Uvakalelo lwenkanuko luyaziwa kubo bonke abantu. Imbali icebile kwimimiselo, xa kuthengiswa, ukuphazamisa iinjongo zabantu, zenziwa ngomona. Mhlawumbi, kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla, umona awubanga imbandezelo ehlabathini lonke, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba utshabalalise ubomi kunye nomona nenzalo yomona. Yintoni inomona nendlela yokujongana nayo? Iimpendulo zale mibuzo zikho kwizizathu zobona.
Ukufumana ukuqonda okujulileyo kwesi sivakalelo singakwazi ukubuyela kubulumko babantu kunye nabacingisi babantu. Emva koko, bonke abantu banamaqondo amaninzi kunye nama-aphorisms malunga nomona. Aphorisms malunga nomona omhlophe, aphorisms malunga nomona omnyama, aphorisms malunga nomona wabasetyhini kunye nomona wabahlobo. Kwaye nawuphi na ubulumko esiwuthathayo njengomzekelo, intloko iya kuba yinye-inzondo iyonakalisa kwaye ibhubhise, ivelise inhlekelele kubo bonke abachaphazelayo. Ngaba kukufanelekile ukunikela ubomi bakho ngamandla aloo mvakalelo? Okanye uzama ukujonga indlela yokulahla umona? Kodwa yinto enye xa lo mvakalelo unxulumene nomntu oyedwa ogqibayo ukulwa nomona, kwaye ngokufanayo ukujonga abantu abasondeleyo kunye nabahlobo banomdla. Kwaye phakathi kwezinye izinto, kwindlela yokuphumelela, omnye uhlangana nomona wabantu, ngokuqinisekileyo umnyama umonakalo wokunqoba. Kwimeko nganye, iindlela zokulwa nomona ziya kuhluka, kodwa kukho iziphakamiso eziqhelekileyo.
Indlela yokulahla umona wenzondelelo?
Uvakalelo lwenkanuko luhlala lulingana nesono, kuba luyingozi. Ngoko ke, ngomona entliziyweni yakho, kubalulekile ukulwa ngokukhawuleza nangenabubele. Kwaye kufuneka uqale ukufumana izizathu zoluvo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, imbangela yesono ngumona wesaba wokutshatyalaliswa, ukugqithisa kunokuba ngubani. Kodwa uloyiko aluvuki ekuqaleni. Xa umntu engazithandi, xa engamkeli ubunzulu bakhe kunye nazo zonke iingenelo kunye nokungalunganga, ngoko umntu uyaqala ukuzama ukufihla abo bajikelezileyo ukuba ucinga ukuba akafanelekanga. Iingxubusho ziphuhliswa ngesiseko sokuthi abantu abazungezekileyo bavela phi. Ngenxa yoko, umntu ubeka ubomi bakhe kwisifiso sokufumana izinto ezintle, ukuba ngcono, ukuba uphile kangcono. Kodwa yena wakha konke oku ngokuthelekisa nomntu, ngoko ke akanako ukwaneliseka kumsebenzi wakhe. Iingcamango ezilungileyo nezimbi ziyimimiselo, kwaye umahluko kukuba ngaba le ntlungu ibangela abanye ububi. Kodwa ngomntu onomona akukhathazeki ukuba umona uyimonakalisa. Kule meko, ukukhusela okulungileyo kunomona wakho omnyama kukuzivuma. Yamkela iimpazamo kunye neempawu ezilungileyo, ungesabi ukuvuma ukuba awukho into efanelekileyo njengoko ufuna ukubonakala. Xa umntu esamkela ubunzulu bakhe, ushiywe ukwesaba ukutyhila, ulahlile umnqweno wokuba ngcono kunomntu. Xa umntu ethanda yena ngokwakhe, akayi kuthanda ukutshintshisana nokuba yinxalenye yobuntu bakhe naluphi na ubutyebi, kwaye ngakumbi akayi kuzikhupha ngokucinga ukuba umntu uphumelele. Ngokuphambene noko, yonke impumelelo yabahlobo kunye neentsapho ziya kuzisa uvuyo oluchanileyo, kwaye lenze umntu ajabule.
Indlela yokukrazula umona weentombi okanye umhlobo?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umona uyabonakala ngokumalunga nabantu besijikelezo esifanayo, isimo esifanayo senhlalakahle. Ngako oko ingxaki yokukhwelelwa ngabahlobo ixhaphake kakhulu. Kubantu, umona uvame ukubonakalisa ngomsindo, ukuhlekwa usulu kunye nokuzama ukuhlazisa. Kunzima ukuqonda indlela yokukrazula umona wesifazane, kuba abafazi bahluke kwiimpawu zabo. Ewe, kulula ukukhawulelana nabantu abanomona, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, akunakwenzeka. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba impumelelo yakho ibangele ububele ngezihlobo, ngoko kuchanekile ukuthetha ngokuthe ngantoni malunga nesi sihloko kwaye uzama ukunceda ukujongana neemvakalelo eziye zavela. Musa ukugxeka abahlobo ngenxa yomona, kuba abaninzi abanakho ukuvuma le mvakalelo kubo. Injongo yendibano ukugcina umntu othandayo kwixinzelelo engqondweni, ukucinga kwakhona ngesimo sengqondo ngokwakho, ukwamukelwa nokuzithandana.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokwenza umona ube ngumkhwa, okanye ngenxa yeengxaki zobomi. Kodwa oku kuyinkimbinkimbi, ukuphuma emphefumlweni, okuthintela ukuphila ubomi obupheleleyo. Ukuqulunqa izizathu okanye umzabalazo kukukhetha ngamnye umntu. Musa nje ukulibala ukuba kukho konke ukhetho kunye nemiphumo yaso sinomsebenzi, kwaye kuya kuthi ngathi siya kuvuyiswa kwinjabulo yethu, okanye sijonge ulonwabo lwabanye.