Akukho mntu uyasikhathalela kangcono kunathi. Kuphela siyazi zonke iingxaki zethu kwaye sinokufikelela nakweyiphi na imini. Mhlawumbi kutheni ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelo luza kuthi, njengesihawu. Kulo mzuzwana uqala ukubonakala ngathi ihlabathi lonke lisetyenziswe, ukuba kungenjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo ayikhathaleli. Uvakalelo lwenkcazo ngokukhawuleza lubamba konke ukuqonda, ukuthintela ukukhangela indlela yokuphuma kwimeko enzima.
Psychology of self-compassion
Ukuzihawukela kungabonakala kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, kwaye unemibala emihle kwaye engalunganga.
Uvakalelo oluthethekileyo lunokuba luhle xa kwenzeka ukuba umntu ukhathele ngobuninzi beemeko azithathele ngokwakhe okanye intando yomnye umntu. Kule meko, ezisolekileyo, umntu unokucinga kwakhona ngomsebenzi wakhe kwaye anqabe nayiphi na ishishini.
Usizi luvakalelo olubi xa lungenalo ubuchule kwaye alukho isizathu esihle. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuzincama kuyingxenye yokuzingca.
Inokuqwalaselwa ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba ukuzithemba kuvela kwiimeko ezinzima okanye ezibucayi. Uyakwazi ukuhamba nomntu iintsuku eziliqela, kodwa ekugqibeleni kubalulekile ukuba endaweni yakhe kufika umnqweno namandla okuyicombulula imeko, kunokumlilela.
Ungayikhupha njani inceba?
Iingcali zengqondo zinikela ngokuzivocavoca ezifana nokuyeka ukuzisola:
- Bhala uluhlu lwezinto onayo, ukuba abantu abazungezile bangaba nomona: imoto, indlu, umsebenzi omhle, abazali, abantwana, impilo, intsapho, othandekayo, ubulumko .
- Cinga ngabo bantu ababi kakhulu kunakho: abangenamakhaya, iinkedama, abangenamntwana, abakhubazekile, njl. Kodwa mhlawumbi unokubanceda into ethile?
- Bhala phantsi ezintlanu iinketho malunga nokuba zeziphi iingenelo ezinokuba zivela kwimeko. Ngokomzekelo, waphosa umfana. Iziphumo zolu: kukho enye engcono; unokuyeka emva koko, kwaye nangomntwana; isiseko sazo savezwa; kwakhona unenkululeko.
- Bhala yonke imihla yonke into enhle,
kwenzeka ntoni ngosuku. Oku kungaguqulelwa ngohlobo lomdlalo: amaxesha amahlanu amahle kakhulu emini. - Ungazivumeli ukuba uzihawukele kwaye uzikhalaze ngabanye. Ukuba unamathela kulo mgaqo ubuncinane ngeveki, uya kubona indlela ubomi obuye buyolisa ngayo.
- Vumela ukuba uzizisole, kodwa kungekho ngaphezu kweentsuku ezimbini. Le mihla unokuzilungiselela umthendeleko wakho: ukuba uhlale e-cafe, uthenge iimpahla ezintsha, ulale embhedeni yonke imihla, njl. Into ephambili kukuba uzinikezele ngokupheleleyo kwaye ulungiselele ukuthatha inyathelo elongezelelweyo.