Ukuvalwa kunye nokuqina akufaki ukuzithemba ekuxoxeni nabantu. Ukuze sikwazi ukuxhasa isihloko sesincoko, ukuba ube mnxibelelwano onomdla - abaninzi abanokuziqhayisa ngale nto. Ukuzibandakanya njengomgangatho womntu kuyimfuneko ukuphuhlisa ngokwakho. Oku kunokwenzeka, into ephambili ukubeka le njongo.
Abantu bahlulwe zibe zimbini iintlobo: i-extroverts kunye nama-introverts. Uhlobo lokuqala luvulelekile kubantu, ukuthetha. Ama-Introverts ngabo abo bathetha nabo. Zivaliwe kwilizwe langaphandle. Oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo kwaye idibanise ngakumbi kumnxibelelanisi onjalo.
Ukuzibandakanya kunye nentlalontle iingcamango ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Sichaza ezi nkcazelo ezilandelayo:
- Ukuxhatshazwa ngumntu ofuna umnxibelelwano nabanye abantu;
- ukuxhumana kukukwazi ukuba umntu akwazi ukusekwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye azise oonxibelelwano kuwo nawaphi na iqela ixesha elifutshane.
Indlela yokuphuhlisa intlalo?
Kulula ukukhutshwa ngokuthetha nomntu onokuthi athethe into ethile. Abantu abanentshisekelo, abafundayo, abafundayo baya kushiywa ingqalelo. Nakuphi na ingxoxo, umntu onjalo uyamkeleka. Kubalulekile ngathi ukuva uluvo lomnye kulo mbuzo okanye lo mbuzo, ukufumana ingcamango yomntu. Ngenxa yoko uqeqesho lokuqala lophuhliso loluntu:
- ngakumbi ukufunda, ukubukela nokuphulaphula iinkqubo zophuhliso, kuba "ukratshi" ngolwazi olutsha.
- Abantu abanxibelelwano abanesabi ukuba baqhelane nabantu abatsha. Kubo, oku kunomdla omkhulu. Ukuze ukwandise intlalontle yakho, yenza oku kulandelayo:
- ngokukhawuleza xa ufumana kwindawo ephakamileyo (ivenkile, ipaki yokuzonwabisa, i-cinema, i-theater), ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokuba uze uxoxe nomfokazi. Xa unokwenza ukuba unxibelelwano olunjalo "olubandayo", ujonge ngakumbi kwaye uyaqiniseka ukuba uya kuba unxibelelwano. Umxholo unokuba yinto elula kakhulu: imozulu, ukhetho lwe-movie, umva emva kokubukela ukusebenza, njl.;
- xhobisa ukuba "ujabule" kwaye ubonise umdla ngakumbi kwincoko. Ukuphuhlisa umkhuba wokuthetha, musa ukuma eceleni.
Ngokuqhelekileyo sididekile kakhulu xa, xa sidibene kwi-Intanethi ngomntu onomdla kwiimbono zethu, kwintlanganiso yangempela, ngokukhawuleza iba yilamonic. Inyaniso kukuba ukuthetha ngokugqithisileyo kunikwa lula ngakumbi kuncoko yangempela. Abantu abanjalo abanalo i-high degree of contact. Banoyike abantu, okanye bangabakhuselekanga ngokwabo, abaqhayisa, okanye bonke ndawonye "kwibhotile enye". Khumbula ukuba ukukhulumisana kuphela kunokukuzisa umphumo oyifunayo ekuxazululeni ingxaki yakho.