Umntu uhluke njani kwizilwanyana: ukuhamba emilenzeni emibini, ukucinga okungakumbi okanye ukukwazi ukufumana iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zomzwelo? Akunakwenzeka ukuba impendulo yalo mbuzo ingabonakali, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo iyaziwa ukuba ngaphandle kwamava omzwelo, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu omnye aphile - avuyiswe kwaye akabi kakhulu, bahlala begibela nganye kwinkqubo yobomi. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba kukho imvakalelo eninzi, indlela yokuphila ngaphandle kwemizwa engadingekile?
Yiyiphi i-psychochic experience?
Amava engqondo yinto eqondwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwimeko esuka kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo, elihamba neempendulo zengqondo. Kwakhona, i-psychology idibanisa amava ngamaqela amabini-ukuhamba kweengcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nesiganeko kunye namava okujoliswe ekuhlaziyweni kwehlabathi leengqondo ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukubambisana phakathi kwehlabathi langaphakathi kunye nenyaniso.
Ubungqina bokuba amava angaphakathi kukuba aqaliswe ngabantu abathandekayo kuwo, abanye bengazi ukuba njani kwaye akuboni ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuchitha ixesha ngexesha lokungcola kweengxaki ezingenasidingo, ukuze kubangele ukuba abantu abanjalo bangabikho kwemali, kunokunye okufuneka kwenziwe ngaphandle kokucinga ngexesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo. Enye into ebangel 'umdla yamava omzimba kukuzimela kwabo kubuntu. Okokuthi, umntu oqala ukucinga ngesiganeko, uqala indlela, kunye nemifanekiso enomdla iqala ukuhlala ubomi babo.
Amava okuphila achaphazela njani umntu?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, phantsi kweengcamango zengqondo, sichaza nje ukuphazamiseka, kodwa oku akunjalo, uvuyo lunokuvuyisa kwaye, ukuba ucinga ukuba, ukugqibela ebomini bethu kuninzi. Kodwa oko kunomdla - kungakhathaliseki ukuba umbala weemvakalelo wamava obuqu kunokusichaphazela ngendlela engcono, amandla okhathazekayo asetshenziselwa uvuyo olukhulu kunye nantlungu. Khumbula ukuba ukhathele kangakanani kwaye ukhathele uzive emva kokutshatyalaliswa kwesinye. Kwaye amava anamandla angapheliyo angathintela kakhulu ingqondo kwaye adala ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba.
Indlela yokuphila ngaphandle kwemvakalelo engeyomfuneko?
Njengoko kuchaziwe ngasentla, amava enamava ayingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi babantu, kodwa ubuninzi babo bubuhlungu nje. Ngoko unokuzikhusela njani kwintlalo engadingekile?
Okokuqala, kufuneka ufunde ukwahlula phakathi kwamava okwezemvelo kunye nalawo angabikho. Ngokomzekelo, unomdla wokuba umntwana uhamba ixesha elide - oku kusemvelo, kodwa ezi ngcamango ezilandelayo malunga naluphi na iingxaki ezinokumlinda zona sele zikhona amava amanga angenaso isiseko santoni na ngaphandle koyiko lwakho. Kubalulekile ukulahla ezo nkxalabo, ungazivumeli ukuba zibambe ukuqonda kwakho. Kukho iindlela ezininzi.
- Ukuba iingcinga ezingathandekiyo zihamba entloko yakho, ungazami ukuzigxotha, ngokuchaseneyo zivumele ukuba uzive. Ukwenza oku, hlala kwindawo ekhululekile, ukhulule kwaye ubukele iimvakalelo zakho ezivela ngaphandle, ungamelana nemifanekiso ekhulayo, iimvakalelo zomzimba. Kubalulekile ukuba ungahlaziyi nantoni na apha kule mzuzwana, nje unqotshwa kwiimvakalelo. Ukuva amava akho ekupheleni, uya kubagxotha.
- Xa siziva sibi, siyafuna induduzo kubahlobo kunye nosapho. Kwaye oku kuyinyani, ngamanye amaxesha ukulahla amava, kufuneka uxelele umntu ngalo.
- Ukuba amava akho anxulumene nengqiqo yokuzithemba, ngoko indlela yokudlala indima inokukunceda. Kufuneka ukhethe umzekelo kwaye ucinge ngendlela aziphatha ngayo kule nto okanye kuloo meko, kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo.
- Maxa wambi amava aya kwixesha elizayo, uhlala uxhalabile "malunga nokuba kwenzekani ukuba ...". Kwaye oku kungabinxuwa kunye novuyo olungonwabiyo, ekugqibeleni
kukho kubonakala kungekho nto ephosakeleyo ngayo, kodwa ukuba bahlala belawulwa nguwe, ubeka ingozi ekuhlala kuyo kumaphupha akho, kodwa awunaso ixesha lokukwenza nantoni na. Ngoko ke iingcamango eziphosakeleyo zaluphi na uhlobo kufuneka zinqunywe, unokwenza oku ngale ndlela. Khawucinge ukuba kwenzeka ntoni na okuphazamisayo. Yintoni eya kwenzeka kuwe ngoko, ngaba uya kuba novuyo okanye uyathukuthela? Ingakanani oku kuya kutshintshwa ngokubakho ubomi bakho? Kwiimeko ezininzi kuvela ukuba zonke iinkxalabo zakho azifanelekanga kwisinye seesisensi zesisindo.
Ukufuna ukubalekela iimvakalelo ezingadingekile, qaphela ukuba ungakhathazeki. Ukuthula koBuddha kukugcina ukucaca kwengqondo nayiphi na imeko, kwaye ungagqibeleli ukungabinandaba nokuphila.