Bonke abazali abaselula bayesaba ukuba umntwana angakwazi ukuqhagamshelana nenkampani embi. Kodwa awukwazi ukuhlukanisa umntwana wakho kuluntu, ukwenzela ukuba uncede abazali abanenkathalo kweli nqaku, siya kuqwalasela ukuba kutheni kwenzeka oku kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe ntoni kuloo meko.
Kutheni abantwana beselula befumana iinkampani ezimbi?
Uyakuqonda njani oko kushukumisa abantwana, kwintsapho evuya, xa beqala ukuphulwa komyalelo karhulumente, baqhekeza isikolo, bahlambalaze, ngaba bahlakulela imikhwa emibi? Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa abazali ukuba baqale ukuqaphela ukuba abantwana babo kule minyaka abayena bantwana nantoni na, kodwa ayingabantu abadala. Ngoko ke, ukuba nomdla kwinkampani embi, banako ngezi zizathu ezilandelayo:
- Ukufuna ukuthembeka - kule minyaka, ukunxibelelana noontanga ngumsebenzi ophambili, kwaye uninzi oluqinileyo kunye olugunyazisiweyo ngabantu ababi;
- ukusuka kumbono wokuphikisana, ophakanyiswa kakhulu kwiintsholongwane, ndifuna ukuthanda wonke umntu;
- enqwenela ukuthandwa - emva kokuba bonke abantu abadumileyo esikolweni ngabaphulaphuli-myalelo, yoko kutheni banomdla;
- ngenxa yesazi - ukungabikho kolwazi nenkululeko kubangela umdla kunye nomnqweno wokufumanisa oko kukuthi ( ukutshaya , ukufumana, ukulwa);
- ukukhangela indawo yomntu ngumnqweno wendalo wokwamkelwa kuluntu, izinto ezininzi ezimbi zenziwa kuphela "kwenkampani", kunye nabaselula abangakhange bazimisele injongo yabo ebomini bazame ukuyifumana ngetyala kunye nephutha.
Kuthekani ukuba umntwana ungumhlobo "nababi"?
Mamela
Basebenziswa ngxaki zabo zokusebenza kunye neengxaki, abazali bachitha ixesha elincinane kunye nabantwana babo abakhulileyo kwaye ngoko bahlala bephosakele umzuzu xa umntwana wabo eqala ukuqhelana nenkampani embi. Oku kunokwenziwa ukuba: uphulaphula omnye umculo, uyamnqabela ukuba angene egumbini lakhe, akugweme, kwaye xa edibana naye uhlambalaze kwaye efihla amehlo akhe, uya kuba nzima esikolweni okanye abuyele. Ngokukodwa kubalulekile ukunyamekela xa abantu abatsha bevela kwinqingi yabahlobo abaselula.
Intetho ngentliziyo
Ukuqaphela inguqu ekuphatheni komntwana, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha naye, kodwa le ngxoxo kufuneka ihlelwe ngokuhambelana nemigaqo elandelayo:
- ukuthetha kangcono kwindawo ekhululekile-kwi-cafe okanye kwimeko;
- Ukuba unengxabano, yenza ingqondo yakho kwaye uqale ukuthetha emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, xa ubuhlobo buphucula;
- Musa ukufunda imilinganiselo, musa ukusola into into;
- unike umzekelo kumava akho, ubuze umbono wakhe kule meko.
Ngokucokisekileyo kuyimfuneko ukuthetha ngabahlobo abatsha obacingelayo, baxelele, nantoni na ukuba awuyikuyihlela. Khumbula ukuba okokuqala kukukhohlisa, ungaxhomeli nawaphi na amaleyibhile kubantwana abaselula, zama ukufunda okungakumbi malunga naba bahlobo.
Sebenza kunye nabanye abazali
Ukwazi kakuhle intsapho yabantwana bakho kuya kukunceda ufunde okunye malunga nabahlobo bakhe, kodwa kunye nomzekelo wentsapho, uqinisekise ubungqina bebango lakho, kodwa oku kufuneka uvumelane nabanye abazali malunga neemfuno ezifanayo, umzekelo: ukuhamba ukuya kwixesha elithile.
Yiba ngumhlobo wakhe
Qala ukuchitha ixesha elingakumbi nomntwana wakho, funda indlela yokuthetha ngayo , fumana inxaxheba ebandakanyekayo kunye kunye:
- bahlala bexoxa naye;
- musa ukuxelela iimfihlo zakhe, kwintsapho;
- Musa ukuhlazisa okanye ukumthuka;
- kunqatshelwe kwaye kaninzi ukucacisa ukuba kutheni kubi kwaye akunakwenzeka;
- Musa ukukhawulela inkululeko yakhe, bonisa ukuba uyamthemba;
- Ucele ukuxolelwa xa unetyala.
Sitshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo
Ukuthetha ngengozi yento ethile, umele ube ngumzekelo kuye: ukulahla imikhwa emibi, ungafungi, wenze umsebenzi wesikolo. Esikhundleni sokumangalelwa rhoqo, mkhusele kangcono ukuba angahlaseli abanye abantu, uze uqhube incoko, kutheni kwenzeka.
Thatha ixesha
Fumana enye indlela yokuchitha ixesha elingenasiphelo ngaphandle kokubhala: bhala phantsi kwicandelo lezemidlalo okanye isangqa, uthenge inja okanye ibhayisekile.
Yiza ekuhlanguleni ngexesha
Xa imeko ide kakhulu kwaye umntwana useengozini yokhuseleko kunye nokukhusela kwakhe, kuyimfuneko ukuphazamisa uxhulumaniso olunobungozi kakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, kwanxamnye nentando yakhe.
Ukuba uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba avume ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyaziqhayisa ngaye, ngoko kunye neengxaki kunye neminqweno uza kuza kuwe, abazali bakhe, kwaye kungekhona kwinkampani engenamdla.