"Amadoda atshintsha, ngokuba ngokwemvelo isithembu" - loo nkcazo ifana neminqweno ye-madman kwaye akukho nto. Okokuqala, bathetha abo bangayazi inkcazo yeli gama. Okwesibini, masibelane ngeengcamango "zesithembu" kunye "nokungathembeki."
Malunga namadoda nabasetyhini
Ukuqiqa ngesithembu sabantu kufuneka baqale ngentsingiselo yale gama. Ukuguqulelwa kwisiGriki isithembu okanye isithembu kuthetha umtshato omkhulu. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu omnye unabalingani abaninzi bomtshato. Kwamanye amazwe asempuma kwaye nanamhlanje isithembu sivunyelwe. Ngoko ke, kulo mzekelo, kufanelekile ukuthetha ngesithembu sesithembu, oku kuthetha ukunyamekela, inkxaso kunye nomxholo opheleleyo ngamnye womfazi kunye nabo bonke abantwana.
Indlela eya kwabasetyhini iyahluke. Kukholelwa ukuba intombazana ngokwemvelo kufuneka ilwele ukuxhomekeka komntu. Ewe, makhe siqale ukutshitshisa ama-stereotypes akhona kwaye sizalise zonke "izikhelo" zethu kolwazi.
"Ndiyitshintshile, kuba ndiyinto yesithembu"
Ngoko, indoda igubungela ukungathembeki kunye nezilwanyana ezishiywe nguyise. Kuphela apha, ngokungafani nempilo, umntu, kwiimeko ezininzi, ulala ngesondo. Umnqweno wokuya "ngakwesobunxele" akubangelwa ngumnqweno wokuqhubeka lwakho nosapho. Kwaye isithembu samadoda asinanto. Ukuqhubela phambili kwenkcazo yalo mqondo, ukuthelekisa nokuziphatha komntu, sibona ukuba akukho mntu ukhawuleza ukukhawulela zonke "intombi yentliziyo". Amadoda ngamanye amaxesha kunye nentsapho enye ayinakuyifumana, makungabikho ncokola ngezimbalwa. Simele siqaphele ngakumbi kwizitatimenti zethu kwaye sizama ukuzithethelela.
Masingakulibali ukuba sinabantu abanengqiqo, abanesazela, isazela nokuziphatha. Umnqweno wokuba namaqabane amaninzi, ukunyeliswa komntu uthetha ngokungakwazi kwakhe ukuhlala ethembekile. Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zezi:
- ubudala. Umfana, njengomthetho, ushushu kwaye unomdla, yingako ukhangele ukuthanda izinto kunye nokuzonwabisa. Xa uneminyaka yobudala, isithandwa socansi sinokuthi sinciphise;
- iimpawu zengqondo. Ukungathandabuli okunzima, ukukhathazeka ngokwesondo malunga nemeko yengxaki yengqondo - konke oku "kukunyanzela" umntu ukuba abe neqabane lamadoda amaninzi. Kuye, le ndlela yindlela yokuqinisekisa;
- iimpawu zomzimba. Ukugqithisa kwama-hormone wesilisa ngezinye iinkcaso kugxotha ingcinga yokuba umntu uhlala elambile.
Utshintsho oluninzi lwabalingani lubangelwa iimpawu zomntu kunye neemeko, kodwa kungekhona ngohlobo lwendoda neyesetyhini.
Ngendlela, kumbuzo wabasetyhini. Ukubuyela kwiingcamango zethu, akukho mqondo ukuthetha ngesithembu sabasetyhini. Bambalwa abantu abadinga amadoda ambalwa, apha kunye nomnye.
Ibhinqa lizama ukuxhomekeka komntu. Nangona kunjalo, ekukhethweni "kwindoda", ubaba ofanelekayo kubantwana bakhe besikhathi esizayo, uyafaneleka ngokufanelekileyo. Ngaphambi komtshato, inokuba nenani elaneleyo lamalingani. Kodwa emtshatweni, njengomthetho, uhlala uthembekile kunye nokuzinikela kumyeni wakhe.
Kutheni amadoda atshintsha ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngaphezu kwabafazi bawo? Okumangalisayo kukuba, isizathu siyakwazi ukuzivumelanisa. Kukho na utshintsho kwintsapho, ngobudlelwane nomlingane, ibhinqa lilula ukusebenzisa ngaphandle komntu. Ubunzima bokuzivumelanisa neemeko ezintsha zithatha isisombululo esilula kule nkinga - kwiimeko nezimo. Yingakho amadoda eqala ukuthanda, iintsapho ze sibini. Mhlawumbi bafumana oko bangenakho ekhaya.
Ewe, le ndlela ayilunganga kwaye ikhokelela ekufeni. Esikhundleni sokuba "ubaleke" kufuneka ufumane amandla kunye nokuseka ubudlelwane nomfazi wakho, buyisa ukubuyisana ekhaya lakho.