Inkathazo yeminyaka emithathu - iingcebiso kubazali

Ukuvelisa umntwana onobubele nolunomdla wesibini wesibalo sokuphila, ngolunye usuku, abazali bayabona ukuba umntwana wabo utshintsho ngokukhawuleza ngakumbi - yile ndlela abantwana abangabantwana bokuqala abanenkathazo bebudala babonakalisa ngayo iminyaka emithathu edlulileyo. Ininzi idla ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye iphinde ixake abazali kuba nexhala - abakwazi ukujamelana ne "encinane yefu" apho umntwana wabo ajika khona.

Iimpawu zeengxaki zeminyaka emithathu

Akuyimfuneko ukuba zifumaneke kuwo wonke umntwana, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo zonke ezi mpawu zikhona okanye zikhona ngokufanayo.

1. I-Negativism - umntwana uyaziphikisana, ekhokelela ekungabonakali kwimeko. Le ndlela ihluke ngokungahloneli ngokuqhelekileyo, kuba umntwana wenqaba ukwenza oko yena ngokwakhe wayefuna umzuzu owedlule. Isizathu esibalulekileyo sale migaqo kukuba imiyalelo iphuma kubazali, kwaye umntwana akafuni ukuthobela, kuba yena ngokwakhe sele esele esemdala, kuphela yena engazi indlela yokulawula ubomi bakhe abadala kunye nokuchaneka ngokufanelekileyo kulona ndlela. Ngako oko "rhoqo" akukho "zikhona" kunye neziphakamiso zabadala.
2. Ukunyaniseka - akunakulinganiswa nokunyamezela, xa umntwana ehamba ngokufanelekileyo ekujoliswe kuyo kunye nokufezekisa. Umntwana unzima ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukwenza okuchasene nokuthanda kwabazali bakhe, kwaye ngakumbi xa bezama ukuzimela, umntwana unamandla ngakumbi.
3. Ukuzikhethela- inkxalabo yobuntwaneni iminyaka emithathu - ngumnqweno wobuntu obuncinane ukuzimela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani. Umntwana wenza kuphela oko yena ngokwakhe akujonga ukuba kuyimfuneko kwaye lo "Sam" ubonakalisa kuzo zonke izenzo zakhe, nangona xa umntwana engenakukwazi ukuhlangabezana ngaphandle kokunceda abantu abadala.
4. Ukukhusela - intshabhiso yengane malunga nento yonke abazali abazama ukuyinika yona, inkqubo yokufundisa iqala ukunyusa, kuba umntwana akafuni ukuva iingxabano ezifanelekileyo. Ukubonisana kwengqondo kwengqondo yengane kwintlupheko yeminyaka emithathu, kunokunceda abantu abadala baqonde indlela yokuziphatha kunye nevukeli elincinci.
5. Inzondelelo - yile ndlela umntwana aphuma ngayo ngokukhawuleza xa engekho yedwa kwintsapho. Ufuna ukuthobela abantwana ekuthandweni kwakhe, njengabazali bakhe, kodwa ubonisa oku ngentsingiselo.
6. Ukuxolisa - ngexesha leengxaki zeminyaka engama-3, isazi sengqondo singanika iingcebiso kubazali indlela yokuziphathela "umtyholi" wekhaya ozijonga ngokuba yindalo yendalo yonke kwaye ufuna ukuthobela ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Akukho nto yokubonisa ubungqina bakho, kodwa kunoko uzame ukusombulula yonke imiba ngokuthula.

Iingcebiso zengqondo zengqondo kubazali kwintlupheko yeminyaka emithathu

Ukuze usinde ixesha elilukhuni kunye nelahleko ezincinci, abazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuyinto engaqhelekanga, kufuneka bangenise umntwana. Musa ukuthukuthela, ubonise ukungabi namandla, ungazami ukumemeza uze uzijezise. Izenzo ezinjalo zikhupha ubuntu bomntwana, oye waqala ukubonakalisa. Emva koko, ubunzima beli phakade bufaka isandla ekubunzeni ubuntu obuphelele. Awufuni ukukhula i-whiner kunye nomgwebi ongenangqiqo womnqweno womnye umntu?

Kubalulekile ukunika umntwana indawo enkulu yokubonakalisa ukuzimela, apho ezama khona. Abazali bafanele bakhusele umntwana kuphela kwiimeko ezijongela ngqo impilo kunye nokhuseleko.

Xa umntwana ebona ukuba abantu bakhuluma naye ngeenyawo ezilinganayo, bakuphulaphula uluvo lwakhe kwaye bamvumele ukuba enze izigqibo ezibalulekileyo kuye, inzima iya kugqiba ngokukhawuleza kunye nelahleko encinci.

Abazali bamele baqonde ukuba zonke iimeko zengxaki zinobunzima bokuthwala i-psyche yengane, akayikho lula kule meko. Umbuso onjalo awuyi kuhlala ngonaphakade, ngokuqhelekileyo inzima ihamba ngeenyanga ezimbalwa, ubuninzi bonyaka. Ngelo xesha, umntwana, njengangaphambili, udinga uxhaso lwezihlobo kunye nothando lwabo, nangona kubonakala ngathi akayidingi.