Namhlanje, ezimbalwa izibini zikhetha ukutshata. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto, kwaye enye yezinto eziphambili ziyazamazama phambi kwesigamente, kuba umtshato unabo, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukubaluleka kokomoya. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba inkqubo yomtshato ayikho rhoqo, kungekhona wonke umntu owaziyo imigaqo yokuziphatha kwayo ebandleni, oko kuthatha umtshato kunye nendlela ohamba ngayo. Izikhelo zolwazi kufuneka zizaliswe, ngoko ke sihlangabezana nemigaqo eqhelekileyo yomtshato ebandleni.
Umtshato ungenakwenzeka nini?
Kukho imigaqo, ukuba ingazalisekanga, umtshato ebandleni ngeke kwenzeke:
- Akuvunyelwe ukutshata ngaphezu kwamaxesha amathathu.
- Abantu abanobudlelwane obusondeleyo (ukuya kuma-4 amanyathelo) abakwazi ukutshata. Ngobudlelwane bokomoya - i-kum kunye no-godfather, u-godparent kunye no-godson, umtshato awuvunyelwe.
- Umtshato awunakwenzeka ukuba umtshakazi okanye umyeni akhankanyele ukuba bangakholelwa kuThixo kwaye baya kutshata ngezizathu ezingaphandle.
- Abayi kutshata isibini ukuba ubani ongabhaptizwa kwaye akafuni ukubhaptizwa ngaphambi komtshato okanye athi enye inkolo.
- Ukuba omnye ozayo uza kutshata (i-civil or ecclesiastical). Iimfuno zoluntu zimele zipheliswe, kwaye kumtshato wesonto, kubalulekile ukufuna imvume kubhishophu ukuba ichithe kwaye iphethe entsha.
- Umtshato usenziwa emva kokubhaliswa kombuso womtshato.
Yintoni oyifunayo umtshato ebandleni?
Ngethuba lokulungiselela umtshato akumele ulibale ngezinto ezilandelayo:
- Ingubo yomtshato ifanele ibe yinyanisekileyo - ngaphandle koxinzelelo olunzulu kunye nokutyunjwa, iingalo nemilenze zivaliwe. Kwakhona, ngokwesiko, imbobo yomtshato kufuneka ibe nesitimela, kucingelwa ukuba, ixesha elide loliwe, ubomi obatshatileyo buya kuba yinto evuyayo. Kwaye ke, impahla yomtshakazi ifanele ihlawulwe ngesigqubuthelo.
- Amacenge omtshato, okufuneka anikezelwe kwangaphambili ukuba angcwalise umbingeleli. Ngaphambili, iindandatho zomtshato zahlukile - igolide (ilanga) yomyeni nesilivere (inyanga) yomfazi. Ngoku esi siko asihambelani.
- Kuba abasanda kutshata kufuneka bawele iinqamlezo.
- Kuya kuthatha ithawula okanye ingqungquthela yelinen emhlophe apho abo basanda kutshata baza kumela.
- Ekubeni umcimbi womtshato uthatha ixesha elide, kuyafaneleka ukunyamekela izicathulo ezipholileyo.
- Ngethuba lomtshato, umtshakazi nomyeni baphethe iimpawu, kufuneka bazingcweliswe ngaphambili.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ngaphambi komtshato?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi banomdla ngombuzo wendlela yokulungiselela umtshato, kuba akukhona nje ukucoceka kwengubo ebalulekileyo. Namhlanje, ukuhlambuluka isithsaba akusisadingeki, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba isakramente yezinto ezithile zifaneleke. Ngoko ngosuku lomtshato, ukuqala phakathi kobusuku, kufuneka ubaleke ukulala ngesondo, ukutya, utshwala kunye nokutshaya. Ecaweni abancinci bayavuma kwaye bafumana intlawulelo, emva koko batshintshe kwiingubo zomtshato.
Umthendeleko womtshato njani?
Ewe, akunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uchaze ngokugcwele umtshato, kwaye akuyimfuneko - yonke ubuhle nobungcwele bembambano kunokuqondwa kuphela emva kokudlula le sakramente. Kodwa ezinye iingongoma zifuna ukuvunyelwana. Umzekelo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba umtshato uthatha ixesha elingakanani. Ixesha lolo suku alukho ngaphantsi kwemizuzu engama-40. Oku kubangelwe kukuba inkohlakalo kunye nomtshato ngoku ziqhutywe kunye, ngoxa kwangaphambili le mihlangano yabanjwa ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo.
Eyokuqala ngumthendeleko wokutshatyalaliswa, ekuqaleni umbingeleli unikela ikhandlela zincinci, ngoko umtshakazi uya kufuneka ukuba angathathi icawa yakhe ebandleni okanye ayinike omnye umntu isikhashana. Emva kokutshatyalaliswa, abaza kutshata baya kwikomkhulu le tempile, apho isiganeko somtshato esenzeka khona. Emva koko kulandela ukuphindaphinda kwemithandazo, ukubeka iigrafu kwiintloko zentsha. Isitya sewayini siziswa kwiholo, esibonakalisa zonke izifo kunye nemihlali yobomi bentsapho, kwaye iwayini inqatywe kathathu nge-sips encinci. Umcimbi womtshato uphela kunye neendinyana zabalingani ngokujikeleza umfanekiso kunye nokufundwa komfundisi kokwakha.