelisa ukwesaba akuphepheli imeko eyoyikisayo kwaye ibhekane nabo rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Oku kuya kucaca ukuba konke ukwesaba kuyintlekisa kwaye ubomi buqhubeka ngaphandle kwelahleko kunye noshintsho.
- Ukuthetha ngendlela yokunqoba ukwesaba kwangaphakathi, kukufanelekile ukunikezela ngethuba elithile lusetyenziso olufunekayo ukuqala ukuphefumla ngokucokisekileyo isithintelo, ngelixa ucinga ngokuphefumula nokuphefumula.
- Yenza izinto ezenza uzonwaba, kwaye uqinise inkqubo yesiphako. Konke oku kuya kukunceda ukuba udibanise ngendlela enhle kwaye ungenanto yokwesaba.