Ukoyika ngesondo

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunceda abantu ukuba basondele, bahlekise baze bawulethe kumlingane wabo. Ubaluleke kakhulu obusondelene nabo bubomi bomzimba. Emva koko, akusiyo mfihlelo kunoma ubani ukuba ubomi emva komtshato kude kude neenganekwane esiye sijwayele ukuzibona kwiimifanekiso zokusukela ebuntwaneni. Kubalulekile ukugcina umnqweno kunye nokuqonda phakathi kwabatshatileyo abangenanto yokuqhagamshelana ngokwesondo kunzima ukwenza. Kutheni kukho ukwesaba ngesondo (i-sexophobia) - isihloko sesingxoxo sethu namhlanje.

"Andifuni, andiyi kuba"

Uloyiko lwesini lokuqala lubangelwa engaziwayo. Iinkalo zeemfundiso azikwazi ukubuyisela amava ayenzayo. Eyokuqala ukusuka kule minyaka yokugqibela ingahluka ngokubanzi. Unako ukwazi ngesondo konke, kodwa xa kufike ngqo kwizesondo, ibhinqa (kwiimeko ezininzi) linokutshatyalaliswa nguloyiko. Izizathu zingaba zilandelayo:

• Ukungafuni ukutshatyalaliswa kwindalo yokuziphatha. Intombazana, mhlawumbi, ikhawuleze kunye nesigqibo. Xa lo mcimbi waqala ukuthetha ngesondo, waqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba "wayengakulungele." Kule meko, kubalulekile ukulinda ixesha elide;
• ukuzithemba. Iingxaki, ukuzithoba, ukungazithobeli - konke oku kukuthintela ukuba ukhulule kwaye uzinikezele ngokupheleleyo "kwinkqubo";
• ndithandabuzo malunga neqabane lokuqala. Kubonakala ngathi ilungile, kodwa indoda ingathandabuzeki. Ukungathembeki komlingane ngenye yezona zinto ziphazamisayo. Ukuba ungathandabuzeki, ngoko kutheni konke oku? Ngaba akunakuqiqa ukufumana umntu oza kulungele ukuba ngowokuqala?

Amava olwalamano olusenyongweni lokuqala ludlala indima ebalulekileyo kwimpilo yesondo elandelayo yowesifazane. Iimeko ezinjalo njengokwesaba ngesondo zingabuya emva kokungaphumeleli kwimeko yokuqala yesini, kwaye kwikamva liza kubangela iingxaki ebomini bakho.

Uloyiko lwesini lunokumiselwa kwithuba lokugqibela emva kwabafazi. Ukukhulelwa, ukubeletha nokuzala - uxinzelelo oluqinileyo lomzimba kunye neengqondo. Xa kwenzeka ukuba kunzima ukuzalwa, lo wesifazane uyika ixesha elithile ukuba abuye azalwe kwakhona, kodwa ukuba anikwe ukuthanda ukuvuya. Akunakukhathazeka kwingcamango yokulala ngesondo kuphela. Konke oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kudlula. Kufuneka ixesha kuphela - yonke into iya kuba njengaphambili.

Kwaye esinye isizathu esibalulekileyo, ngenxa yokuba kukho ukwesaba ukulala ngesifo, isifo esitshintshiselweyo, sisasazeka ngesondo. Imiphumo engathandekiyo, ukubuyiswa kwexesha elide kunye nobunzima kunokukhokelela ekuhlaleni isondo. Uthando nokholo kwiqabane lakho liyakunceda ukuba ulilahle.