Unokuthetha ngothando ngonaphakade. Ababongi abakhulu, abalobi, abaculi, abaculi kunye neemvumi baphefumulelwe yile mvakalelo xa beyidala. Amaqhawe namajoni aye ekulweni negama lomthandayo emlonyeni. Kwaye, nangona singenakukuthintela, sibone okanye sive uthando, lo mvakalelo uyaziqhelanisa wonke umntu, kwaye ngokoqobo ukususela ebusaneni.
Uluphi amandla othando?
Wonke umntu uphendula umbuzo, yintoni amandla othando, ngendlela yawo. Owesifazane obuthathakayo uya kufuna umnqweno wakhe ukuba abe ngodonga lwamatye ngenxa yakhe - kule nto uya kulukhupha amandla akhe. Umntu oye wangcatshwa kaninzi uya kufuna ukuzithemba kumlingane wakhe kwaye uya kuqwalasela ukuba isinamathiselo kumlingane uqinile ngokunyaniseka nokuzinikela. Ngomfana osemkhulu, le nkcazo iya kuba kukulungele ukulwa nesibindi. Umculi uza kukhupha le mvakalelo ukudala umfanekiso omhle.
Iyintoni amandla okuthanda amadoda namabhinqa?
Ummeli wesifazane uzinikela kumntu, amphakamise kumgangatho ophakamileyo, ugqugquzele iqabane lakhe ebomini ukufezekisa-lo luhlobo lomthando wesetyhini. Ngenxa yokuthandwa kwakhe, intombazana ethandwayo inokuphilisa umntu ogulayo, ukuphakamisa umoya owileyo, unike intanda yakhe intembelo yokuba uyona mhle kwaye uyamangalisa kwihlabathi lonke.
Amandla Othando Lwabazali
Ngaloo ndlela uqobo lwenkqubela ukukhusela inzala yabo, ukukhusela, ukukhulisisa nokuyikhusela kwaye yindlela yamandla engathandabuzekiyo kumama kumntwana. Ukuba kwisilwanyana esinjalo isifiso sembewu sihlala kwinqanaba lezandla, indoda, ekukhuleni kwayo, yakhulisa uthando lomntwana kumntwana kuye kwinqanaba eliphantse liphezulu:
- Ukuqhotyoshela umama kumntwana kufinyelele kwixabiso elingenakucingeka, unokuzidela ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba alondoloze ubomi bomntwana, le ngqiqo engcwele, njengento yokukhusela, ikhusela kulo lonke uhambo lokuphila.
- Ukuxhomekeka kwesi sipho esingabalulekanga ngesinye sezizathu, abantwana banokudinga uncedo lwengqondo ixesha elide, kuba kungenakwenzeka ukutshintsha iimvakalelo zikaMama, umntwana ujwayele ukusukela ebuntwaneni, engaboni ngokwenene, sele evakalelwa ukuvumba komthonyama, izandi zomama ilizwi, uziva unyanzelekile ngezandla zomama. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu omncinci usetyenziselwa into yokuba iindawo ezintle apho zihle, zicolile kwaye zikhululekile apho kukho unina oya kuhlala ekhusela, enondla, efudumeleyo kwaye ezolile.
Amandla othando yongqondo
Umntwana ongazange ahlukaniswe nesifuba sokubeletha kuqala udibana neemvakalelo ezinamandla kakhulu ukuba umntu unako kuphela - ukulamba nothando, "watsho uSigmund Freud ngothando. Ngokuqhelekileyo, wafanisa imvakalelo yothando kunye nomnye umboniso wesondo, nangona echaze ukuba ukuziphatha ngokwesini akuyena inkqubo yokusebenzisana kwezitho zangasese. Uyise we-psychoanalysis wadibanisa abalandeli bakhe ngokuthandana neemvakalelo, ngokukhawuleza nje.
Isazi sengqondo se-Austrian sisigxina kakhulu kwaye sichaza ngokucacileyo ukuba iinjongo zesondo - njengoko wayeziqonda ngokubhekiselele kwingcamango yakhe ye-psychoanalysis - kugqiba ubomi bomntu, iinjongo zezenzo zakhe kunye nesiphelo sakhe sonke. Ngelo xesha, wathi uvuyo alukwazi ukuhlala luyanelisa iimfuno zomntu, akukho, luyakwazi ukufunyanwa ekuhluphekeni.
Enyanisweni, ukuthambekela ngokusuka entliziyweni, okupheleleyo kwemizwa ephazamisayo, eyabangela iibongozi ukuba zenze izinto ezibonakalayo, njengaleta ye-A.S. Pushkin ku-Anna Kern. Ukubandezeleka komnqweno ongathandekiyo kunokuba ngumntu onamandla onokubangela abantu ababuqilima kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha bona bavame ukuvakalelwa uthando olungabonakaliyo lokutyelelwa ngu-museum.
Freud malunga nothando
Ngendlela yakhe, uSigmund Freud waphendula kwintsimi yakhe ngamandla omntu. Iimvakalelo zesondo, "iimidlalo ze-hormone" kunye nezinye izenzo zenyama, ngokudlukisayo, akukho nto enxulumene nokuziphatha ngokwesini, kwaye phantsi kwalo nkcazo, ngokucacileyo, isazi sengqondo se-Austrian sasizicingile ngokucacileyo amandla okufumana amava. Impumelelo yokuthuluba kwengcamango ye-psychoanalysis isebenza njengesiqinisekiso sokuthi amandla oku kuvakalelwa kukuba ayinakunyulwa phantsi, kwaye lo mvakalelo uqobo luhamba phambili kuzo zonke iintlobo zobomi bomntu, ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya ekugugeni.
Uluphi amandla othando olulinganiselwe kuyo?
Silinganisa i-amperemeter yangoku, i-voltage - i-voltmeter, kodwa indlela yokuchonga amandla othando? Enyanisweni, ukuba uthando lunamandla, luyomelele kwaye maxa wambi luvakalelwa kukuba, ngaba lufanele lube neyunithi yokulinganisa? Kwiminyaka emininzi neminyaka, kufuneka ukuba abantu bafunde indlela yokulinganisa le mvakalelo. Kuya kuba kuhle ukuba kukho isixhobo esinokuqhotyoshelwa kumntu kwaye sibone ukuba uyakuthanda okanye cha, kunye naluphi ubungakanani.
Isixhobo esinjalo asikho kwaye asikwazi kuba, kuba iimvakalelo neemvakalelo zomntu - into engaqinisekanga kakhulu, kwaye isibonakaliso samandla othando lomthando singatshintsha ngexesha elingengaloo minyaka, kodwa kunye neenyanga, ngamanye amaxesha. Umntu ngamanye amaxesha akakwazi ukuthetha nokuba uthanda omnye okanye cha, kwaye akukho mbuzo wokuzama ukulinganisa amandla aloo mvakalelo. Ngaba kuhle okanye kubi? Mhlawumbi, konke okufanayo, kuba ukungafani rhoqo kwesalathisi samandla othando kwisixhobo kuya kuba sisihlandlo sokudumala okukhulu ngabantu abaninzi.
Indlela yokufumana amandla othando?
Akubona wonke umntu ehlabathini onako ukufumana amava okuthanda. Kukho nesifo apho umntu akanakukuthanda khona nabani na-akukho-hypopituitarism. Ukufumana amandla othando kunokwenzeka ngeendlela ezininzi. Oogqirha banika unyango lwe-hormone, oogqirha bokomoya bathi unokuvumela le ntliziyo entliziyweni yakho ukuba uqaphela ukusebenzisana kwakho ngokuvisisana noMvelo, ukwamkela kwaye ungayinqabeli yonke into ekhoyo emhlabeni. Kukho iindlela ezininzi ezikuvumela ukuba uzive umanyano nento yonke ehlabathini, kwaye unakho ukuvumela entliziyweni yothando olungenammiselo omnye nomntu kuphela.
Ngokuqinisekileyo wonk 'ubani unememori yeemvakalelo zokuqala ezisentliziyweni kwaye zikhukula umkhukula, zitshitshisa zonke izitrato zangaphambili endleleni yazo, zithintela ingqinamba engqongileyo kumntu oyedwa, kodwa ukwandisa intloko yangaphakathi yalo mntu ngobukhulu bendalo yonke. Sinobuchule bokuthandana kwintsana, kwaye ngoko, njengoko sikhula, amandla kunye nezinto zokusebenza ziyahluka kwaye zitshintshe.
Amandla Ophilisa Othando
Ukuphulukisa ngesisa, ukuzinikela, uthando-oku kuwona wonke amandla anqobayo othando, kwaye kulo mzekelo inzululwazi iyasisiza. Kwimvavanyo yabo, izazinzulu ziye zabonisa ukuba iinkazana ezincinci, ezingenalo ukufudumala komama, zikhula ngakumbi kwaye zihlala zigula ngaphezu kwezi nkwenkwe ezingazange zahlukana nomzali. Ngomsebenzi ka-Aksakov "Ubuntwaneni beBagrov iGranson", kukho umzekelo onobuhlungu wokuphulukiswa ngumama wengane yakhe yokugula engenakho ithemba. Wayemxinzelela esifubeni sakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo "waphefumulela amandla okuphila kuye," ngokubhekiselele kumbhali, ngenxa yenkwenkwe yahlala kuyo.
Amandla atshabalalayo othando
Ubungenako ukuphilisa kuphela, kodwa nokutshabalalisa, ukuphela kobukho - kwaye oku kunjalo namandla amakhulu othando. Uthando olunomsindo lungonakalisa ubuntu bomntu, ukuba, ngokomzekelo, unobungozi obungathandabuzekiyo uthando ixesha elide. Umphefumlo oye waba nefuthe elinjalo kufuneka utshise, ngokutsho komlobi uCharlotte Bronte. Ngamandla okutshatyalaliswa okutshatyalaliswayo okubangela abaninzi abantu abaselula ukuba bazibulale.
Ngaloo ndlela, uthando luya kuba yingozi kwaye luchukumise umntu ukuba avumele ukutshabalalisa. Kwiimeko zolu hlobo, kukho uncedo olulodwa oluvela kwizengqondo zengqondo kunye neendlela ezininzi eziqhelekileyo ezenziwa ngu-Ovid ekuphatheni kwakhe "unyango loLuthando" kwaye kufuneka ukuba avunyelwe ukuba umsebenzi wakhe awuzange ulahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwawo ukufikelela kwixesha lethu. Wanikela iindlela zokubuyiselwa kwiimvakalelo ezingathembekanga ezilula:
- sebenzi;
- ixesha;
- umgama;
- ukunxibelelana nabathandekayo.
Amandla othando ngama-Orthodoxy
IOthodoxi isitshela ukuba amandla othando kaThixo. Ukususela kumbono wabakholwayo, uThixo uluthando, kwaye ukhona ngokungenammiselo nangenamkhawulo, ekusasazeni, inceba yakhe engaqondakaliyo, amandla akhe aphezulu phezu kwayo yonke into ephilayo. Uthando luvumela yonke into eyenziwe nguThixo ukuba ibe khona kuzo zonke iifom kunye nembonakaliso, kuba yanika umntu inkululeko yokuthanda.