Ukwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kwenziwa ngokwemiqathango eyaziwayo - ukubingelela entlanganisweni, ukuba unomdla kwimicimbi evela kubahlobo, kodwa akukho mithetho ye-vowel - ayithethi ngayo, kodwa ihlobene ngokusondeleyo nokuziphatha komntu kuluntu. Indlela yokufunda ukuthetha amanga, ingabangeli bungozi kwabanye, ingayitshintshi ixabiso labo ngokwenzuzo?
Kutheni abantu bexolelana?
Eli hlabathi alisungulwe nguwe-lihlala liphulaphula imithetho kwaye lakha ubudlelwane, ngamanye amaxesha, lithatha inyaniso inkohliso. Enye yeempendulo kumbuzo, kutheni abantu baxoka - umchasi akakulungele ukuva inyaniso, inyaniso inokwenzakalisa umonakalo. Iingcali zengqondo zenza izizathu ezininzi ezibangela ukuba zilale:
- uxolo oluphakathi kwezihlobo kunye nabahlobo;
- ukukhusela iimfuno zakho;
- ukungabi nantembelo - izakhiwo;
- ukunyaniseka kweziganeko zangempela;
- ukubonisa ingqwalasela eyahlukileyo kwinqaku.
Ukuba umzali uxelela umntwana omncinane ukuba umfanekiso wakhe awunanto kwaye awunomdla - kuya kuba yintloni, nangona kunjalo. Ukuxelela umntu ogulayo ngesifo esibi kuthetha ukubulala ithemba lokubuyiselwa kwiingcambu, ngokukrakra. Ukubonisa imbono yakhe ngombono, kumsebenzi, kulula, ukuba ungumntu oqeqeshiweyo kunye nomntu olungileyo, kodwa ukuba uluvo lwakhe ngaye luyahluke ngokupheleleyo, ngoko-ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakhe. Isisombululo kukulala ngokulula.
Indlela yokufunda ukulala kakuhle?
Ubudlelwane boBomi, njengombhobho wemibala, ayikwazi ukwahlula ngokuthe ngqo kwiindawo ezimbini - ubuxoki nenyaniso. Abanye abazali bafundisa abantwana ukususela ebuntwaneni-ukuba benze into embi, ngoko ungeke ukwazi ukwenza, kwaye abanye ngokuchaseneyo, bafundise ukuba iimfuno zabo zingaphezu kwayo yonke imithetho. Indlela yokufunda ukuthetha amanga okanye ubuncinane ungabonakali umbono wakho kwingozi yemfuno zakho:
- Ingxoxo eyinkimbinkimbi kunye neyantlukwano kufuneka iqalwe ukusuka kude-i-angles ephazamisayo, eqhuba imeko efanisa;
- Mhlawumbi umnxibelelwano uya kuqaphela oko kuchazwayo, ukuba unikwe "ulwazi olungamanga", kodwa akafanele ave ukhokelo oluchanekileyo kumlomo womlandeli;
- Ukungakwazi ukusebenza kwimibandela ethile kungabangela ingxabano enzima, ukuba umbalisi uyabonakala, akufuneki ukuba avume icala.
Indlela yokufunda ngamanga ngokukholisa?
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokufunda ukukopela, kodwa ungangeni esicaleni esifanayo. Uqeqesho lwakhe lokukopela lufanele luqale phambi kwesibuko, jonga ukubonakalisa ubuso bakhe, kufuneka ukhangeleke, ukuba kuyimfuneko - ngokubuhlungu nangokusisidenge, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukujonga ngokwakho ngaphandle, ukukholelwa kwindali yokukhohlisa ngokwayo. I-tone eyandisiweyo, okanye ingcinezelo yengqondo kwiimeko ezinjalo azivumelekanga.
Tshela umphulaphuli "inyaniso yakhe", ulinde ukuphendula kwakhe, ukuba akayi kukholwa, musa ukunyanzela, unike ithuba lokucinga, unikeze ingxabano ecacileyo yokucinga, udwebe ngokufanayo - khumbula imeko xa isiphene sakhe siphumela kwimiphumo emibi. Ulwazi olungamanga lumele lufihlelwe emva kokugxininiswa kwigama elithi "inyaniso" kwaye "ngokwenene", kungabi ukuqinisekisile, kodwa ukubonisa inguqulo. Musa ukubeka iminqweno yakho kwimbonakalo, ungesabi ukujonga njengento elula emehlweni omnye umntu.
Ungafunda njani ukulala ebusweni bakho?
Ukuba umntu ukhangele ubuxoki malunga neenqobo ezithile, kungcono ukuqaphela iimpazamo ezincinci kwaye ungahambisani neenkcukacha ezincinci kunye nenyaniso. Umntu onelanelekileyo uyazibona ukungabinceda kwakhe kwimeko kwaye ubeka ukungabi nolwazi, iimeko ezamshukumisela ukuba enze njalo. Indlela yokufunda indlela yokuqamba ubuqili - xa uthetha nomhlobo kwintetho engathathi hlangothi, kufuneka ujike amehlo akho kwaye uthethe ngokukhawuleza, njengokungathi umntu omaziyo uyadlula, ukuba umntu ukhangele ngasemva, kuthetha - wayekholelwa ngokwenene, wenza ukuba le nto ibe yihlaya.
Indlela yokufunda ukuthetha amanga kwaye ungabonakali?
Ukukhanyela ubuxoki njengento engenakwenzeka, ngamanye amaxesha, iimeko zichazela - akukho mfuneko ye nyaniso, akufanelekanga ngoku. Ukusebenzisa ubuxoki njengonyango oluzinzile lweengxaki - yonke imihla ayifanelekanga. Ukusuka kumava abo, umntu ngamnye unokukhipha amabali ngokukhohlisa okucacileyo, kwaye, ukuba umntu uthi makangaxoki - ulala. Indlela yokufunda indlela yokuthetha amanga - yenza umsebenzi oqhelekileyo. Izizathu ezingenabungozi zithuba lokusebenzisa inkohliso encinane, fumana amava. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zafakazela ukuba inkohliso yokuqaphela iyandisa izinga le-adrenaline egazini lomkhohlisi, ngoko kubalulekile ukufunda ngexesha elinjalo:
- ukuba ungakhathazeki;
- musa u gesticulate;
- lungisa amagxa akho;
- kugcina umzimba ukhululekile;
- Musa ukubopha iminyango;
- bathetha i binzana a ba kha wuleza;
- ungasebenzisi amagama weepasisiti;
- Musa ukunyanzeliswa ukumomotheka;
- Kubalulekile ukubandakanya inxalenye ye nyaniso kwimbali.