Xa usakuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo, kodwa ngoku kungenjalo, iindlela ziye zahlula iindlela kwaye wonke umntu uphila ubomi bakhe, kuphela ngokukhawuleza akhumbule omnye, kodwa akazami ukumisa uqhagamshelwano okanye ukugcina ubudlelwane obusesikweni. Kwaye ngolunye usuku waphupha nge-intombi-yangaphambili, kwaye kwaphakama umbuzo, lithetha ntoni le phupha.
Okokuqala, kufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni unomdla kakhulu kule phupha. Ngaba bekukho imeko engavamile, uziva unqabile kwaye emva kokuvuswa okanye iphupha apho kwakuvele khona intombi, wavuya gqitha ngenxa yokuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi ulibale ngalo?
Ukususela kwingcamango yengqondo, amaphupha ngenye yeembonakaliso zentsikelelo yethu, ebomini bemihla ngemihla esiyicinezelayo. Ukulawula kwengqondo kubuthakathaka xa silala embhedeni, i-subconscious inethuba lokusikhumbuza oko sikukhathazayo, nangona sivame ukuyivuma.
Cinga ukuba kutheni unqamle ukuthetha, ukuba ngaba nawaphi na amaqela agcina izikhalazo zabo. Ukuba imeko zengxaki zenzeke, umzekelo, uhambele, kwaye ingxoxo yayeka, mhlawumbi ulahlekelwa kwaye usanda kukukhumbula ngoku. Ukuba unxibelelwano luye lwayeka ngenxa yongquzulwano olunzulu, mhlawumbi ukuhlambalaza akuzange kungene phantsi okanye kukho ukuziva unetyala. Izigqibo ezingaphezulu zinokutsalwa kuphela ngokuhlalutya umxholo wephupha elithile.
Enye impendulo kumbuzo othi "intombazana yangaphambili iphupha ntoni" mhlawumbi ukuba uhlawula ingqalelo kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ukhohlwe ukujonga phambili kwaye ucinge ngekamva.
Iphupha lokuxoxwa - Umngane owayengumhlobo omhle
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupha kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kumhlobo omhle, ukunxibelelana okuphelile, kunokufumaneka kwiincwadi zokuphupha. Ininzi yeencwadi zephupha zithi ukuba uthe wavuya kuye, iphupha elinjalo lithembisa iingxaki, ukuxabana nezihlobo kunye nokuxabana nomlingane. Ukuba, ephupheni, uphikisana nomhlobo, ke oku, ngokuchaseneyo, ngumqondiso olungileyo-ubuhlobo buya kuphucula.
Kwakhona, la maphupha adibene neentlobo ezahlukeneyo, ukuhleka kunye namacebo emva komva wakho, ngoko kufanele
I-Psychoanalysis nayo ibonisa ukuba intombi, nokuba yakuba yinto engaphambili, kunjani na ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, nto ingaba isilumkiso malunga neengxaki ezinokubambisana kunye neqabane.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukulala kunokuphatha uhlobo oluthile lokulumkisa kwaye kuthintela ubomi bakho kuphela ukuba unamathele kakhulu kulo. Ngaphandle koko, kuya kuhlala nje iphupha.