Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuphumeza umgomo wakho: unokwenza, ukhuthaze, unokuqhubeka, kwaye unokufunda indlela yokuphatha abantu , kwaye baya kufaka yonke into abayifunayo kwisitya sesilivere, kwaye baya kukholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba esi sigqibo sabo. Yaye akusiyo amabali amnandi, i-psychology yokuxhaphaza abantu ivule ithemba elihle kakhulu. Enye into yokuba akusiyo yonke into ebhekiselele kwintsimi yokusetyenziswa kolwazi kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla, kodwa ke impendulo ixhomekeke ekuhlaleni - ubudlelwane namadoda.
I-Psychology yokuxhaphaza indoda
Ngokubanzi, onke amabhinqa ayazi kakuhle i-psychology yokuxhaphaza indoda , kuphela abantu abathile basebenzisa le ndlela kunokwakheka, umzekelo, wenqaba "ukufikelela emzimbeni", uzama ukuxubusha into ethile. Le ndlela ayilona ngempumelelo, isebenza kuphela ixesha lokuba nobuhlobo besikhathi eside. Enyanisweni, uqikelele ngamaphesenti angu-99 ekuqaleni kokumazana naye, "ukuwa kwe-citadel" ngokukhawuleza kakhulu, abantu abambalwa kufuneka bathathwe. Kodwa ubulumko bendoda malunga nendlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ngesisu kulungile kunabo bonke, ngokuqinisekileyo uqaphele ukuba emva kokudliwayo okumnandi umntu unobungane kwaye uqonda ngokungafaniyo.
Iengqondo zonyango
Olu hlobo lokuxhaphaza luquka ukusetyenziswa ngobuchule kweempawu zepateni ezinokukunceda ukufezekisa injongo. Umzekelo, ukukhuthaza umntu ukuba enze into oyifunayo, ngaba inqaku elithi "Ndiyazi ukuba ngenxa yam uya kwenza nantoni na," "yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle, ungacingi ngantoni na," "wena uyayifuna." Kodwa wonke ummeli wesigqeba esinamandla kufuneka afune indlela yakhe, umntu ufuna udumo, kwaye umntu unomdla kakhulu ukuba kulula ukuba afumaneke kuye, "amthintele." Indoda yakho iya kukunceda ngokunyamekela kwakho, funda ukuba iziphi iimvakalelo ezibangela ukuhlaselwa kwakhe
Ukuba ezi zikhethi ezingentla zingakufanelanga, zama enye indlela yokwenza kakubi, ufihle umnqweno wakho ophantsi phantsi kwetawuncinci zee-oda ezincinci. Kunzima kubaninzi ukuthatha umsebenzi wehlabathi ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kuya kuba lula ukuwufeza ngokuthe ngcembe. Musa nje ukutyhila ngokukhawuleza yakho inkohliso, kwaye loo mntu uya kuqonda ukuba ugqibe ukumbetha, kwaye ulahlekelwa ngummeli wesini esithandayo. Ungakulibali ukuba iqabane lakho linokukunceda, kwaye kumandla akho ukwenza le "game chess" inomdla umdla.