Akukho nto eyenzeka ngaphandle kwesizathu, kwaye ukuba umntwana usele ekhaya, kuthetha ukuba kwenzeka into ethile. Ngoko ke, ngaphezu kokufuna umntwana wakho, simele sifumanise isizathu salo msebenzi omkhulu. Ngenxa yobudala babo, abantwana abaselula banombono ohlukileyo wezinto ezenzekayo, ngamaxesha amaxesha ahluke kakhulu kumbono omdala wale meko.
Ukuba umfana osele ekhaya, kubalulekile ukwenza oku:
- uthetha nabo bonke abahlobo bakhe, abahlobo kunye nezihlobo;
- ukuhlola ngokucophelela zonke iimpahla zomntu;
- ukuvakalisa ukulahlekelwa kwamapolisa;
- ukukhangisa kwiintengiso kwiintanethi zentlalo, kwisitalato kunye nasezothutho;
- qhubeka udibanisa kwaye ungasabi.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekufumaneni ikhefu ukusuka kwikhaya elivisayo, ngokufanelekileyo ukuziphatha kwintlanganiso yokuqala, ngaphandle koko unokubangela ukuba ubaleke ngokuzayo.
Awukwazi ukumgxeka uze umjezise ngokusinda, kufuneka umbonise indlela umthandayo ngayo nokuba ubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kwaye ke qalisa ukufumana isizathu sokuba ahambe ekhaya.
Izizathu ezibangela ukuba abatsha bashiye ikhaya
Ukungonwabi kwintsapho
Ubundlobongela basekhaya, abazali abaphila ngokungahambisani nabantu, ukungondleki kwintsholongwane abashukumisayo abasetratweni, apho banokukrazula konke oku. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiimeko ezinjalo, abantwana bahamba rhoqo, ngokukhawuleza kuba kuba nzima ukuba banyamezele. Bachitha ubusuku kwiindawo zokuhlala okanye kwiindawo eziqhelana nabantu besitrato, baqaphela ngokutsha utywala kunye neziyobisi.
Uloyika isohlwayo
Emva kokufumana uvavanyo olungalunganga okanye abangazange bahlangabezane nokulindela kwabazali ekuhlolweni, abantwana babo baxhaphazwa kakhulu okanye banengcinezelo yengqondo kwintsapho, befuna ukuyiphepha, bafumana indlela yokungayi kubuya ekhaya.
Ukuthintela ukutshintshwa kweziganeko ezinjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba abazali abanqwenela njani ukuba nomntwana obalaseleyo, kufuneka sihlale siphinda sithande ukuba bayamthanda naziphi na iimvavanyo.
Uthando
Uthando olungapheliyo okanye ukuthintela ulwalamano luyinye yezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokushiya abantwana ebusheni. Ngexesha apho basabela ngokugqithiseleyo kubo bonke ngenxa yokulungiswa kwe-hormone, abazali kufuneka baxhasane, bachaze, kodwa akukho nto bayayihlekisa ngayo kwaye bayavumbele iimvakalelo zomntwana wabo, nokuba ngaba bacinga ukuba kusasa kakhulu.
Umntwana uqhagamshelana nenkampani embi
Ukuqhagamshelana nenkampani embi, intombazana, ukuze iyakwamukelwa kuyo okanye phantsi kwayo impembelelo, ekukhangekeleni ukuzonwabisa okwenqatshelwe, iyakushiya ekhaya. Ukuthintela oku, abazali kufuneka bazise ulwalamano oluthembekileyo kunye nomntwana wabo kwaye bazi ukuba ngubani othetha naye kunye nokujonga ngokuthe ngqo ukutshintsha kwindlela yokuziphatha.
Njengombhikisho ngokubhekiselele kwi-hyperope
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa uneminyaka eyi-13-14, abantwana abaselula bafuna ukuzimela, kwaye abazali babo abahlali bekulungele ukubonelela. Ngenxa yoko, kukho ukungquzulwano okungakhokelela ekubeni ushiye ikhaya ukukhangela inkululeko. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uya kubahlobo okanye aphendule ifowuni kunye nabahambahamba ngezitrato.
Ukutsala ingqalelo yabazali
Le meko ibonakalayo kwiintsapho ezihlelelekileyo kunye nokucima xa abazali bengayithobeli
Zonke ezi zizathu zihambelana neempawu zengqondo zentsholongwane: ukuvela komntu omdala, ukukhula komzimba, i-maximalism, njl njll. Ukuze ukhusele ukuxothwa kwintsapho, abazali abanabantwana abaselula kufuneka baqwalasele ukuxhumana kwabo nabo, baqale ukubala uluvo, baxhase ngakumbi kwaye bahlonele njengomntu.