Ngoko, omnye umntwana uqala ukunyuka kwiinyanga ezi-7, enye-ye-9, kwaye okwesithathu ngokuqhelekileyo uyaphuthelwa kweli nqanaba kwaye ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuhamba.
Abazali abaninzi kakhulu bazama ukunceda umntwana wabo ngandlela-thile, ngokukhawuleza bamfundise izakhono ezisisiseko. Kodwa akubona bonke baqwalasele ingongoma enye ebalulekileyo - ukufundisa umntwana omncinci into engenakwenzeka, ngakumbi ukuba akayilungiselele ngokwenyama. Makhe siqwalasele lo mbandela kumzekelo wokuba ungabeka umntwana, nokuba yinkwenkwe.
Unokuqala nini ukubeka abafana?
Ngoko, isibonakaliso esincinci umntwana angakwazi ukuhlala kuso ukulungele oku kusemthonjeni. Umntwana ongenakunyamekela ngokungaqinisekanga umthwalo ongenakunzima, ngoko ke abantwana, abasandul 'ukutsalwa, badla ngokukhawuleza bakhathele, musa ukugcina ibhalansi yabo baze bawele phambili. Ukuba ufuna ukuba iimvumba zakho ziqhubeke zingenazo iingxaki kumqolo wakho, musa ukwenza oku ngokunyanzela ukunika isikhundla esicacileyo - akukabi ukulungele.
Isibonakaliso sokulungela siya kuba ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe uya kuqala ukuphakama kwisimo esifanelekileyo. Kodwa oku akusekho uphawu lokuba umntwana kufuneka ahlale, ebeka imithwalo phantsi komqolo wakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, inkunzi imane iqeqesha imisipha emva, kwaye xa iyakwazi ukumkela kwaye ibambe isikhundla esiphambili ixesha elide, iya kuhlala yedwa. Oku kuya kwenzeka ezinyangeni ezi-5, kwaye ngo-7, nangemva koko.
Njengoko kuchazwe ngasentla, oonyana bezilwanyana abacebisi abantwana abahlengikazi ngaphambili kunokuba bamiselwe ngokwemvelo. Kodwa ezininzi iintsana ezinyangeni ezine-4 ukuya ku-5 azifuni ukulala emgceni wabo: zithandeka, zikhwaza, ziguqa kwaye zizama ngazo zonke iindlela ukuvumela abazali bazo ukuba baqonde ukuba abakucingi ukuba bakhangele oko kwenzekayo.
Kule meko, unako ukunika umntwana "isiqingatha sokuhlala", ukubeka umlotha omkhulu phantsi komva okanye ukumbeka kwixesha elide labantwana. Kwakhona, ezinye izihlalo zabakhubazekile zinendawo yokubuyisela emuva, ekulungele ukuhamba nabantwana balo nyaka. Ngokuphathelele umahluko phakathi kokuba kunokwenzeka ukubeka abafana kunye namantombazana, imeko apha ilandelayo. Iingqungquthela, ukungafani kwisakhiwo somgudu kubantwana besini esahlukileyo asikho, oko kuthetha ukuba le mi miselo nemithetho yabo iyafana.
Kukho uluvo lokuba amantombazana akakwazi ukufakwa ngaphambi kweenyanga ezili-6, njengoko oku kubangelwa ukuguqulwa kwesibeleko kunye nokubonakala kweengxaki zobunzima kwixesha elizayo. Nangona kunjalo, eqinisweni le nyaniso ayibonakaliswa yenzululwazi kwaye ininzi inkolelo kunokuba inyaniso. Kwaye nangakumbi oko akuthethi ukuba iintsana zamakhwenkwe zivunyelwe ukuba zifakwe phambi kwexesha elimiselweyo kwiinyanga ezintandathu.
Abaninzi banomdla xa kunokwenzeka ukubeka abafana "kwimithwalo". Ngaloo ndlela oomama nabakhulukazi, abantwana base-obkladyvaya abangakwaziyo ukuhlala, emacaleni onke emithonjeni emikhulu.
Ukuxazulula umbuzo wokuba unako ukutshala umntwana umntwana, gxininisa ngokulungelelanisa kwakhe ngokomzimba, kulo mzekelo umntu makangaphambuki naphi na. Kuya kuba yinyani iinyanga ezimbalwa, kwaye umncinci wakho uya kufunda ngokufanelekileyo ukuba ahlale yedwa, kungekho ncediso kunye noluncedo kubantu abadala.