Wonke umntu ebomini bakhe wayesaba kwaye uyazi kakuhle indlela le nto ekhuselayo ngayo inokuthintela ukucinga ngokucwangcisekileyo ngexesha lomngcipheko kwaye uthathe izigqibo ezifanelekileyo eziyimfuneko kwiimeko ezinzima, ngokukhawuleza kunye ngexesha elifanayo. Ngokwemvelo, uloyiko lusetyenziswe ukusikhusela kwiisongelo ezahlukahlukeneyo, kodwa kukho amaxesha apho kubalulekile ukunqoba khona kwaye ngoko sonke sifanele sibe neendlela ezithile zengqondo kunye nolwazi oluthile ukwenzela ukuba siqonde indlela yokubulala ngokwazo ukwesaba, okubizwa ngokuba "ngexesha lokuthula" .
Ukulwa neNyoka
Zininzi iindlela zokunceda ukujongana nale "njoka", ukusuka ekucamngeni nasekulawuleni umoya, kwiindlela ezigqithiseleyo zokubangela ukuba umntu angene ngokuzenzekelayo kwindawo engqongileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba usengozini yangempela. Oku kudla ngokuqhelekileyo kusetyenziswa ekuqeqesheni abasebenzi kunye nabasebenzi bokuthotyelwa komthetho.
Kodwa, kunjalo, kukho nento ebizwa ngokuba yindlela ecacileyo, evumela ukuqonda indlela yokubulala uloyiko, ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lomngcipheko. Okokuqala kukho konke kufuneka ucime ingqondo. Kucacile ukuba ukwenza oku xa unesifungo esibanda phezu kwesikhumba kwaye intliziyo yakho iyancipha njengokungathi ugijime umqhudelwano kunzima kakhulu. Into yokuqala yokwenza ukuguqula ingqalelo yakho. Zama ukugxila kwingcaciso ethile encinane, umzekelo ngokuqhekeka eludongeni okanye kwipatheni yekhati lakho. Umzuzwana wemizuzwana ucinga nje ngomfanekiso nombala we "into" oyikhethile. Cinga ngeenkcukacha. Uya kumangaliswa, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo isebenza, ngoko xa ubuyela "kwimizuzu embalwa", uzakufumana ukuba unako ukuvavanya imeko.
Enye indlela yokukhubaza ukuziva ukwesaba kukungabonakali. Khawucinge ukuba ukhangele yonke into evela phezulu okanye ngaphandle, kwaye umntu ofa ngoku ngokukrakra akusiwe, kodwa omnye umntu uhlala okwesikhashana emzimbeni wakho. Wena, ekubeni ukhuseleko olupheleleyo kwifom ekhutshiwe, unokukhangela oko kwenzekayo ngoxolo lwaseBuddha uze ubone indlela yokuphuma kwimeko yangoku. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqonde oko kufuneka kwenziwe, "buyela emzimbeni" kwaye uthathe iinqongo zikaRhulumente ezandleni zakho. Ukuphelisa ukwesaba akunakunzima kakhulu, kufuneka ukhangele amehlo akhe. Emva koko, ingqondo iyabanda, i-pulse iyinto evamile, kwaye iingcamango zicacile.
Kunokulwa?
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba uloyiko lunikela nangona kungekho nengozi? Indlela yokuphelisa ukwesaba okugqithisileyo kwingqondo yengxelo ebhalwe ngokupheleleyo. Kwizigaba zokuqala, ukuba i- phobia ingazange iqhube ibe yi-paranoia ye-neurotic, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukwazi ukujamelana nale ntlekele yedwa. Zama ukuphazamisa ukwesaba kwakho "izikrini kunye nezikrini." Kwaye akunandaba nokuba ngaba ukwesaba ukugwina, okanye malunga nendlela ama-hooligans angakulala ngayo kuyo yonke ikona. Phendula umbuzo: yintoni na oyikisayo? Inene yintoni ingozi? Yintoni onokuyichasa kuyo? Ukuba unikwe ukukhethwa kwezixhobo zokuzikhusela, ungakhetha ntoni? Nokuhlaselwa? Kukuphi imeko yomzimba kulunge ukuyisebenzisa? Skrolela entloko intetho ekhethekileyo ye "imfazwe." Uyabona, sele usuqwalasele isicwangciso sokuhlasela, kwaye sele usuphendukele ubuso obutsha "kwaye" ukwesaba kuhamba ngokukhawuleza, kukunika iingcamango ezakhayo. Ngokukhawuleza uza kubona ukuba ingozi mhlawumbi ingumngcwabo kwaye nangona ithe ikhula ibe yingozi yongxaki, uya kulungelelanisa ukuba uya kuhlangabezana nazo zonke "izilo" ngaphandle kokubetha ijwabu leso.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuyicombulula ingxaki yakho, xha ga mshelana neengcali ezifanelekileyo kwaye uya kukhetha indlela yakho eya kukunceda ukuba uqonde indlela yokulahla ukwesaba kwangaphakathi. Iziphumo ezilungileyo ziziswa yi-hypnotherapy, kwaye kwezinye iimeko zisebenza
Ingqondo yeendlela zokukrazula ukwesaba iphezulu. Kwaye kunokunceda, kodwa kuphela xa ufuna kwaye wenze isinyathelo sokuqala. Ukongeza, njengoko bethetha, umcimbi wetheknoloji kwaye emva kwexeshana uloyiko lwakho luya kuyika ukwesaba.