Ukuthintela ukuzibulala kwabantu abaselula

Ixesha lesigxina lixesha elinzima kakhulu ebomini bakho, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abathobekileyo nabantwana abathobelayo baqala ukutshintsha kakhulu ngeli xesha. Oku kubangelwa kuzo zombini "izivunguvungu" ze-hormone emzimbeni, kunye nokulungiswa kwengqondo, okubangela ukuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ekhulileyo aphinde acinge kwakhona indawo yabo kwihlabathi kwaye anqume ukuba ngubani. Ngamanye amaxesha kunxulumene nokuxinezeleka okukhulu, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba abazali baqonde malunga nokuthintela ukuzibulala kwabaselula. Inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ngamanye amaxesha ayinakukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zabo, kwaye oku kungabangela intlekele.

Izinto ezibalulekileyo zokuziphatha ngokuzibulala kwabaselula

Kwizizathu ezibangela ukulimala kakhulu kunye nokufa kwabafundi besikolo esiphakamileyo, kubalulekile ukugqamisa oku kulandelayo:

• ukuvakalela abanye, ukuhlukanisa umhlaba kunye nokuzimelela okuhambelana nokungaqondi kakuhle kwentsha;
• ukunganeliseki nawe; ukuzisola nangayiphi na isenzo, ubukho bezinto ezinzima malunga nokubonakala okanye ukunxibelelana noontanga;
• ukwesaba ukujeziswa;
• uthando olungenabuhlali (oko kutheni ukuthintela ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala kwabantwana abaselula esikolweni kuyimfuneko: ubuhlobo obuninzi kulo nyaka buhlanganiswe phambi kootitshala);
• ukungabikho kwengqiqo malunga nabathandekayo, ukulahlekelwa kwabo, ukwahlukana kwabazali babo ;
• ukwesaba ukuxhatshazwa nokuthotywa kweentanga;
• umnqweno oqhubekayo wokunyusa ingqalelo, umnqweno wokubangela uvelwano okanye ukuphepha imiphumo yesimo esingathandekiyo;
• ukuxelisa abalinganiswa bombhalo, amaqhawe amafilimu okanye ontanga.

Yintoni ebandakanyiweyo ekukhuseleni ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala ebusheni?

Ngelishwa, nokuba ngabazali abanothando kakhulu abanako ukufakazela ukuba ingcamango yokuya kwihlabathi elizayo ayiyi kutyelela umntwana wabo kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Emva koko, ngexesha lokutshintshwa kweemeko, nokuba yimeko enzima ngenxa yokungazinzi kwe-psyche ingabangela impendulo enganeleyo. Ngoko ke, qwalasela iingcebiso kubazali ngokuthintela ngokufanelekileyo ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala kwabaselula:

1. Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka kunye nomntwana wakho omdala, mbuze malunga neshishini lakhe, izifundo, abahlobo. Ingakumbi unyana okanye intombi iyakuthemba, ngaphambili uya kuphawula iimpawu zokuqala zokuzibulala: ukuxinezeleka, utshintsho ekuziphatheni, ukungabikho kokuthandana kunye noontanga, ukuthetha rhoqo ngokufa. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ekuthintela ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala kwabaselula.
2. Nika umntwana wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba uyamkela njengoko kunjalo, nangona wenza iphutha kwaye wenza into engalunganga. Into ebalulekileyo ekukhuseleni ukuziphatha ngokuzibulala phakathi kolutsha lukulungele ukukunceda ukuba intombazana okanye intombazana ibonisa ngokuzibulala. Ukuhleka usulu okanye ungathathi la magama ngokungathí sina - into eyona nto ungayenza ukunyanzelisa ukufa ngokuzithandela.
3. Funda ukuphulaphula ngenyameko. Ngamanye amaxesha isiqingatha seyure, esabelwe ukuva emlonyeni weselula ukuba uvume ukuziphatha okubi, ingasindisa ubomi.
4. Musa ukuphikisana nomntwana ocinga ukushiya eli hlabathi, kwaye ubuze imibuzo ehamba phambili. Ukukhusela ukuzibulala kwabafundi kunye nabaselula, kuyimfuneko ukukhuphela nayiphi na imbonakalo yobundlobongela kumntu omdala onokutshatyalaliswa kwaye aziphathe ngendlela engafanelekanga xa ekhankanya ukuzibulala njengendlela yokusombulula iingxaki.
5. Ukunikela ukucinga kunye nendlela yokuphuma kwimeko enzima. Kuzo zonke iziphakamiso zokuthintela ukuzibulala phakathi kwabantwana abaselula, oku kunzima ukuzalisekisa, kodwa ukugxininisa kwisikolo esikhathazekile ukuba nethemba elona lihle kakhulu liyindlela eyakhayo eya kuba nezithelo.