Ukunyanzelisa kuyindlela yokuchaphazela umntu omnye okanye iqela labantu ngenxa yesiphumo esithile. Njengomthetho, olu tshintsho ngombono, ukuziphatha, ukusebenza kwezenzo ezifunwayo kulabo abachaphazelekayo.
I-teknoloji yokuxhaphaza abantu yinto eyimfihlo yabakhethiweyo. Uninzi lweempawu lufana nemfazwe kubantu abanoxolo abanokulungela kwaye abayikulindela ukuphathwa. Ekubeni imfazwe iyimfihlelo, impumelelo iyanqunywa ngokuthintela abantu ukuba bangalandeli.
Iingcali zengqondo, iingcali zenkampani zoshishino, ii-agents zeenkonzo ezizodwa, ezopolitiko, ngamanye amaxesha nabantu abaqhelekileyo basebenzise iindlela ezingavumelekanga zokuxhaphaza ekunxibelelaneni nabantu ukuze bafezekise iinjongo zabo. Ixhoba lisoloko lingazi ukuba yintoni into yokuphathwa. Ukuthobela ngokukhawuleza inkani kwaye wenze konke okufunekayo kubo. Nangona kunjalo, icala eliphambene naloo ngqekembe kukuba ngamnye kuthi, ngandlela-thile, u-manipulator. Enyanisweni, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abakwaziyo oku.
Izindlela zokuxhaphaza abantu
- Ukunyanzelisa uthando.
- Ukunyanzelisa iimvakalelo zetyala.
- Ukunyanzelisa umsindo.
- Ukunyanzelisa ukuthula.
- Ukuphathwa kakubi.
- I-Sarcasm okanye i-irony njalo njalo.
Izindlela zokuphatha abantu:
- "Ukuba uyathanda, ngoko ..." - eli binzana lenzelwe umthandayo. Ngokomzekelo, abafazi bahlala bexhaphaza amadoda . Ukususela ebuntwaneni, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kunamandla kakhulu. Abanye abazali bazama ukuxhaphaza umntwana wabo, besithi "Ukuba andiphulaphuli, oko ndithethayo, ndiya kukuyeka ukunithanda";
- Enye yezona zinto ezithandekayo zokumkela umntu osondeleyo kukunyanzelisa ukuba unetyala. Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu abachaphazelekayo baphila iminyaka kwaye bayicinga nje ngolu hlobo, kodwa abantu abazungezekileyo abanqwenela ukubanceda, kwaye ababaveleli, baze bavuselele ubugwenxa. Ngenxa yokuba ixhoba lihlala lisentloko yenkqubo yentsapho. Lo mntu uchaphazela abanye ngokuncedwa yecala. Emva kwithuba elithile, abantu ababandakanyekayo kule nto, baqala ukuqonda kunye nokusabela njani kule mpazamo.
- Abantu abasebenzisa oko kuthiwa ngumsindo onobuqili bazama ukukuphoqelela ukuba unikele kubo;
- Umntu uhlalisa ukuthulisa xa efuna ukubonisa wonke umntu indlela okhukisayo ngayo. Ngenxa yokuba ukholelwa ukuba ugqibe ekubeni ingxaki ayibalulekanga kuye. Abantu abatyelela ukuthulisa ngenxa yeso sizathu badala umoya ongaphazamisa ubudlelwane. Ukuthula, njengomthetho, kubalwa ukudala umva wecala ukuze uqonde indlela umntu othukutheleyo ngayo;
- Umngeni ngokugxininiswa kokungasebenzi: "Mhlawumbi, awukwazi ukukwazi ...", okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, udumise, wathi ngethemba lokufezekisa injongo: "Uqokelela iingxelo ngokugqibeleleyo! Kunokwenzeka ukuba, kwaye lowo ndiza kunika, akukho mntu uya kwenza okungcono kunakho! ";
- Umntu (i-manipulator) ngokukhawuleza ukhetha ithoni ephazamisayo, izimvo kunye neengxelo eziphambili, ezixhaswa ngamazwi achukumisayo okanye amahlaya.
I-psychology yokunyanzeliswa kwabantu yindawo ebandakanya inani elikhulu leendlela, ubuchule kunye nobuchule. Ngesinye isikhathi, ubugcisa bokuxhaphaza abantu babethandwa nguDale Carnegie. Kodwa ukuze uzikhusele, akufuneki ukuba ufunde
- Zama ukwahlula kumagama omnxibelelwano kuphela kwezo ngxabano abazivumelanisayo. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kukhetha kuphela oko kuyimfuneko uze uphononise ulwazi olungaphezulu;
- Ukuba awuyithandi incoko, utshintshe isihloko. Ngokomzekelo, tshela ukuba ngomso uya kucinga ngako. Oku kuya kukunika ithuba lokuba ungagxothwa kukuphathwa;
- Ukuba ucaphukisa ukuphendula ngokuhlambalaza okanye ukugxeka, ungayihoyi i-manipulator. Yithi awufuni ukubeka izimvo kulokhu kwaye unokukhubaza i-manipulator.
Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokwaneleyo ukuthetha kumntu ophethe i-"cha".
Kwaye ke, ngenxa yonyango osebenzayo, lo buchule lonakalisa, kodwa ulolu hlobo luyinzuzo kakhulu. Ngoko kufuneka ufunde ukuqaphela ukusetyenziswa, kwaye bhetele ukwazi ukuwasebenzisa.