Ukubandezeleka kokuziphatha kudlalwa yithina ngaphezu kokuphazamiseka ngokomzimba. Ngokomzekelo, ukuhlala unetyala - kusitshutshisa, kubangela ukubandezeleka. Kodwa kulufanelekile ukuhlula phakathi kobuso xa sisoloko sibeka isohlwayo kwimeko, kwaye sinengqondo engenangqiqo. Indlela yokulahla iimvakalelo zecala kwimeko yesibini kwaye siya kuqonda.
Izizathu zecala
Intlungu enetyala, nangona ingabangelwa yizenzo zekhonkrithi, ihlala ibangele. Nazi ezinye zazo eziqhelekileyo:
- Ngokuqhelekileyo kunengqondo yecala phambi kwabazali, edla ngokuqala ebuntwaneni. Abazali basitshela ukuba siyizona zilungileyo kwaye ngenxa yoko sinoyiko lokuba singaphila ngokulindelekileyo. Kwaye, ukuba kukho into engasebenzi, ngoko siqala ukuzenzela, sizive sinetyala phambi kwabazali bethu, abaye benza okuninzi kangangokuthi sinakho konke kakuhle, kwaye silahliwe ngokungafanelekanga kwezi zinto. Kukho enye eyingozi, abazali abawela ngayo xa bekhupha - umntwana uhlala ehleli njengomzekelo womntu onenhlanhla. Ukukhula, umntu onjalo uyaqhubeka efumana abazali bakhe imiyalelo kunye nemizekelo yabanye abantu abaphumelele, abazali abafihla ukudidelwa kwinto yokuba abakwazi ukukhula ngoshishino ophumelelayo, ukukhanya kwezesayensi, njl njl. Yaye ingqiqo yecala, ehlakulwa ngabazali abanomdla ukususela ebuntwaneni, ayichithekanga naphi na, ityhutshisa umntu ebomini bakhe bonke.
- Kwakhona kunzima ukujamelana nomoya wecala ngomntu oshonile. Enyanisweni, umntu akayi kuba netyala lokufa komntu othandekayo, kodwa uvakalelwa enetyala. Ngokuqhelekileyo esi sivakalelo sibonakala sibe neengqiqo ezinengqiqo, umzekelo, "ukuba andizange ndicele ukuba uye evenkile kusihlwa, akayi kukhubeka kwisiteji esingumnyama kwaye akafanga ukufa."
- Ngokubonakala kweso sifo, ukunyaniseka kunye nemigangatho yokuziphatha esisetyenziswe kuthi sinokubeka ityala. Ukwenza into echasene nemithetho yokuziphatha (asinakathetha malunga nezobugqwetha ngoku, ngokuqinisekileyo,), siqala ukuziva sinetyala, sineentloni zento eyenziwe. Nangona kunjalo, ngokubanzi, i-prank engenamacala. Kule meko, umntu unesimo sokuxhalabisa nokuzithemba. Konke okutshoyo, uthatha ngeendleko zakhe, zonke iimbono zokutyhafaza, zonke iimpawu zibhekwa njengezinto ezibuhlungu.
- Into enzima kakhulu ukukrazula iimvakalelo zetyala elinikezwe ngabanye abantu! Kukho uhlobo lwabantu abangakwaziyo ukuvuma iimpazamo zabo, bahlala betyala abanye. Kwaye oku kuqinisekisayo ukuba umntu uqala ukukholelwa ukuba kukho konke ukungaphumeleli kunye nabanye abantu abanecala kuphela enetyala.
Indlela yokukrazula ingcinga yecala
Ukuphila ngesimo sobutyala kunzima kakhulu, ngoko kuzama ukulahla. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukunceda ukwenza oku:
- Uhlalutyo oluzinzileyo lwimeko yangoku luya kunceda ukulahla iimvakalelo zetyala. Kufuneka ucinge ngenyameko, ukulandelelana kwinqanaba elithile umva wecala uvele kwaye uvavanye ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba unobangelwa yintoni eyenzekayo okanye le nxalenye yeemeko. Ukuba awunjalo, ngoko uvakalelwa kukuba unetyala. Ukuba, kwimeko yangoku, iphoso lakho likhoyo, akuyi kuba yinto enqwenelekayo ukuzithembisa ukuba esikhathini esizayo uza kuqikelela xa ubalwa izenzo zakho. Zi thembisa ukuba oku akuyi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona, kodwa vumela ingxaki ihambe.
- Ekubuntwaneni safundiswa indlela yokujamelana neemvakalelo zetyala, ekukhuleni le ndlela isebenza. Simele sicele ngokunyanisekileyo ukuxolelwa kumntu obengaphambi kokuba uzive unetyala. Ukuba akukho ndlela yokumxelela yona ngokwayo, ke yicinge nje ngomfanekiso walowo mntu okanye uvakalise ukuzisola kwakho kwesithombe. Abantu abanqulo bancedwa ngokutyelela icawa, ukuvuma, ukuthandazela umntu okhubekileyo.
- Ngubani ongathandi abantu abasondeleyo kusinceda sibhekane neengxaki? Kwimeko yecala lolwaphulo-mthetho, uncedo lwabo aluyi kuba lukhulu. Xoxa nomntu othembela kuye, imeko evelele, iphelele ngokupheleleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha asikho mfuneko yokuxolelwa, kodwa nje ithuba lokuxelela abanye ngamava ethu.
- Indlela efanelekileyo yokukrazula iimvakalelo zecala kukuchaza yonke into ephazamisayo, kwisiqwenga samaphepha. Emva kokubhaliweyo kufuneka kufundwe kwakhona, uze utshise iqabunga okanye uliqhekeze zibe ziincinci kwaye uzilahle.
- Ukuba uzame zonke iindlela, kodwa ityala alicingi ukuba libuyele, ngoko kufuneka ucele uncedo oluvela kwingcali. Ingcali yengqondo iza kukunceda ukuyicombulula le ngxaki.