Xa siqala ukuqhelana nabantu abatsha, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza uvavanyo lokuqala lokuqala. Emva kokufunda eli nqaku, uya kufunda indlela yokufumana abantu.
Ukuze ufumane umntu ofuna ukuvuleka. Njalo thabatha inxaxheba kwingxoxo. Emva koko, wonke umntu uyazi ukuba xa uqala ukujwayelana, kunzima ukwenza intetho, kodwa ukuba uqala kuqala, akuyi kuphawulwa? Dumisani umntu ngamalungelo okanye iimpawu ozifunayo. Yenza kuphela ngokunyanisekileyo, kwaye umnxibelelwano uya kukukhumbula! Ungakulibali ukumomotheka, kuba izazinzulu ziye zabonisa ukuba umntu onomomotheka ovela ecaleni ukhangeleka kakhulu kwaye unomtsalane. Uthotho luyindlela enhle yokufumana izinto. Kwakhona, zama ukukhumbula amagama. Kumntu akukho sandi esithokozayo kunesandi segama lakho. Uya kuqonda ukuba xa uthetha incoko uya kumbiza ngegama. Funda ukuphulaphula. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bafuna ukuthetha, ngaphandle kokuhlambalazwa kunye neengcebiso. Qaphela ngqalelo kunye nomdla kumnxibelelwano.
Ungalungiselela njani umntu?
Kule nto kufuneka ukwazi iimfihlo ezimbalwa. Ungahlali phantsi. Kungenxa yokuba kubonwa njengengxabano. Hlala ngapha nangapha okanye ngasekupheleni kwetafile. Thatha i-open-back, back-back pose. Emva kwakho konke, ezinye izinto onokuzenza ngamadolo akho, kwi-subconscious yamadoda ibangela imibutho kunye nomqobo. Sebenzisa ukwamkela "ukubukisa" umxhumanisi. Unobtrusively ukukopisha ukunyakaza kwakhe uze undikholelwe, kungekudala uza kuziva kuwe umoya wohlobo.
Indlela yokulawula ishishini?
Usandul 'u msebenzi omtsha, sele usenokuba nexesha lokwenza abahlobo kunye neqela kunye nentloko yahlala kumgca.
- Bonisa ukuzithiba. Zama ukuqulethela iimvakalelo, ukupholisa, ukuhlalutya yonke into, uze wenze isigqibo sokuphendula ukugxeka okanye cha. Abaphathi baya kukuxabisa idiplomacy yakho.
- Musa ukuzenza ngathi unobulumko ngaphezu komntu wonke. Ukuba awuyithandi abaqeshi beprojekthi, ngokufanelekileyo unikeze ukhetho lwakho kwaye uthethe ukuba kutheni kungcono.
- Yibingelele ixesha lakho. Ukuba kukho into efuna ukuyenza ngexesha elifutshane, ungesabi ukuchitha ixesha lakho. Xa kwenzeka ukukhutshwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, umphathi uya kukwazi ukuba unokuthenjwa.
Emva kokufunda ezi ngcebiso, mhlawumbi waqonda indlela yokulungiselela umphathi. Kodwa incoko eyakhiwe ngokuchanekileyo ingabancedisi kuphela abo bahlala kwiindawo eziphezulu, kodwa nabo banabantu abaqhelekileyo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo. Into ephambili kule nto ayithethi, kodwa indlela oziphatha ngayo.
Ulungiselela njani umnxibelelwano wakho ukuba ungazi lutho ngaye?
- soloko kulungile, kunzima ukungaqapheli abantu abanjalo;
- Yongeza inqaku elifudumele ngelizwi lakho, kuba umntu wangethuba akanakunakekelwa okwaneleyo kunye nokufudumala;
- qaphele ukuba ungabonakali ngamagama ukuba umntu ufuna ukukudlulisela kunye nendlela aziphatha ngayo ngelixa esenza, nokuba uyahamba;
- phu laphula ngokucacileyo kwaye ubonise ubufushane, ungasebenzisi izivakalisi ezigqamile kunye nezide, ziphazamise kuphela
ukuqonda.
Ubuchule bokuba nabantu bodwa kubaluleke kakhulu kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, kuba yonke into yakhiwe ngobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Unxibelelwano lusenza ubuntu kwaye luvula amathuba amatsha kuthi. Indlela esinxibelelana ngayo nabanye iya kuxhomekeka kwimbono yethu. Bonisa umdla kwabanye abantu, vula kwaye kunye nawe banokugcina ubudlelwane. Ewe, okokugqibela, kodwa kungekhona umgaqo obalulekileyo wokuthetha nabantu. Nika umntu ithuba lokuva luleke kuwe. Hlalani nibheka umgangatho oqhelekileyo kwaye nihlale ninyanisekileyo.