Indlela yePari

Umzali ngamnye unemizwa eyahlukileyo kumntwana wakhe. Omnye ovela kumama ubonisa izinga eliphezulu lokungazinzi ngokomzwelo, ukuthukuthela, ukukhawuleza, kunye nomntu ngemini, umphefumlo awuthandi kumntwana wakhe. Indlela yePari yenziwe ngabantu base-American psychologists ngenjongo yokufunda ubudlelwane babazali (ikakhulukazi oomama) kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bentsapho (iindima zabo zentsapho).

Uvavanyo lwePari lubalasele iinkalo eziphathelele kwimicimbi eyahlukeneyo yobomi kwintsapho, kunye nabazali kumntwana. Iimpawu ezi sixhenxe zilandelayo zichaza ubuhlobo bomama kwindoda yakhe yosapho:

1. Ukungabi namandla okuzimela.
2. Izinto ezingenakubalwa kwisiseko sentsapho.
3. Iimbambano ezibonwe kwintsapho.
4. Ukulawula kwayo.
5. Ukuzidela kumama kanina.
6. Ukungabandakanywa komyeni wakhe kwimicimbi yentsapho.
7. Ukunganeliseki kwendima yomncedisi ekhaya.

Iimpawu ezidweliswe zilandelwa ngoncedo lweengxelo ezichanekileyo ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga umxholo kunye nokulinganisa.

Uvavanyo lwePari, oluphando lwabazali-abantwana, olubandakanya iingxelo ezingama-40 ezilandelelanayo. Esi sifundo sifanele siphendule kubo ngesimo sokuvuma okanye ukuphika kwemvume.

Umgwebo ngamnye uhambelana nezi mpendulo zilandelayo:

1. A - uyavuma ngokupheleleyo.
2. B - abaninzi bayavuma.
3. Andivumelani ngokuqinisekileyo, ndingavumelani.
4. D - ayivumelani ngokupheleleyo.

Emva koko, kufuneka uphendule le mibuzo elandelayo:

1. Ukuba abantwana bajonga ukuba izimvo zabo zichanekile, abanokungavumelani nemibono yabazali babo.
2. Umama omhle kufuneka akhusele abantwana bakhe, kwaneengxaki ezincinane kunye nezikhalazo.
3. Kuba umama onobuhle, ikhaya kunye nosapho zizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ebomini.
4. Abanye abantwana babi kakhulu kangangokuba bayavuya kwaye bazintle ukuba bafundise ukwesaba abantu abadala.
5. Abantwana bafanele baqaphele ukuba abazali benza okuninzi kubo.
6. Umntwana omncinci kufuneka ahlale ebambelele ngezandla ngelixa ehlamba, ukwenzela ukuba awele.
7. Abantu abacinga ukuba kwintsapho elungileyo apho abanakho ukungaqondi, abazi ubomi.
8. Umntwana, xa ekhula, uya kubabulela abazali bakhe ngokukhulisiswa kwakhe.
9. Ukuhlala nomntwana yonke imini kunokukhokelela ekudeni.
10. Kungcono ukuba umntwana engacingi ukuba ngaba ngabazali bakhe bachanekile.
11. Abazali bafanele bafundise abantwana ngokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo.
12. Umntwana kufuneka afundiswe ukuphepha ukulwa, kungakhathaliseki iimeko.
13. Into embi kunomama owenza umsebenzi wendlu yoluvo kukuba akulula ukuba aphelise imisebenzi yakhe.
14. Kulula kubazali ukuba bazivumelanise nabantwana kunoko-vice.
15. Umntwana kufuneka afunde izinto ezininzi eziyimfuneko ebomini, ngoko ke akafanele avunyelwe ukulahlekelwa ixesha elixabisekileyo.
16. Ukuba uvumelene nento yokuba umntwana uhlwempuzekile, uya kwenza njalo.
17. Ukuba oobawo abazange baphazamise ukukhuliswa kwabantwana, oomama babeya kulungelelanisa nabantwana.
18. Ngaphambi kobantwana, akukho mfuneko yokuthetha ngeengxaki zesini.
19. Ukuba unina akazange asebenze indlu, umyeni wakhe kunye nabantwana, yonke into ayilungelelaniswa.
20. Umama kufuneka enze konke ukuze azi oko abantwana bacinga ngako.
21. Ukuba abazali babenomdla kwimicimbi yabantwana babo, abantwana babeya kuba bhetele kwaye banandipha.
22. Ininzi abantwana kufuneka bakwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomzimba ngokwazo kwiinyanga ezili-15 ukuya phambili.
23. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kumama omncinci kukuba uhlale yedwa kwiminyaka yokuqala yokukhulisa umntwana.
24. Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba bavakalise uluvo lwabo ngobomi kunye nentsapho, nangona bakholelwa ukuba ubomi bentsapho bubi.
25. Umama kufuneka enze konke ukukhusela umntwana wakhe ekudumeni ukuba ubomi buzisa.
26. Abasetyhini abakhokelela ubomi obungenasiphako abayena oomama abalungileyo.
27. Kubalulekile ukuphelisa ukubonakaliswa kobubi obuzalwe kubantwana.
28. Unina umele azincama ngenxa yolonwabo lomntwana.
29. Bonke oomama abancinci banesaba ukungakwazi kwabo ukusebenzisana nomntwana.
30. Amaqabane kufuneka afunge ngezihlandlo ukubonisa amalungelo abo.
31. Uqeqesho oluqinileyo ngokumalunga nomntwana luba ngumntu onamandla kulo.
32. Oomama bahlala behlushwa ngenxa yobomi babo babantwana abavakalelwa ngathi abanako ukuhamba nabo ngomzuzu omnye.
33. Abazali akufanele babonwe phambi kwabantwana ngokukhanya okubi.
34. Umntwana kufuneka ahloniphe abazali bakhe ngaphezu kwabanye.
35. Umntwana kufuneka ahlale efuna uncedo kubazali okanye ootitshala, endaweni yokuxazulula ukungaboni kakuhle kwakhe kwimfazwe.
36. Ukuhlala rhoqo nabantwana kuqinisekisa umama ukuba amathuba akhe emfundo angaphantsi kwamakhono kunye nekhono (unako, kodwa ...).
37. Abazali kufuneka banakekele abantwana ngezenzo zabo.
38. Abantwana abangazami isandla sabo ekufezeni impumelelo, bafanele bazi ukuba kamva ebomini banokuhlangabezana neengxaki.
39. Abazali abathetha nomntwana ngeengxaki zakhe, bafanele bazi ukuba kungcono ukuba umntwana ahambe yodwa kwaye angazicaluli kwimicimbi yakhe.
40. Amadoda, ukuba afune ukuzingca, kufuneka athathe inxaxheba ebomini bentsapho.

Ukutolika, njengendlela yePari ngokwayo, akuyona into enzima. Umntu odliwano-ndlebe naye uzinikela ngamaphuzu (A - 4 amanqaku, B - 3, B - 2, G - 1).

Amanqaku amanqaku ayabalwa. Imali efunyenweyo ibonisa ubunzima beendlela ezifundwayo.

• I-20 yona mkhulu wesiganeko;
• 5 - ubuncinci;
• 18-20 aphezulu amanqaku;
• 5-8 - ephantsi.