Ubundlobongela kubantwana bubonakaliso bombango, ngokomzimba okanye ngokwesondo ngokumalunga nabantwana. Kuze kube ngoku, le ngxaki yinkinga yehlabathi. Ulwazi lwemihla ngemihla kulezi ziganeko lubonakala kumaphephandaba. Ulwazi malunga nokudlwengulwa nokubetha kwabantwana lukhusele i-intanethi. Namhlanje siza kuthetha malunga nokuthintela ukuvela kwimeko enjalo, khusela umntwana wakho nayiphi na impembelelo ngaphandle kwaye ungalimazi umntwana.
Ukuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo ngabantwana
Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwezesondo kwabantwana kubandakanya ukubandakanyeka okungekho mthethweni kwintsana kwimisebenzi yecala ngqo okanye engaqondakaliyo ngenjongo yokufumana inzuzo okanye ukwaneliseka. Ubundlobongela bezesondo buboniswa kumntwana wezithombe kunye neevidiyo ezingcolileyo. Ukubonakaliswa kwezesondo zakho kumntwana, ukubandakanyeka kwincinci ekwenzeni imifanekiso engamanyala, kunye nokunyanzeliswa komntwana ukubonisa izitho ezisondeleyo kunye nokuhlola kumntwana ngexesha lohlalutyo lwakhe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukwenza imisebenzi yesondo kwenzeka kwiintsapho. Ulwaphulo lweentlalontle zentsapho luhlala lwenzeka xa ilungu elitsha livela kwintsapho. Ngokomzekelo, umama uphinde watshata kwaye umntwana unomama ongumama. Indoda iyakuthandana nentembelo yowesifazane omthandayo kwaye ubonisa uthando lwakhe kumntanakhe ngendlela enokwenzeka-unikeza izipho, ithwala ngezandla zakhe, iyayinyamekela umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kufika ixesha apho utata ohlala naye ehlala yedwa kunye nomntwana aze avumele into engekho mntu uya kukholelwa. Izikhalazo, nokuba umntwana omncinci okanye umfana osemtsha kwi-papa entsha, zivakala kakhulu, kuba zonke izimvo zibhalwa ukungaxhala, umona, umnqweno wokubona ubaba wangempela okanye ukungafuni.
Iimpawu zobundlobongela bezesondo zibe:
- izikrakra kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwindawo yesini somntwana;
- Ukufumanisa izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo kumntwana;
- usulelo lwe-urinary;
- ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye neengxaki;
- izifo zengqondo;
- izikhalazo kunye nokuvuma komntwana;
- inzala yomntwana ngokukhawuleza kwizinto eziphathekayo zoonobumba kunye nezinto ezinobunzima;
- ukuzithemba;
- ulwalamano.
Imiphumo yesifo esibuhlungu esiyifumene ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi kuthintela ubomi obungakumbi bomntwana. Ingcamango yamava iya kubachaphazela ukubunjwa kobuntu bakhe, imbono yehlabathi, isantya somlingiswa, impilo yengqondo kunye nengqondo. Iqondo lokulimala lixhomekeke ekubeni ngubani owenze ulwaphulo-mthetho kumntwana kunye nokuba ngumntwana ubudala kangakanani ngelo xesha. Eyona nto ixhatshazwayo yingozi ngenxa yezizalwane kunye nezihlobo.
Yingakho ukukhuselwa kwabantwana ekuhlaselweni ngokwesondo, okokuqala, kufuna ukunakwa kwabazali kunye nabantu abasondeleyo bomntwana. Ungazikhawulezi ngokukhawuleza izikhalazo zomntwana wakho, ukuba zikhona, zingavumeli umntwana ukuba akhulume aze amgwebe ngokumanga. Soloko uthatha ixesha lokuthetha nomntwana wakho, qalisa ulwalamano oluthembayo kwaye uzame ukulahlekelwa lo kholoba kumntwana. Ukongeza, funda ukuqaphela ingozi, ukunxibelelana nabantu abangaziwayo kwaye usoloko uhlala uthetha ngeengxaki kunye naziphi na izinto ezingaqhelekanga kuwe!
Ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana
Kuqheleke kakhulu, okuchaphazela izigidi zabantwana emhlabeni jikelele. Ukuphathwa kakubi komntwana kwenzeka rhoqo kwiintsapho, ikakhulukazi abazali. Kungabangelwa ukusebenza kakubi komntwana esikolweni, ukungathandi ukulandela imiyalelo yabazali. Kwimeko yabantwana abancinci - zabo iintshukumo, ukubetha, ukukhala nokungathobeli. Ngenxa yokuba abaninzi oomama nootata abazi imithetho yokukhulisa abantwana, basebenzisa amaqhinga obundlobongela. Abantwana abaye baphantsi kobundlobongela bahlala bexinezelekile, banokuzithemba, kwaye bahlala benokulimala emzimbeni abo njengokucutshulwa, ukuvuna, ukunyunyuza, kunye nokunye ukulimala.
Izibonakaliso zobundlobongela ngokwenyama zingenziwa:
- izibhamu, ukusika kunye namanxeba emzimbeni kunye nobuso bomntwana;
- ukwesaba komntwana wokuqhagamshelana nabantu abadala. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana uyesaba ukukhwabanisa naye, ukuzama ukuthatha isandla sakhe kunokuphelisa kwiindawo zokuhlambalaza;
- ukuziphatha okungahambi komntwana esikolweni. Uqala ngokukhawuleza elele emva kolwazi, akayi kuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yesikolo, wenqaba ukuqhagamshelana nabanye.
Into ebhetele kakhulu: ubundlobongela obuphathekayo malunga nefomu zomntwana kuye ukuqonda ukuba, ngenxa yamandla omzimba, unokufezekisa yonke into. Kwaye oku, kukhokelela ekubambeni ukuba umntwana ocinezelwe ngumntwana okhuselekileyo ukhula waba ngumtyholi ongenalucalulo kwaye, nangomzekelo wabazali bakhe, uqala ukufezekisa yonke into ngamandla. Naliphi na ingxaki eye yavela kumendo wayo, ukungaqondi kakuhle kunxibelelana nomntu kuya kugqiba ekulwa. Kuya kuba nzima kunene ukwakha intsapho, ukwenza izihlobo kunye nokulungelelanisa kuluntu.
Ukuba ixesha lokungenelela kwimeko kwaye ukuyeka unyango lomntwana, iziphumo emva kokulimala kuya kuba ngaphantsi. Uncedo lwengqondo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kubantwana abachaphazelekayo ngogonyamelo lwabantu abadala luya kubanceda bawulibale elidlulileyo kwaye bajonge ihlabathi ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Ubundlobongela beengqondo kubantwana
Akumangalisi, kodwa ukuxhatshazwa ngokomzimba komntwana obona bubi kakhulu. Olu hlobo lolwaphulo-mthetho luhlala lugcinwa ingqalelo, alukhankanyi ngokuphindaphindiweyo njengezinye iindlela zokuphathwa kakubi kwabantwana.
Iifom zokuxhaphazwa ngokomzimba:
- Ukunyuswa komntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka xa umntwana ebuntwini engathandekiyo. Inkomo iboniswa kuyo yonke into yokuba ayifuni mntu, akabonakaliswa uthando, ingqalelo, ukunyamekela, ukunyamekela. Uzama ukungava kwaye azenzele ingqalelo.
- Ukungahoyi umntwana. Ukuba iimfuno zabantu abadala abakwanelisekanga, bathambekele ekubeni bangawuqwalasela iimfuno zomntwana. Inomnqweno eyanciphekileyo kumntwana, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nokungabikho kwayo ngokupheleleyo, ukungabi nandaba nokungabikho kwamanyathelo okuqhuba umntwana ukuba abe yintlungu, isoloko kunye nesimo esixinezelekileyo.
- Ukususa umntwana. Ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba angene egumbini lakhe rhoqo emva kokungathobeli, ityala, kunye nezinye izenzo ezingamkelekanga kubazali kubangela ukuthotywa komntwana. Ukuba, emva kokuphulwa kancinci kwemithetho ebekwa ngabazali, umntwana kufuneka avaliwe, kwaye uvinjelwe ukuba ahambe nabahlobo, ngokugqithiseleyo uyonakalisa, alahlekelwe ukukwazi ukuthetha.
- Ukuxhaphazwa komntwana. Abantwana abaye baphantsi kobundlobongela ngokuxhaphaza banqatshelwe ubuntwaneni babo, ukuzizonwabisa kwabo kunye nolonwabo. Ziba ngabantu abadala. Ukuxhaphazwa komntwana kubandakanya ukusetyenziswa kwemikhosi yabantwana ekusebenzeni kwemisebenzi yabantu abadala, umzekelo, ukugcinwa kwendlu, imfundo yabazalwana abancinane kunye noodade, kunye nomsebenzi onzima owenzela inzuzo.
- Ukuxhaphaza umntwana. Iisongelo ezihlala zivela kubantu abadala zenza umntwana abe neentloni kwaye angabikho. Njengomthetho, inkwenkwe ihamba nayo yonke imvakalelo yakhe kunye nemizwelo yakhe ngaphakathi kwaye iyamoyika ukuxelela nabani na into esongelwayo. Izinto ezisongelayo zingaba yinto ehluke kakhulu - isongelo lokubulala, ukugula, ukuthumela kwintandane, kwisibhedlele sengqondo. Ukuba umntu ongaphandle ubeka ingozi, ngamanye amaxesha ukwanele ukuxelela umntwana ukuba le nto okanye le nkohliso iyaziwa kubazali bakhe, ukuba akayi kuzaliseka, yintoni efunekayo kuye.
Indlela yokukhusela umntwana kulolu hlobo lobundlobongela? Abazali kuqala kufuneka bafunde ukuphulaphula nokuqonda umntwana wabo. Ukuhlwaywa ngoncedo lwabantwana kunye nokubetha akuyi kubakho nantoni na. Kuya kuba neengxaki ezininzi, zombini ubuhlobo kunye nobomi bomntu bomntwana. Khumbula ukuba zonke iinyawo zakho eziphosakeleyo, zonke iilwimi ezingenakukhathazeka ziza kuhlala ngonaphakade kwintliziyo yomntwana kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo zizenzeke ukuba zingekho ngokukhawuleza, emva koko, kwiminyaka emininzi. Uthando, ithemba, ukunakwa, ukuqonda, ukunyamekela, ukunakekelwa kwabazali - oku kukukhusela abantwana kubundlobongela. Khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho uthembele kuwe, ngoko ungaphumeleli ukuthembela kwakhe, ungazami ukusiphulaphula, bhetele ufumane isitshixo entliziyweni yakhe.