Ukuba sibheka ubomi bomntu kwinqanaba leembono zezinto ezilungileyo nezobuhlungu, ngoko ke inani lalo liza kubusa. Kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo ezimbi ziyimfuneko ukuba umntu aqondise umntu ngendlela elungileyo, kodwa angayi kumlawula. Kodwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ebomini kukho ukutshintsha. Abantu bahlala befumana iimvakalelo ezimbi, ezikhokelela kwimiphumo emibi, kokubili kumntu wonke kunye nokusingqongileyo.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, iimvakalelo ezintle nezimbi zibangelwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kulula ukufumana izinto ezimbi, ukuthukuthela ngenxa yezinye izinto eziyingozi, ngaloo ndlela usonakalisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwisahlulo sesibini. Eyona nto inzima kakhulu, ebudeni obudandathekileyo, fumana isisulu sokumomotheka. Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa kunamandla ngokwemvelo, abantu. Aba bantu banako, phakathi kwezinto ezimbi, ukufumana iinkalo ezintle, ngaloo ndlela bakhangela abantu abanethemba lokuphila kwabo.
Ukuphelisa iimvakalelo ezimbi kungabonakala okokuqala uhlobo oluthile lwenkathazo. Emva kwakho konke, i-negative, njenge-swamp, inokuyondla, ibhubhise loo mntu. Akumvumeli ukuba umntu ahlole ngokuthe tyekileyo okwenzekayo kwaye athole indlela engcono yokuphuma kwimeko enzima.
Ukusebenza ngeemvakalelo ezimbi zihambelana nemisebenzi yamagunya eengqondo kunye namava. Ukuphululwa komsebenzi wabo kubangela ukubonakala kweempendulo zabantu ezingalunganga nantoni na. Okokuqala, makhe sizame ukuqonda iskimu apho iimvakalelo ezintle ziphuhlisiwe.
- Umfanekiselo - unokuba yimiba eyahlukileyo, imeko, okanye umntu onokugxininisa ngaye.
- Ukuvavanya yipropati yengqondo yakho ukubonisa into yangaphandle, apho ingqwalasela yakho igxininiswe. Isekelwe kolwazi oluqokelela kulo lonke ubomi bakho.
- Impendulo yiphumo lokuvavanya kwaye yenza njengento oyenzayo ngaphandle okanye ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ekuphenduleni.
Ekubeni ukuvavanya kwakho kukubi, ngoko-mpendulo iveliswa ngokuhambelana. Iziko leengqondo lenza uvavanyo, kwaye isikhungo sengqondo - ukusabela. Ukuqonda indlela yokukrazula iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, kufuneka uzame ukutshintsha uvavanyo lwakho lwezinto ezenzekayo, okuqhelekileyo kukubangela ukuphendula okungalunganga, iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Ukuze utshintshe uvavanyo lwakho, kufuneka usebenze imihla ngemihla ukwakha ingqondo efanelekileyo. Njengoko uyazi, ingqondo yomntu, ukuqonda ngumbane onokuphinda uhlaziyeke ngokukhawuleza ngoncedo lweengcamango ezifanelekileyo.
Indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezimbi?
- Ku gqibela. Yonke ingxaki malunga neengxaki zakho. Nangona kunjalo kungaqhelekanga, kodwa xa kuvela imvakalelo engathandekiyo, qalisa ukunyusa, ubenze kwi-molehill yeendlovu. Zama ukuzisa imeko leyo ukuba wena ngokwakho uya kuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo. Emva kwexesha uya kuqonda ukuba ukunyaniseka kunye nobudenge kukukhubekisa kwaye ube nemvakalelo emibi.
- Ukukhathazeka kwengqondo. Kuyaziwa ukuba ukungaqondi kakuhle, iingxaki zeengxabano kunye neendaba ezimbi kwindawo enokusingqongileyo zichaphazela kakubi impilo yakho, iimvakalelo zakho. Njalo ekuseni, phinda uqinisekisile oku: "Ndiphumelele," "Ndiyakwenza nantoni na." Kungekudala uza kuqonda indlela yokujamelana neemvakalelo zakho ezimbi. Zinike iimeko ezilungileyo nsuku zonke.
- Ukutshintshwa. Yenza izinto ezichaphazelekayo ezichaphazela zona ezintle. Lahla iingcamango ezimbi, qonda ukuba nguwe
ukutshabalalisa, ukubuyisela endaweni enezinto ezintle. Qaphela ukuba umntu unokutshintsha ubomi bakhe ngoncedo lweengcamango. - Uqhagamshelwano noluntu. Thatha ixesha lokuphumla. Ubuncinane ngeveki, zijikelezwe ngokuthula, ubunjani. Thatha ixesha lakho, "lakho".
Ngoko, ubomi bakho buya kuzaliswa ngovuyo kunye nokuvisisana, xa uqaphela ukuba akunangqiqo ukuva iimvakalelo ezimbi. Kodwa, ukuba kwenzeka ukuba kubonakala ngathi baya kuqhuma, phumani emoyeni omtsha, baphule izitya okanye batshale umlotha. Ungayigcineli kwaye uzame ukugxininisa ingqalelo into entle.