Ngokungafani nenceba kwabanye, esiyibiza ngokuthi " inceba " kwaye, kodwa, nangona ngasese, kodwa siziqhenyce, sizive sivulekile thina ngokwethu, asizange samukelwe. Kwaye kuyisiko ukwenza abanye bazive buhlungu kuwe. Kutheni kutheni unesihawu esibi, kwaye sinokuyichitha njani, siya kuthetha namhlanje.
Ifomu efihliweyo yokuzibuzela
Ingxaki yobubele kukuba asisoloko sibona kwaye siyayiqonda le ntliziyo.
Masizame ukuqonda oko kukuzibuzela. Eli li thuba lokutshintsha uxanduva oluvela kumahlombe abo kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo. Ukubeka nje, indlela yokugxeka abangaziwayo kunye neemeko kuzo zonke iintsilelo zabo.
Kodwa ngaba kulungile, ukubandakanya ukuzithiba kunye nokwenza ityala kuwe, xa kwenzeka nayiphi na ukuhluleka - ucela. Inyaniso yolu mbandela kukuba akuyona umbuzo wecala , kodwa uxanduva. Ukuba akukho nto ithembele kuwe, ngoko awukwazi ukulawula ubomi bakho. Uzithintela ngokuzithandela ngamandla akho, ukunyusa uxanduva kwabanye.
Indlela yokuqaphela indlela efihliweyo yokuzibuzela:
- uthanda ukuxoxa nokugweba abanye. Ubume bezinto eziphilayo, urhulumente ohluphekileyo, ukusebenza kakubi, njl.;
- kwezi zivakalisi zidla ngokukhawuleza amanqaku okulindela: "liza kutshintsha nini," "xa ulawulo luya kundibona," "xa oogunyaziwe bekhumbule abantu", njl.
- unqwenela ukuhlaziywa, ukuxhaswa, kwaye akukho ndlela uzame ukutshintsha indlela yokujonga kwimiba. Ngamanye amazwi, uvuselela ukuziva kwakho.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ingxaki yokuzihawukela kunye nefuthe elidlulileyo liphawu oluthile lwabafazi. Emva koko, ukuba kaninzi kangakanani, ukufumana kumntu isiluleko esiluncedo, siyamcaphukisa ngakumbi. Sifanele sihawukele, kwaye singacaciswa ukuba ingxaki ixazululwe. Ubuncinane kwisigaba sokuqala.
Ungayikhupha njani inceba?
Okokuqala - bukela wena. Njalo xa kunomnqweno wokukhalaza ngabanye, yima, ucinge:
Khumbula: uhlala unokhetho. Ukuba awuyithandani ubuhlobo, unokwenza uguqulwe ngokukhawuleza, ungatshintsha okanye, ekugqibeleni, ushiye. Emsebenzini, apho ungaqaphelwa khona, unokuzibonakalisa okanye ubonise ngokucacileyo umbono wakho kubasemagunyeni.
Kanye kunye nento yonke, qonda ukuba loo mfanelo ayilingani netyala. Ukuthatha uxanduva lobomi bomntu ngumkhwa wabantu abaphumelelayo nabonwabileyo. Yaye ephazamiseka engqondweni yabo yecala - ininzi yelahlekile. Yenza ukhetho lwakho!