Lone Syndrome

Ngisho noAristotle uthe umntu ngokwemvelo uluntu lwentlalo, uchaza abantu abanomnqweno wokunxibelelana. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu bohlobo oluthile: bakhululekile, kulula kwaye banokukhululeka ukuba babe kunye nabo. Ziyakuphepha iimeko ezibenza bazixhomekeke kwabanye. Siza kuqwalasela i-psychology yabantu abangabodwa kwaye siqonde indlela yokuthetha nomntu onjalo.

I-Psychology: i-loneliness syndrome

I-psychology yomntu omnye uququzelele umnqweno wokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo, ukungabikho kwezibophelelo kunye nokudibanisa. Bavuma abantu ngokwabo umgama othile, emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Kukunzima ukujonga kwimiphefumlo yabo.

Abantu abanjalo, nakubantwana bentsapho, banobuchule bokunqongophala komthandane kunye nokunyamekela, uthando lokwenene, olufanele luhambe entliziyweni. Umntwana okhulile kuloo moya, okanye wakhuliswa ngootatomkhulu, ngokuqhelekileyo ubona ihlabathi njengelinye ilanga, libandayo, lingathandani. Engafuni ukufumana iintlungu ezingenasidingo kunye nokudumala, umntu onjalo akanalo uxhulumaniso olunzulu. Ukuba ukuxhamla okunjalo kuvela, umntu uya kuthanda ukuwachitha okanye ukuwaphula, ukuze abuyele kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo.

Vala ubudlelwane kunye nokudala kwintsapho umntu onjalo ngumngeni omkhulu. Imizamo yokungena emphefumlweni wayo iya kubhekana nokukhawuleza okunzima.

Indlela yokujongana nabantu abane-syndrome eyodwa?

Ukuba umhlobo wakho okanye isiqingatha sesibini uhlushwa kwisifo esisodwa, kubalulekile ukukhetha iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuziphatha ezinokukunceda ukuphepha iingxabano kwaye kwimeko ethile kunceda umntu. Amanyathelo angundoqo ongayithatha:

• Musa ukutshintsha lo mntu, oku kufuna umnqweno kunye nemizamo yakhe, kungeyakho;
• uzame ukuxhasa nje umntu, jongene namagama akho, ukuseka umnxibelelwano othembekileyo;
• Ungamhloneli umntu, ukunakekelwa okunzulu kunokumcaphukisa;
• ungamthinteli ekubeni yedwa xa efuna;
• Musa ukumangaliswa xa umntu onjalo enza izigqibo ngaphandle kokubonisana nawe.

Zama ukufumana izinto ezithandayo zokuzilibazisa wena kunye nawe ngokwahlukileyo ukuze uqinisekise ixesha lokuzonwabisa-oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu abanjalo.