Ukuze ufundise umntu, ngamnye umzali ucinga ukhetha indlela yakhe. Abanye bakhetha "ukukhupha" umntwana omncinci kubo bonke, abanye - ngokuchaseneyo bayakhetha "i-javelin mittens". Yintoni elungileyo kunye nokukhuliswa kweentsapho kuzisa umvuzo omkhulu-ixesha liza kuxela. Namhlanje siza kukuxelela ngendlela yokuThabatha yokukhulisa abantwana. Kithina, iYurophu, amazwe aseMpuma kubonakala ngathi yinto engavakaliyo kunye neyantlukwano, kwaye abantu basempuma bahlala behlangene nokuthintela nobulumko. KwiTibet, apho isiseko senkolo yiBuddha, ukukhuliswa kwabantwana kuhluke ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela esetyenziswa ngayo.
Isiseko semfundo yaseTibet yabantwana yinto engamkelekanga yokuthotywa kunye nokuhlwaywa komntu. Enyanisweni, isizathu esisodwa sokuba abantu babethe abantwana kukuba abantwana abanako ukuzinikela. Indlela yeTibetan yokukhulisa abantwana iyahlula lonke ixesha lokukhula komntwana kunye nokudala kubantu "kwizicwangciso zeminyaka emihlanu".
IsiCwangciso seNyaka emihlanu yokuQala: ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya ezintlanu
Ngokuzalwa komntwana, umntwana usangena kwifestile. Indlela yokufikelela kwimfundo ukuya kwiminyaka emihlanu ingafaniswa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana baseJapan . Abantwana bayavunyelwa ukwenza konke: akukho mntu uwaxhaphaza nantoni na, uyabajezisa, akukho nto iyanqatshelwe abantwana. Ngokomgaqo weTibetan ngeli xesha, abantwana banomdla ebomini nasinqwenela. Ingane ayinakwazi ukwakha iminyango enobunzima kwaye iyaqonda ukuba yintoni umphumo wale nto okanye eso senzo. Umzekelo, umntwana oneminyaka engaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu angeke akwazi ukuqonda ukuba kufuneka ufumane imali yokuthenga into ethile. Ukuba inkunzi ifuna ukwenza into enobungozi okanye iziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga, ucetyiswa ukuphazamisa okanye ukwenza ubuso obusabisayo, ukwenzela ukuba inkunzi iyakwazi ukuba iyingozi.
IsiCwangciso seNyaka yesiThi yesihlanu: ukususela kwiminyaka emi-5 ukuya kwe-10
Emva kokugubha usuku lwakhe lwesihlanu lokuzalwa, umntwana ovela kwintsimi yenkcazo uhamba ngqo ekugqilazweni. Kwakuye ngeli thuba ukukhuliswa kweTibetan kucebise ukunyanga umntwana "njengekhoboka", ukumisela imisebenzi kunye nokufuna ukuzaliseka kwabo ngokungenammiselo. Kulo nyaka, abantwana bahlakulela ngokukhawuleza ubuchule babo nokucinga, ngoko kufuneka balayishwe kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Kuhle ukubandakanya abantwana kumculo, ukudansa, ukudweba, ukubandakanya emsebenzini womzimba, ukucela ukubonelela ngoncedo olunokwenzeka kubazali ekwenzeni imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Umsebenzi oyintloko wale xesha kukufundisa umntwana ukuba aqonde abanye, ukuxela ukuphendula kwabantu kwizenzo zakhe nokubiza isimo sengqondo esifanele. Kuyakwazi ukuhlwaya umntwana, kodwa kungengokwenyama, ukuba "lisp" kwaye ukubonisa intlonelo kuvunyelwe ngokubanzi ukwenzela ukuba ungaphuhlisi inkcazo.
IsiCwangciso seNyaka yesiThathu: iminyaka eyi-10 ukuya kwe-15
Xa umntwana efikelela kwiminyaka eyi-10 ubudala, kuyadingeka ukuba aqale ukuthetha naye "ngeenyawo ezilinganayo", oko kukuthi, ukubonisana nabanye kwimibandela, xubusha nayiphi na inyathelo, izenzo. Ukuba ufuna ukubeka ingcamango yakho kwintombazana, kufanele uyenze ngendlela ye "velvet gantshi": iingcebiso, iingcebiso, kodwa akukho ndlela yokubeka. Ngeli xesha, ukuzimela nokuzimela kweengcinga ziphuhliswa ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba awuyithandi into ekuphatheni okanye kwizenzo zomntwana, zama ukutshilo oku ngaphandle ngqo, ukuphepha ukuthintela. Ungazami ukumncedisa umntwana. Ngenxa yokuba inako
Ixesha lokugqibela: ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-15
Ngokombono weTibetan wokukhuliswa kwabantwana emva kweminyaka eyi-15 yabantwana, kuphelile ukufundisa, kwaye abazali banokuvuna kuphela iziqhamo zemizamo yabo. Iingcali zeTibetan zithi ukuba awuyihloneli umntwana emva kweminyaka eyi-15, uya kubashiya abazali bakhe ngonaphakade kwithuba lokuqala.
Mhlawumbi le ndlela yemfundo ayikwazi ukusetyenziswa ngokupheleleyo kwiingqondo zethu, kodwa kusekhona isabelo esihle senyaniso kuyo.