Kude kwinto enqabileyo yinto yokuba uyayiva kwintombazana encinane: "Xa ndikhulile, ngokuqinisekileyo ndiya kutshata nobaba." Abafana abaneminyaka emithathu okanye emihlanu bahlala bethetha ukuba batshata nomama wabo, kwaye uya kubabeletha abazalwana okanye odade.
I-Oedipus complex ngokungqinelana noFrud ibonisa ukungqubuzana kwengqondo phakathi kwesimo somntwana ukuba bambambe umzali wesini esahlukileyo kwimimiselo yesondo kunye nokuvinjelwa kulo nyathelo. UFrud waqala ukuthetha ngeengxaki ze-edipov kubantwana ekuqaleni kwekhulu leminyaka elidlulileyo, kodwa emva kweminyaka emininzi yakhe yembono.
Unyango lwe-oedipal ubunzima ebuntwaneni bubalulekile. Ngaphambili, njengomzali, ukujamelana nale ngxaki, ubunzima obunzima obuya kuba nako kwixesha elizayo. Xa uvakalelwa kukuba ukugula kwengqondo kubonakaliswa kumntwana ngokunyanisekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale unxibelelana nomntwana, zama ukufumana kuye iimvakalelo ayenayo malunga nomzali wesini esahlukileyo, oko uvakalelwa ngoku, ukuba yiziphi iingcamango analo malunga noyise okanye unina. Yiba nokunyaniseka kwaye umamele umntwana wakho, ungamphazamisi nonke-umnike ithuba lokuzibonakalisa kuwe kwaye uthethe. Oku kuya kunceda uhlalutye imeko kwaye ucinge ngesisombululo sakho. Ukuba uziphatha ngokuqinile, ngokuqhubekayo ekuxazululeni ubunzima be-Oedipus, ngoko uya kukwazi ukusombulula le ngxaki kumntwana wakho.
I-Oedipus ubunzima kubasetyhini
Inkqubo ye-Oedipus kumantombazana ibonakaliswa kwisityhilo esikhethekileyo sikayise. Ukukhula, intombazana inokuqala nokuziphatha kakubi kunye nxamnye nomama, ngenxa yomona. Ukongezelela, kwixesha elizayo, amantombazana anolu xilongo angase abe neengxaki zokuthetha ngesini esahlukileyo, ekwakheni ubudlelwane babo, kuba "njengePapa" akulula ukuyifumana.
Ukuba abazali bangakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo kwintsapho, kwaye uyise akayi kubonisa ingqalelo ngokugqithiseleyo kwintombazana, ekugqibeleni umntwana usenokukrazula i-Oedipus complex, elingana nonina. Kubalulekile ukuthembela kunye nobudlelwane obufudumele phakathi koomama nentombi ngeli xesha lolwalamano lwabo, kunye nobawo, kufuneka bazame ukuhlakulela kwimpawu zakhe zobuntwana ekuza kumnceda abe ngumfazi .
Kubalulekile ukukrazula ubunzima be-Oedipus ebuntwaneni, ngaphandle koko intombazana, kwaye ngokuzayo umfazi unokufumana iingxaki ezinzulu zengqondo. Unako ukuhlala ngonaphakade ngothando noyise, kule ndoda efanelekileyo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekwenzeni ukwakhela ubomi bobuqu, okanye umfazi uya kudibanisa isithuba sakhe nomntu omdala kunabo - ngokufanelekileyo.
I-Oedipus inkathazo kumadoda
UFrud wachaza ngelinye ilanga ukuba uluvo lwe-Oedipus luyahlwayelwa yindoda yesini. Xa ubunzima be-oedipus buqala ukuzibonakalisa kumakhwenkwe, kubalulekile ukukhulula umntwana wakho kule sigulo sengqondo ngexesha. Kwimfesane ye-Oedipus, ubunzima buchazwe ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: umntwana unomnqweno wokuba nonina ngesondo, kwaye bayazibona uyise ngolo xesha njengengxabano. Konke oku kwenzekayo, ewe, kwinqanaba elincinci. Kubalulekile ngexesha
Ubuntwaneni, ubunzima be-oedipus buya kulahleka xa kunikwa ixesha lokuqwalasela kwaye uthathe ingxaki yengane. Okubaluleke kakhulu ngeli xesha kuhambelana ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali.
Ukuba inkwenkwe yakho inomnqweno oqhubekayo ukuba ube ngumfazi wakhe, ubonisa ukuxhomekeka okusemzimbeni nangokwemvakalelo kuwe, ngoko kufuneka uqaphele oku kwaye uqale ukulwa nale ngxaki. Okokuqala, kufuneka kube nolwalamano oluhambelana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Kancinci, le nkwenkwe iqalisa ukukopisha ukuziphatha kwenkalipho kayise kwaye ingxaki iya kutshabalala ngokwayo.